latefragment Posted February 28, 2005 Share Posted February 28, 2005 I'm trying really hard to make it through this period but I just feel like everything is falling apart - does anyone else feel this way? Thank you all for listening to me ... I feel like I can't talk to anyone about this so I just wanted to send this message to the Internet... My bf just went out of the country, thousands of miles away, for an indeterminate amount of time (I have no idea when he'll be back) shortly after we celebrated our 1-year anniversary... I thought I would be able to deal with it OK because I was already having a crush on this guy at work ... and I knew the work guy liked me too (because he actually asked me out twice) ... But now I'm getting hit with a double whammy of feeling like I've been dumped twice, and the pain is close to unbearable, I am just now feeling the brunt of it... The bf is dating this new girl and they are spending every night together, which just makes me feel so sick to my stomach to think about it. The new guy that I've had a crush on at work doesn't like me anymore - we had a big blowup a month ago (my fault, I started the fight) and I don't blame him for not liking me after that, I was really mean to him and said some pretty horrible things to him during the fight. He just wants to be friends... I know this is stupid, but I feel like I've been dumped twice *at the same time* and it really, really, really hurts... The worst part is I sent the bf off at the airport feeling pretty good about everything, thinking that he would be the one crawling back ... and now I'm the one calling him, crying about the fact that he's seeing someone new... and now I'm the one doing anything to get the guy at work to give me a second chance... I feel like my heart is bleeding inside, thanks to all for listening, I just had to get this off my chest... Thank you ... peace everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted February 28, 2005 Share Posted February 28, 2005 Hey LF, You seem to be a brave lady and i know you would deal with this quite effectively.This is not going to be forever it is sometimes that you go through bad phase in life and feel low and everything seems going wrong.But like good times dont last forever the bad times also dont last forever. Time will change just allow the present time to pass.Devote this time to yourself,try to do those things which you like but wasnot able to do before.Involve yourself in hobbies and learn new things.Its not that you would be alone forever and this guy adn your bf were the only person,there are lot of good ppl out there and you would get your true love one day. you are not alone and all of us are going through with this bad phase in life so we understand each other better and we all know that good times will come and we all will be happy. Till then keep walking... Take Care, Link to post Share on other sites
Author latefragment Posted March 2, 2005 Author Share Posted March 2, 2005 Greenhorn, It made me cry to read your post. Thanks so much for your support. Getting through each day is a challenge. But I know I can make it, take it one day at a time, walk one step further each day. I know I have the strength to make it through this and bring happiness into my life. It is impossible not to be thankful for what we have, I just need to wait out the pain and try to make the best of things. Sometimes I feel so alone, and now is one of those times. In fact, it is compounded by the fact that one of my closest friends and I have also had a bit of a falling out of sorts, but I know that there will be good times again with her too. Thanks again for your support. Are you going through something similar with an ex right now? Link to post Share on other sites
aarsky Posted March 2, 2005 Share Posted March 2, 2005 late fragment, I dont understand really what you're saying. You're upset that your b/f went away or that the guy at work doesnt like you anymore. did you really love your b/f at all in the first place, if after you say he went away for a long time, you already have a crush on a guy at work? Link to post Share on other sites
almathea Posted March 2, 2005 Share Posted March 2, 2005 Originally posted by latefragment Sometimes I feel so alone, and now is one of those times. In fact, it is compounded by the fact that one of my closest friends and I have also had a bit of a falling out of sorts, but I know that there will be good times again with her too. When I got my heart recently broken and trampled it felt like everything else around me was crumbling also. Try to focus on the postive things I know that is a cliche' but it helps. I made some new freinds during my crisis and they really helped me through it. I got involved in a community band it was the best thing I ever did. I would encourage you to do as greenhorn suggested and try new activities. Keep your chin up. Keep reading and posting here this is the best place to heal and purge the pain. Link to post Share on other sites
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