secretvegeta Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Hi, I met a girl over a year ago at grad school. We became good friends , but I started growing a crush on her and now I really really like her. But she has a boyfriend (who studies in another state) and she has been in the relationship for 2-3 years now. That's why I haven't told her anything about my feelings. She is not from my major, so we don't meet in class; but we do bump into each other at social events and sometimes we chat on fone or text. I enjoy talking to her, but I get really upset after the interaction. I feel really bad that I have no chance with her and I lose my concentration after I meet her. But I am not a very social person and she is one of the only friends I have got. So I don't feel like losing her completely. I tried working harder at school just to keep my mind off her but it only reminds me of her more. What should I do? Will completely cutting contact with her help me get over my crush? Or will it make matters worse? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 I suppose that long-term it might make things better. You may not be likely to forget her if you are seeing her all the time. OTOH, cutting her out of your life completely might create new problems if you don't have that many friends. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Cutting contact -- without dropping your entire social circle -- will help you forget her. Finding somebody to date who actually likes you back will help more. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 You need to concentrate on making actual friends for awhile and expand your social circle so everything is not on the line when you need to forget someone. Link to post Share on other sites
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