Rejected Rosebud Posted December 12, 2014 Share Posted December 12, 2014 Alienating people with negativity, how? I only told a couple of people what happened and explained it in a nutshell. What should I do, just lie and put an act on?! Look, I'm sorry but I went back and looked at your threads, you have nothing good to say about anybody or anything, NOTHING, you seem very miserable and the worst part is that according to you it's all everybody else's fault. I honestly don't want to be mean or hurtful but from the posts you don't seem like you would offer much as a friend, seriously they probably don't want to be around. Do you ever think about working on yourself from the inside, it would help you in your life, I know from experience!! How is your relationship with your husband and do you like being a mom? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted December 13, 2014 Author Share Posted December 13, 2014 This is an advice site for relationships, where mostly the breakups section gets used. Not sure what you're expecting? It's not Facebook where people only post happy things. Not sure why I should be happy an Old friend dumped me?! Or you taking my ex friends side despite him hating people who have controlling, decades older, arrogant and rude boyfriends and then dump all their friends for them. And then he does just that. Look, I'm sorry but I went back and looked at your threads, you have nothing good to say about anybody or anything, NOTHING, you seem very miserable and the worst part is that according to you it's all everybody else's fault. I honestly don't want to be mean or hurtful but from the posts you don't seem like you would offer much as a friend, seriously they probably don't want to be around. Do you ever think about working on yourself from the inside, it would help you in your life, I know from experience!! How is your relationship with your husband and do you like being a mom? Link to post Share on other sites
almond Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 He lied because he wasn't putting any effort in anyway. And he had been ostracizing me from the group. His actions are different to his words. If that's the case, then you lied... He says he was fed up with me turning him down all the time. But Its because I was depressed You acknowledged that you were turning him down and offered an excuse for it. You admitted it. Now you're calling him a liar and saying he ostracized you. You keep changing your story. You're completely closed off to advice, and as a result, posting threads on here is pretty much useless. Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 ! Or you taking my ex friends side despite him hating people who have controlling, decades older, arrogant and rude boyfriends and then dump all their friends for them. And then he does just that. I don't even understand what you just said, but aren't you a newlywed with a new baby, don't you have a lot of good things in your life to be thankful for? If you want good friends be a good friend too you know!! Nonstop complaining and blaming aren't qualities people want to be around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted December 13, 2014 Author Share Posted December 13, 2014 He had stopped putting any effort in long ago and ostracizing me. So when he did invite me out once, I didn't think much of it. Plus I was genuinely severely sick through my pregnancy. If that's the case, then you lied... You acknowledged that you were turning him down and offered an excuse for it. You admitted it. Now you're calling him a liar and saying he ostracized you. You keep changing your story. You're completely closed off to advice, and as a result, posting threads on here is pretty much useless. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted December 13, 2014 Author Share Posted December 13, 2014 Being a hypocrite and dumping friends for a rude, arrogant boyfriend aren't great qualities either. I don't even understand what you just said, but aren't you a newlywed with a new baby, don't you have a lot of good things in your life to be thankful for? If you want good friends be a good friend too you know!! Nonstop complaining and blaming aren't qualities people want to be around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted December 13, 2014 Author Share Posted December 13, 2014 I don't understand what you're saying. What should I have done? Lie and pretend I wasn't in a crisis situation?! I don't even understand what you just said, but aren't you a newlywed with a new baby, don't you have a lot of good things in your life to be thankful for? If you want good friends be a good friend too you know!! Nonstop complaining and blaming aren't qualities people want to be around. Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 No, but (jmo) you need to give way more attention to anything positive going on in your life than all this negativity, no offense, but the attitude is why everybody is leaving you behind. I read that you won't stick in therapy but I sure wish you would!! This is no way to live. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted December 17, 2014 Author Share Posted December 17, 2014 I would if it actually helped at all. I felt like I was flogging a dead horse (so to speak) with this friendship long before this. As usual I'm left caring the most and hurting the most. No, but (jmo) you need to give way more attention to anything positive going on in your life than all this negativity, no offense, but the attitude is why everybody is leaving you behind. I read that you won't stick in therapy but I sure wish you would!! This is no way to live. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted December 17, 2014 Author Share Posted December 17, 2014 After a decade of friendship I deserved more than this. Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 You do come accross as super negative. I had a 'friend' recently defriend me on FB, I was a little hurt at first. Then when I had a good think about why she'd defriended me (over something someone else I knew had done) I realized that she wasn't really worthy of my friendship in the first place. She's done the exact same thing (before FB days) twice, that is dump me as a friend over something someone else who I know has said or done. Now I think "Thank you jesus for removing this sad soul from my life." The woman is crass, confrontational and dishonest, remembering this has eased the pain of the loss of her friendship. Maybe if you changed the way you look at your situation, you'd be at peace. Link to post Share on other sites
melodicintention Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Anyone who manages their friendships/relationships by using Facebook isn't good enough to be in my life. But that's just me and my silly high standards of expecting people to behave like well-adjusted intelligent creatures that don't depend on hiding behind a website and prefer face-to-face communication. Link to post Share on other sites
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