WHATINTHE... Posted March 1, 2005 Share Posted March 1, 2005 Recently, I have been catching feelings for a friend. Actually my best friend's Brothers' friend. I mean we get along great. The conversation is fun and light and we flirt and it nice. But, he acts more of a friend than a guy that i would get intimate with. He wont kiss me. He wont even touch me. Not even lightly rub up against me whilst walking by. I mean I know he's a little shy in the sense of making a move on a girl. He knows i like him but he wont make any moves. But i would feel weird having sex with him. Ya know how you just can't picture some men getting serious in bed and moaning and grunting and thrusting? Well thats how I see him. But i don't want to. I would have an amazing time with him. But he acts too much like a friend. Should I be the one to make the first move or should i wait. But i feel like the more I wait, the deeper we are in the "friends" phase and thats pretty hard to get out of. Should i at least address it? If so, how do I? I mean he's a very mellow person. And he might feel awkward. Any Advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Author WHATINTHE... Posted March 1, 2005 Author Share Posted March 1, 2005 Anybody? Link to post Share on other sites
Author WHATINTHE... Posted March 1, 2005 Author Share Posted March 1, 2005 Might I add that he acts more like a big brother. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 1, 2005 Share Posted March 1, 2005 You'll have to make a choice: one which may end in ways that you don't want. You'll have to come right out and tell him - or get him alone and ask him to kiss you, but be aware that this can go one of many ways with the two most likely being: 1. He gives in, it gets physical and then he avoids you afterward 2. He doesn't give in, gives you the gentle 'just friends' talk and then avoids you afterward Either way, telling a guy that you like him 'like that' when you have very little indication that he feels this way, you are running the risk of losing what it is that you do have. Sometimes, there is the rare case where: 3. He gives in, and begins dating you. Its hard to say though in this case - he sounds friendly, but if he is completely non-physical even though he already knows you like him I'm not sure what good 'making a move' would do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WHATINTHE... Posted March 1, 2005 Author Share Posted March 1, 2005 Oh i know he likes me. I know for a fact. But while I was figuring out that he liked me, we moved into that friends phase b/c he's such a nice guy. And now it seems I cant get out of that. I mean kissing him and getting intimate with him. So him liking me is not the problem. The problem is the stage were at where he's too shy to kiss me and while he's waiting were becoming better and better friends, which makes it harder to move into the BF/GF stage. Link to post Share on other sites
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