ladydisaster Posted March 1, 2005 Share Posted March 1, 2005 For a pre-engagement symbol, what other than a "promise ring" would be a good choice, especially for the guy? Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted March 1, 2005 Share Posted March 1, 2005 Necklace/medallion if he doesn't want to wear a ring. Key chain with both your names or initials engraved. Link to post Share on other sites
billybadass36 Posted March 1, 2005 Share Posted March 1, 2005 What's your budget? A few ideas: A nice watch. Cuff links (if he's a suit wearing kind of guy). A TV. Satellite Radio. A book that means something would be nice. A nice pocketknife would probably be a nice gift for any semi-outdoorsy guy - Marbles makes some nice ones. Link to post Share on other sites
k_lily Posted March 7, 2005 Share Posted March 7, 2005 Is just the ring in general that you don't want, or is it that you haven't found any with good symbolism? I'm still going to suggest them, but two symbols come to mind... Obviously there is the Claddagh Ring. If you don't already know, it's used in four ways and depending on how you wear it, this shows your relationship status. They also have it as a necklace which flat out mean you are taken. There is also the millenium circles, and reaching hands.... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 7, 2005 Share Posted March 7, 2005 there is no such thing as a "pre-engagement" symbol, ring or token. society does not recoginzie it and either do most people. what will be next? a "pre-pre-engangement ring"?? Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted March 7, 2005 Share Posted March 7, 2005 Originally posted by billybadass36 What's your budget? A few ideas: A nice watch. Cuff links (if he's a suit wearing kind of guy). A TV. Satellite Radio. A book that means something would be nice. A nice pocketknife would probably be a nice gift for any semi-outdoorsy guy - Marbles makes some nice ones. How exactly would a TV, radio, pocketknife be a symbol of "pre-engagement"? Nice gifts but they sure aren't symbols. men. I say you should just buy little meaningful gifts here and there. Save the big-ticket item for offical engagement. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 7, 2005 Share Posted March 7, 2005 there is no such thing as a "pre-engagement" symbol, ring or token. society does not recoginzie it and either do most people. And this means they can't make the gesture to each other anyway? Didn't know you were so rule-bound, [color=red]ALPHAMALE.[/color] Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 7, 2005 Share Posted March 7, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme And this means they can't make the gesture to each other anyway? Didn't know you were so rule-bound, [color=red]ALPHAMALE.[/color] becuz i am a more traditional boy Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 7, 2005 Share Posted March 7, 2005 Well that's you, isn't it? They want to do it so they can do it. It ain't hurting you, you know. Link to post Share on other sites
WalkingTall Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 Pre-engaged AND a Satelite Radio????? Sign me up!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 Either a stereo system or a basket of porn. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Well that's you, isn't it? They want to do it so they can do it. It ain't hurting you, you know. are we not here to discuss and give opinions on matters dear to us? Link to post Share on other sites
billybadass36 Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 Seriously, I got a satellite radio for christmas, and I fricking love it. It's the best gift I've ever gotten. Women want to give their men gifts that the woman, herself, likes. Why not giving the guy a gift HE'LL like for a change. Electronics and porn are excellent choices. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 I got a promise ring when I was younger after dating for 4 years. I put it on my left hand, like everyone did back then, and his dad thought we were engaged. His mommy later told him that I wasn't supposed to wear it on my left hand and he made me move it, so I did but only when I was around his parents. I still have the ring 20 yrs later, but he is history. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ladydisaster Posted March 9, 2005 Author Share Posted March 9, 2005 Haha. Wow, I just read through all this. He's getting me a promise ring, but he's fidgety and I know he doesn't like to wear jewelry, so I wanted to get him something else. Why we're doing a pre-engagement is because we want to symbolize our commitment but aren't quite ready to be engaged yet (school, needing to save more money, etc). Maybe it's not a recognized step but it's one we agree is good for us. We want to take it slow and make sure this is right. We both know it is in our hearts, but we also know the stress and changes marriage can bring, especially if you aren't ready. We want to make sure it will last. Thanks everyone! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 Originally posted by ladydisaster but we also know the stress and changes marriage can bring, especially if you aren't ready. We want to make sure it will last. Have either of u been married before?? If not, then you have no idea of the stresses and changes that occur and you cannot prepare for them in any way whatsoever. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ladydisaster Posted March 9, 2005 Author Share Posted March 9, 2005 Have either of u been married before?? If not, then you have no idea of the stresses and changes that occur and you cannot prepare for them in any way whatsoever. Fair enough. All we can do is take our small steps towards it and make sure we're ready to get married and then take everything as it comes. I guess all I know is that I love him and he loves me, he's unlike anyone else I've ever met and I fall more in love with him every day, we communicate, we're honest with each other, and we're committed to working on our relationship every day and stand by each other. Maybe you'll come back and give me more reasons why I can never be prepared and so on, and you're probably right. I won't argue. I'm just going to go on with what I'm doing. Sometimes the most you can do in anything is hope for the best and try to prepare yourself for the worst (though you're right, you never really can be prepared). That's life. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by ladydisaster Fair enough. Sometimes the most you can do in anything is hope for the best and try to prepare yourself for the worst (though you're right, you never really can be prepared). That's life. Thats' right LADYDISASTER, most in life is a crap shoot. Marriage is much like having kids. It does not come with an owners manual or some book of rules. Every situation is totally unique and you will both either sink or swim and it is very hard to judge who will do what. I wish you the best. Link to post Share on other sites
GirlDown Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by billybadass36 Seriously, I got a satellite radio for christmas, and I fricking love it. It's the best gift I've ever gotten. Women want to give their men gifts that the woman, herself, likes. Why not giving the guy a gift HE'LL like for a change. Electronics and porn are excellent choices. woohoo... i only buy my boy electronics and porn as gifts...that's pretty funny... no, seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
manders_01 Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 Ladydisaster - If he's not into jewelry, possibly something else that can be passed down to your kids one day. A humidor might be nice if he smokes cigars. He will be able to use it for things other than cigars and most humidors are really beautiful and would add to the beauty of a room. You can get the underside engraved or burnt with your names, a message, etc. Also, try http://www.thingsremembered.com - lots of personalized gifts that are usually pretty affordable. Link to post Share on other sites
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