goodyblue Posted August 30, 2014 Share Posted August 30, 2014 No, but my guy's ex wife seems to think my youngest two are his and has threatened at least 25 times to drag us into court for DNA. Kind of ridiculous as no court would compel me do DNA test my children. So lame. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted August 30, 2014 Share Posted August 30, 2014 Where did she say something wrong? She was telling about HER situation where SHE KNOWS about children at school. Don't understand why you are so defensive. She never said she knew every case. Neither do you. She never said all children of affairs are dumb, living in poverty and have horrible lives. She was stating situations that she personally knows of. I have a coworker whose child is from an affair. The mother was on welfare for several years. She married a man who raised the child (a girl). The biological father of the child sends a check monthly, nothing more. The child has struggled academically and barely graduated. Was it because her biological father wasn't in her life? No one will ever know. A friend of mine has a friend who is the biological father of a child born from an affair. He has nothing to do with the child. He gave up parental rights and the child was adopted by another man and that man is the child's dad. The child is entering his senior year, plays soccer and has been offered scholarships at various colleges. Its interesting as the biological father wanted nothing to do with the child, yet lives in the same town as the child and follows the child's 'life' via facebook, local newspaper and other means. The child has excelled and it has nothing to do with the biological father except for possibly the sharing of DNA. I could tell just as many stories of children who are not from affairs who struggle. In fact, there are probably more of them. The affair itself has nothing to do with it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean89 Posted August 30, 2014 Share Posted August 30, 2014 I could tell just as many stories of children who are not from affairs who struggle. In fact, there are probably more of them. The affair itself has nothing to do with it. In your opinion. No 2 situations are the same. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MissTakes Posted September 2, 2014 Share Posted September 2, 2014 I thought I was. I broke off the A shortly before moving across the country (though finding out about the W had far more to do with it ending than the move), and my period was 2.5 weeks late that month. It was far and away the worst 2.5 weeks of my life. Link to post Share on other sites
HollyGolightlly Posted September 3, 2014 Share Posted September 3, 2014 I had my baby 6 weeks ago. He never came around. Pretty brutal court battle over child support currently. We haven't spoken. It's been terrible. But I love my baby Link to post Share on other sites
adna89 Posted September 3, 2014 Share Posted September 3, 2014 My best friend got pregnant during her affair. She was 38 years old when she found out she was pregnant. The MM kept promising he would tell his wife and leave her. He never did. On the day my friend started to give birth is when the MM finally told his wife that there was another woman giving birth to his child and he had to go to the hospital. That was 10 years ago. Because of finances, my friend foolishly never sued for any type of assistance. She never even put his name on the birth certificate as she raises her child as a single parent. The father sees his child two- to three-times a year; a week during the summer, and usually during long weekends in the spring and fall (her birthday). Thankfully for the MM's wife, the child has been acknowledged and put on their family insurance, otherwise the child might not have medical care. Is he still with his wife? Link to post Share on other sites
IfWishesWereHorses Posted September 3, 2014 Share Posted September 3, 2014 I had my baby 6 weeks ago. He never came around. Pretty brutal court battle over child support currently. We haven't spoken. It's been terrible. But I love my baby Congrats! I don't understand why a court battle if its cut and dry? Child support seems like a straight forward judgement. Good luck to you, your baby deserves the support! Link to post Share on other sites
SweetClover Posted September 3, 2014 Share Posted September 3, 2014 As the OW.. the fear of becoming pregnant during the A is something that you have to be twice as conscious about. My question is, have any OW become pregnant during an A by your MM?? Did it happen while you were still in the A, or did you find out after you decided to end it?? And if it was after you ended it.. did you tell your AP the truth?? I never intended to get pregnant but I did. My MM thinks he wanted it to happen, he says he didn't plan it consciously but that he thought about it all the time and had twice talked me into unprotected sex with no intention to 'remove himself' before he could avoid it. Sounds to me like a conscious plan but my husband says sometimes guys just get caught up in the moment and defends him. Yes my husband knows and knew about the sexual relationship.. Me and him were open about it happening but OM's wife was not. She still does not know I'm pregnant but he has moved out and it living with us for the time being.. I am 14 weeks and not to many people know yet. I'm in a really small town and this is my first baby.. I definitely am showing but have basically stayed home this past month and have been wearing over sized clothes. It's getting old. Our first ultra sound was just last week. I'm due in February and we are going for another ultra sound in October to hopefully find out gender and then we will find a way to break it to her that this is his baby. Link to post Share on other sites
OffRail Posted September 4, 2014 Share Posted September 4, 2014 I never intended to get pregnant but I did. My MM thinks he wanted it to happen, he says he didn't plan it consciously but that he thought about it all the time and had twice talked me into unprotected sex with no intention to 'remove himself' before he could avoid it. Sounds to me like a conscious plan but my husband says sometimes guys just get caught up in the moment and defends him. Yes my husband knows and knew about the sexual relationship.. Me and him were open about it happening but OM's wife was not. She still does not know I'm pregnant but he has moved out and it living with us for the time being.. I am 14 weeks and not to many people know yet. I'm in a really small town and this is my first baby.. I definitely am showing but have basically stayed home this past month and have been wearing over sized clothes. It's getting old. Our first ultra sound was just last week. I'm due in February and we are going for another ultra sound in October to hopefully find out gender and then we will find a way to break it to her that this is his baby. A ménage a trois ? Exactly what do you hope to gain by telling her that this is his baby if he has already moved out from her home, and into yours (with your husband's) ? I would suggest that he file for divorce to spare his wife further anguish. You can live however you want, but if you situation sounds ... well, if it sounds difficult to me .... I think she would want him out of her life ASAP. Link to post Share on other sites
SweetClover Posted September 4, 2014 Share Posted September 4, 2014 A ménage a trois ? Exactly what do you hope to gain by telling her that this is his baby if he has already moved out from her home, and into yours (with your husband's) ? I would suggest that he file for divorce to spare his wife further anguish. You can live however you want, but if you situation sounds ... well, if it sounds difficult to me .... I think she would want him out of her life ASAP. They have already filed, they need to live in separate homes for a full year before the divorce can be finalized. She still wants a reconciliation. He is trying to work with her and we are keeping things on the down low because they have two young kids. And she's a little unstable and things need to be in a row before she finds out, although once she finds out I'm pregnant she's going to know it's his.. I believe that, even without us announcing that. And we live in a small town.. Before we are open about the pregnancy if would be best she knows the details first. For a lot of reasons, not to rub her nose in it but to help make things as easy as they can be. My wish was that we could all do this together but that's doubtful. Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted September 4, 2014 Share Posted September 4, 2014 Probably the current most famous child born out of an affair is Prince Harry https://i.chzbgr.com/maxW500/6589701888/h685632B1/ Link to post Share on other sites
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