Mailman Posted August 27, 2014 Share Posted August 27, 2014 Okay this sounds a bit strange, but I thought I'd share it. My cousin, she recently had a date with a guy that I knew. Now, I think my cousin is attractive, I think she is way out of the league of this guy, he's sort of a geek in a way. Strangely enough, I was a little curious as to how "far" my cousin went with this guy. They never really went out again, but there is a part of me hoping my cousin didn't make out with him even, or more. Okay, so some backstory. A few years ago, before I met my wife and while I was in between girlfriends I met up with my cousin. We've always been close in a "cousin" type of way. She had just recently broken up with her boyfriend too. She was 18 at the time. All of the sudden, this girl that I thought of as nothing more than a girl was turning into a woman. She was explaining things about her break up and we were both in a vulnerable position at that time and we were in my home alone. There was a part of me that strongly wanted to jump on her. I had this new found attraction to her that I couldn't explain. It never happened, and she never suspected it. And it never happened since. I've gotten married since and am happily married but have the odd fantasy about my cousin, you know, the odd one about "what if" and such. Not that my sex life isn't great because it is. But my cousin is now a single, attractive (I think) girl. And I found myself wondering what she was "doing" on a recent date. So is this just a passing phase of jealousy and just reliving a fantasy about having sex with her or do you think it was more of a fatherly type of concern? She is younger than me. Anyway, some thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
RemainUnchanged Posted August 27, 2014 Share Posted August 27, 2014 you're right, that does sound strange Link to post Share on other sites
Clockwork Posted August 27, 2014 Share Posted August 27, 2014 My guess is you still have the odd lustful thought about your cousin. The reason I say this, is because before I got married and met my future wife I had an on again and off again relationship with my ex. I remember seeing her at a bar once and I saw her dancing with a guy and I was obsessed with whether or not she was going to go home with him. I lost her at the bar, couldn't find her and assumed she went home with a guy. I couldn't sleep. I couldn't imagine her even fooling around with another guy. So I called her up at 3am just to see if she was with someone. She wasn't. But I told her to "come over" and you can guess why I asked that and what happened next. Now, I am not trying to give you any ideas, by the way don't do this with your cousin of course, lol, but this is just how I felt at the time. You might just have some lustful thoughts about your cousin. Masturbation can clear that up, and by that I mean, when you are "finished" you are probably going to realize how silly you are and just be happy that you have a nice wife and never made a move on your cousin who could have a very good reason why she is single (she might have issues in relationships, you don't know). Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mailman Posted August 29, 2014 Author Share Posted August 29, 2014 The thing is, it's just lust, that's all. My cousin is actually a bit of a headcase in the way that I wouldn't want to be involved with her if I would ever not be related to her and be her boyfriend. Too much drama, has daddy-issues and such. But despite all of that, there is still a lustful attraction and I have found myself being envious of the guy going out with her. It's an unusual situation. Or is it more common than I think to look at your cousin that way? Link to post Share on other sites
Clockwork Posted September 1, 2014 Share Posted September 1, 2014 The thing is, it's just lust, that's all. My cousin is actually a bit of a headcase in the way that I wouldn't want to be involved with her if I would ever not be related to her and be her boyfriend. Too much drama, has daddy-issues and such. But despite all of that, there is still a lustful attraction and I have found myself being envious of the guy going out with her. It's an unusual situation. Or is it more common than I think to look at your cousin that way? It is more common than you think, as you may have read on here. Some people take it as a torture because they want their cousin so badly and can't have her because they know the ramifications won't be good. But you are in a different situation, you're married. Let it go. Leave it at a fantasy and that's that. If this cousin is such a headcase like you said then even a guy who is having sex with her will get sick of it eventually. Link to post Share on other sites
Dork Vader Posted September 2, 2014 Share Posted September 2, 2014 You need to see a therapist man. Link to post Share on other sites
RemainUnchanged Posted September 2, 2014 Share Posted September 2, 2014 The thing is, it's just lust, that's all. My cousin is actually a bit of a headcase in the way that I wouldn't want to be involved with her if I would ever not be related to her and be her boyfriend. Too much drama, has daddy-issues and such. But despite all of that, there is still a lustful attraction and I have found myself being envious of the guy going out with her. It's an unusual situation. Or is it more common than I think to look at your cousin that way? you haven't made flowers on me for maybe three weeks...makes me sad is all Link to post Share on other sites
BeholdtheMan Posted September 2, 2014 Share Posted September 2, 2014 I diagnose you with an acute case of wanting to put your loaf into your cousin's oven Link to post Share on other sites
Clockwork Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 OP, anything happen recently with your situation? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mailman Posted September 14, 2014 Author Share Posted September 14, 2014 OP, anything happen recently with your situation? No, nothing. My cousin is single and happy that way right now. I was trying to share just to see if there are similarities with anyone. Not that I would ever try anything with my cousin, I wouldn't. It's a fantasy and I just leave it at that. Link to post Share on other sites
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