TrueSmiles12 Posted March 2, 2005 Share Posted March 2, 2005 hey, my ex and i have been broken up for a month now and i'm very much STILL struggling with the breakup, and as i've previously posted, he's been having the time of his life, getting wasted and such every night. anyway, i had given him a band type of bracelet, before we had gotten back together this time around, as more of a friendship or 'i like having you in my life' type of sentiment, something casual, but it had a lot of meaning when he obviously wore it... and every week, i had been making it a point, since our breakup, to check if he was still wearing it... last tuesday, he was. today, no more. should i really be making any kind of deal about this? doesn't it mean that it's really over for sure? he was wearing it a week ago though, and we haven't had any kind of contact for a good week now, not since his extremely mean/rude text message, "ur honestly f*ng insane." please please please tell me anything but to simply get over it. i've heard that too many times and i just want to know what you would think of him no longer wearing this symbolic bracelet. it makes me extremely sad to even think about it like this, like he has finally let go of me, finally (we had been on and off for one year). i'd like to think that it just broke or something, because 2 months ago i asked him if he was still wearing it, and he said yes of course, but it was starting to fall apart.. ugghhh, i dont know, i just want to know what to think, any insight please? i know it may seem silly, but it's something important to me, thanks Link to post Share on other sites
kypepeo Posted March 2, 2005 Share Posted March 2, 2005 This isn't good for you. Listene to yourself....how can whether he's still feeling you or not be measured by whether he's wearing your bracelet or not. I am going to tell you what you don't want to hear. MOVE ON. It's the only way and you are trying to avoid walking this path. It won't be easy but believe me, it's the only way to keep your sanity and dignity. It will get easier as time goes by but for now, you have to make a decision to move on even though you don"t feel like it Link to post Share on other sites
Ms_Sweetness Posted March 2, 2005 Share Posted March 2, 2005 You can't judge whether or not he still wants you by the bracelet. I still wear jewlery and clothing given to me by exes and don't think twice about them. Link to post Share on other sites
_Saffy_ Posted March 2, 2005 Share Posted March 2, 2005 hi true, you seem to be going through a rough time right now, and i understand that you do not want to hear that you should move on. I'm afraid that this is the only real advice that anyone can give you. It would be nice to sit here and say, yeah, the bracelet broke, and doesnt mean anything that he is no longer wearing it..........and that may be true, but combined with the other signs it makes no difference what happened to it at all. a) the nasty text was unforgivable b) he hasnt contacted you in a week c) he is out every night "having the time of his life" this really does not sound like someone who is sitting around thinking about whether he should have let you go. i understand that the bracelet held significance to you both, and it seems that he has started to move on and feels that it would be unfair to carry on wearing it. i suggest you carry on with the no contact and start to rebuild your life. just has he has done. take care. Link to post Share on other sites
Devildog Posted March 2, 2005 Share Posted March 2, 2005 Originally posted by TrueSmiles12 please please please tell me anything but to simply get over it. Okay then, Find a way to move past this point. Discover a detour to a happier place. Look at this as a new chapter in your life. There are other fish in the sea. See, no "get over it". Happy to be of assistance. Link to post Share on other sites
SummerRae Posted March 2, 2005 Share Posted March 2, 2005 Originally posted by Devildog Okay then, Find a way to move past this point. Discover a detour to a happier place. Look at this as a new chapter in your life. There are other fish in the sea. See, no "get over it". Happy to be of assistance. well said, DDog. I know it's hard but you must do what you can to make it through each day. Do your best that's all you can do. No one can make someone else love us, no matter how hard you try. Link to post Share on other sites
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