crythecolorred Posted March 2, 2005 Share Posted March 2, 2005 Well let me start by saying that I truly care about this guy, but man is he about a sorry mf. Any how this is the story. A couple that I know brought this younger guy over and he had caught his gf with another guy. This broad was bad. She even had him fixing this guys boat and stuff. He was at his gfs lovers house fixing his boat and he had no clue that they were lovers until later. Well she was basically playing these fools and they wanted to kill each other. R is my friend whom I met through his gf's sister. and M is the gf's lover. Okay so him and this guy are texting each other threats etc. And R whom is my friend was getting really upset. So I told him if you ask me shes playing both of you fools. Well he called the dude and they confronted her and made her make a choice. Well she chose the other guy M not my friend R. Well after that needless to say he was even more crushed. So I stuck by him and tried to help him forget as much as possible. Well, this dude is like a dog going back to his own vomit. He just jumps up when ever she calls him or what ever. He keeps surrounding himself with people and objects that are constant reminders. He trys reaching her everyday and she dogs him out. And yet he want s more. Can you people tell me why he would be doing this to himself? Link to post Share on other sites
angelj Posted March 3, 2005 Share Posted March 3, 2005 hes not ready to move on. it takes time and for some people, it takes a lot of time. love can make you crazy even if it isnt real love, the idea of it just makes you sick and insane. it even makes you think you will never love again or you could never see yourself with anyone else ever again even though you know your life will go on. give him time and be his friend. he will be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted March 3, 2005 Share Posted March 3, 2005 Because he was in love with her. And by being the dumpee he is not in the power seat. There is nothing you can do for him. He has to work this out on his own. I use to torment myself like he's doing now. There comes a time when you grow up enough, that you say, screw this i want to be happy. So you move on and are.....um...in theory. Link to post Share on other sites
Author crythecolorred Posted March 3, 2005 Author Share Posted March 3, 2005 Both are absolutely right and I totally understand. I Don't even know where I couldn't have just looked back at myself a few months ago I was broke up with my ex 7 months and cried every single day. I just thought it was different for guys. I really thought that they can move on without blinking an eye. This guy and I are closer then friends also so maybe thats why I was being indifferent about his feelings for her. Well she is going away for quite some time tomorrow. And he was here with me when she called him yesterday and he went flying to go get her. And I didn't give him a hard time I told him I understand. Well he came by here after dropping her off and was playing a game on my computer when I got in. I was surprised to see him cause he had text me and said he wasn't happy even when she is there. And said he would be here shortly. Which I think I knew he wouldn't be. And he never came until today. And he just stayed and stayed and stayed. And I asked him if he was hanging out waiting for her and he said no. But he was and that was just a little painful. Because he wasn't honest. But after he was gone I was fine. Well hopefully he will see that there is so much more for him out there then this cold heartless chick that he loves so much if not and he ends up with her, I'm fine with that. But I hope he does make a better choice for himself. I am his best friend and he is mine I just want to see him happy. Again thanks for your support/ Link to post Share on other sites
WalkingTall Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by crythecolorred I was broke up with my ex 7 months and cried every single day. I just thought it was different for guys. I really thought that they can move on without blinking an eye. / I can say that with ex's... moving on took some time... but nothing more than a week or two. But if I ever broke up with my GF, I really don't think I would be able to function at all for years. For me its the depth of love I have for her which I never did with ex's. Link to post Share on other sites
Author crythecolorred Posted March 10, 2005 Author Share Posted March 10, 2005 alot has happened since the last time I posted. He has gotten back with her and I have been very nice to her and even invited them both over for a drink which went well I thought and I even got a text from her thanking me for making her feel so comfortable. Inside it killed me basically because I have feelings for this guy that I'm trying to keep on the down low because I know he loves her. Well she is still messing with him staying gone with other men etc. but the only difference is he wont even talk to me now. And to bring her over was her idea. I was in love with my ex more then anyone else I ever loved just like you and i still fill the pain when I think about it but he getting married in may so I am trying not to think of him at all. But this guy R is much more my friend and I love him as my friend as well and it hurts me that he blames me for her crap. I miss him so much he wont even talk to me. Link to post Share on other sites
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