sweetbug Posted August 31, 2014 Share Posted August 31, 2014 I have been married 5 years. This year has been the hardest year for me personally. My mother was diagnosed with cancer and passed, we got pregnant finally and miscarried. In all of my stress, I started smoking cigarettes again. I had quit 5 years ago when we got married. My partner hates them. 4 weeks ago, he caught me smoking. I had been smoking in secret here and there, not every day. Now he says he wants to separate. He has been sleeping on the couch for a month. I am getting cold shoulder. He wont yell at me or say very much. When I try to talk, I am shut down. Then after I leave the room there is a lot of yelling at the computer/ tv/ lawnmower etc. I don't understand why he wont discuss things. I am in therapy myself. he wont consider therapy. I know that the way he deals with anger is a learned behavior from childhood, but he wont discuss those things. What can I really do? I feel alone. I cant keep apologizing for months on end. Link to post Share on other sites
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