Curious about something...

[Curious in Concert]

My girlfriend is getting a tattoo. I dislike tattoos. I don't like the idea of putting something on your body like that that you can't remove. Well, she knows I don't like tattoos, but is still going to get it. I keep getting this feeling that it changes -something- but I don't know what it changes, I don't know how it changes it, and I don't know -why- it changes it. I still love her completely, and there is no way in hell this would make me stop, or want to not be with her, but I don't know what I should do, or how to analyze this whole situation. Please help.

[Ed]

Getting a tatto is an indication of what type person she is. Generally, people who opt for tattos are adventurous, rebellious, and tend not to conform to anyone's rules but thier own. Now, I'm not knocking that. There is a place for all kinds in this world. Maybe this is what makes her so attractive to you.

 

Anyway...did she happen to give you any input on the selection or location of this tatto? Maybe it would make you feel better if she did.

[Bobby Dygytul]

You don't have a horse in this race. If she wants a tattoo, then she is going to get one. If you truely love her, than you will support any of her decisions that she decides to make. Sorry, i have to take her side on this one. If you start argueing with her about it, than it will only make things worse. So if i was you, i would just live with it and support her decision 100%. After all, it is HER body!!!!

My girlfriend is getting a tattoo. I dislike tattoos. I don't like the idea of putting something on your body like that that you can't remove. Well, she knows I don't like tattoos, but is still going to get it. I keep getting this feeling that it changes -something- but I don't know what it changes, I don't know how it changes it, and I don't know -why- it changes it. I still love her completely, and there is no way in hell this would make me stop, or want to not be with her, but I don't know what I should do, or how to analyze this whole situation. Please help.

[Tony T]

You know, this may sound really superficial, but if my lady got a tattoo after I told her how disgusting I considered them, she would be history.

 

Yeah, and I'm entitled. I am repulsed by tatoos...on men or women.

 

I think that everybody ought to be able to do what they want with their body. That's their right, I suppose. And I don't believe in ultimatums. I would simply tell a lady if she got a tattoo I would be history...not an ultimatum, not a threat...just a fact.

 

You aren't so important in this girl's life if disfiguring herself with some needless permanent markings is more important than making you happy.

 

I promise you, it is no major sacrifice to give up on getting a tattoo.

 

You say this will not affect your love for her...and I'm glad of that. So start saving your money because if you marry her, one day she'll want a plastic surgeon to remove her tattoo. We are talking $800 to $3,500, depending on the size and design. Happens all the time. The great thing, they can do it in the office. Unfortunately, HMOs and insurance companies don't pay for that sort of thing.

[Rachel]

O.K. We have heard from the guys, Now here's a lady's opinion;

 

1. I hate tatoos. I am an attractive female. I consider them pointless and basically a "disfigurement" to your body.

 

2. I know three girlfriends with tatoos. However, let me tell you that you would NOT know it in a million years.

 

All three have tatoos on their butts. One has a rose, one has a sun and one has a sorority emblem from college.

 

One works as director of human resources for a large hospital, the other is a successful sales rep for a big company and is very conservatived, and the third is a stay-at-home mom.

 

What I am trying to say, is that even though I hate tatoos, please don't stereo type the"type" of women who get them. I am actually less conservative than the three(or at least two of the women we talked about).

 

I think for some straight laced women, if placed in a discreet place, and tasteful enough(if there is such a thing), it is their way of saying that they are their own person.

 

Like I said, I hate tatoos, but I think there's two sides to this coin.

[Tony T]

I totally agree with you in every way. I think people, men and women, should be free to put them anywhere on their body they want. I don't stereotype women with tattoos. I just don't like women with tattoos just like I am not attracted to women who are taller than me, fatter than me, much younger than me, much older than me, more insane than me or who need a lot of dental work.

 

I am truly sorry, I cannot help my strong feelings about them. If someone told me they had a tattoo up their butt, I would have this image in my head and I would have difficulties with the mental image. I am sorry, I wish I was another way...I promise I will get therapy for this...on Monday. But for now, I could not get serious with a lady I knew had a tattoo anywhere.

 

Besides hating tattoos, I just have a problem with the idea of the waste of disfiguring any part of the body with the stuff. I guess I even have a greater problem with somebody who would do it in a place few people would ever look.

 

Again, I am sorry. Just one of the many imperfections of my character and personality. I can't justify tattoos. Yes, there are two sides to a coin...but only one side to a tattoo. I'm sure your friends are lovely people.

 

I also have a slight problem with some people, particularly those who have jobs working with the public, who dye their hair red, purple, orange, etc. But I always tell myself they'll grow out of it. It's something humans are free to do. Tattoos just grow along with the person.

 

Got your point and thanks.

[Curious in Concert]

I do agree with everyone who has(Thank you all!) put a post up on here, and I can see where your coming from. My view point tends to coincide with Tony more than anyone else. I don't dislike them as much as he seems to, but I can't understand why anyone, especially women(Women, I consider, are more beautiful then men. ) who would want to desecrate a wonderful, silky patch of skin with a mark that you can't get rid of. I've not really reached a decision on what exactly I'm going to do, or how I'm going to act when i see it. I'm afraid that if I reacyt completely negatviely, I'm going to hurt her. But, I'm not sure if I can stop myself from reacting in a negative way when i see because, quite simply, I don't like tattoos. Thanks for all your input, and I'd really appreciate it if people would continue to post your opinions. Each person adds a new though to my brain, and allows me to view it from another side. Thank you very much.

[deepassion]

My girlfriend is getting a tattoo. I dislike tattoos. I don't like the idea of putting something on your body like that that you can't remove. Well, she knows I don't like tattoos, but is still going to get it. I keep getting this feeling that it changes -something- but I don't know what it changes, I don't know how it changes it, and I don't know -why- it changes it. I still love her completely, and there is no way in hell this would make me stop, or want to not be with her, but I don't know what I should do, or how to analyze this whole situation. Please help.

Dear curious in concert,

 

There is nothing wrong with tatoosbut I totally understand where you're coming from because when my boyfriend found out that I had a tatoo he was very upset. He said that he didn't find it attractive so I strived to get it removed and no luck because it was too much money so I still have it until this day and to tell you the truth he doesn't even mind it anymore. Sometimes we forget it's even there until we stare right at it. So my advice to you is that if you're still willing to stay with her even if she does get the tatoo (which is a very good thing) than let her get it. Nothing will change between the two of you. In a couple of months after she gets it you'll even forget that it's there and you'll probably grow to like it yourself.

 

Deepassion!

[Curious in Concert]

Thank you very much for your help. I'd made the decision that I didn't care if she got it, and that hopefully, maybe, I could overlook it or get to like it. Some of my friends told me the same thing, and to hear it from you also is very helpful. I do love her, and I wouldn't ever want to break up with her because of something like that, and it was picking at my brain.

 

Thanks again!

[sparkle]

No new advice here, just wanted to say I agree with what Tony and the others had to say.

 

It is her choice whether she wants a tattoo or not (although I find them totally unattractive). And if you love her and want to stay with her, you have to accept her completely--tattoo and all.

 

However, it is totally up to you to stay with her or not. If it bothers you, then you have as much of a right to leave her as she has to get a tatoo.

 

I think you mentioned that you're going to go ahead and let her get it, and you might "even try to like it". Remember though, this goes both ways. Accepting it doesn't mean that you have to like it. Don't force yourself to like the tattoo or think it looks nice...sometimes if we try too hard, we just end up resenting it altogether. And if she loves you and wants to be with you, she'll accept you and your opinions. She won't try to change your mind about disliking tattoos.

 

By the way, where exactly on her body is she getting it anyway? I think if it's on her chest, butt, or any other area where the 'sun don't shine', I'd be very worried about who she's showing it off to.