Opening car doors for women.

[evanescentworld]

It's just a change of standards. My MiL always waited, and so did my own mother. It happened as a matter of course, and all parties submitted naturally to the traditional habit.

 

I just think that if a woman finds such a thing archaic, belittling and unnecessary, why would she then accede to the archaic, belittling and unnecessary habit of being given away when she marries.

It seems a mix of standards to me... Just commenting.....

[Xiang]

Some of it is just unnecesarry?

I don't open the door for you when i get out of the car...i mean really, you wait for me to open it? I don't see the point. Unless it's a special ocasion or you have some problems/sick i don't do this normally.

I know it show's respect and how much i appreciate you, but i find it useless sometimes.

 

As far as opening the door to get into my car, that i do, i am inviting you into my vehicuuuuul.

 

Same goes for home, i open the door for you to come in, i don't open it for you to go out, just sometimes. XD(if i want u to leave allready)

[Shepp]

One of those things isn't it. Like I've said before on here if the chivalry is intended to make the women feel good or whatever then you have to tailor it to her, you cant just go on blindly doing it, annoying the hell out of her, and wondering why she doesn't see what an upstanding gentleman you are.

 

If got out the car and went round to open it for my wife () - which actually wouldn't happen because by the time id done all that she'd be out the car but, whatever, hypothetically - she'd hate it! I'd be treated to the whole 53 reasons why what you just did was archaic, sexist and above all unnecessary. Now i love my wife unquestionable, and sure there's times when she's a walking contradiction - i've seen her flirt her way out of trouble, and she'll happily give me her 300 bags of essential shopping to carry - but don;t we all contradict ourselves sometimes.. I know i do, we're only human after all. I think the main poin tit that it doesnt matter - chivalry shouldnt be wrong on right it should just be an option if it works for both parties! If one party feels really strongly about it then they need to actively search for a partner who wants the same thing - no different than finding a partner who wants a family, or shares your love of sport.

 

 

I must say though opening car doors is one act of chivalry that I myself find pretty out of date! Maybe maybe on a first date but after that...really?

I get out the drivers side and open the car door for my nan or grandad, who need a hand getting out the car and for my toddlers who are strapped in the back but i cant see myself doing that long term for a partner!! For one its impracticable - especially in car parks where the spaces are tight and you have to shimmy round the car as it is. But y'know that's just me, i really look to be in a relationship with a proper equal, a team mate, i don't know how equal i'd feel opening her car door everytime.....i mean, you dont see many dudes turning up at the camp site walking round to help their girl out the car and then chucking her a shovel so she can start a fire pit! ...just saying Haha whatever floats your boat really!

[Taramere]

I'd be interested to know how many ladies here, stating that having a car door opened for them is antiquated/old-fashioned/archaic and they wouldn't or don't like it, would be (or were) happy to have their father or another male member of their family 'give them away' at their wedding.

 

That's a formal occasion. You tend to expect special events and formal occasions to contain the kind of rituals that might seem a bit much in everyday life.

 

That said, if some couples have and enjoy the ritual of the man always walking round to open the car door for the woman then that's their call. I doubt anybody here's going to spot that happening in the supermarket car park and race over to berate them for it.

[LuvsTrucks2]

For the entire time my ex and I were together, 10 years, from the first date until after we separated, he always put me in the car, I loved it! I have been on numerous outings with men since our break up and only two have opened the car door for me.