martaldn Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 I am not sure why you said to your date that your ex wasn't happy about you 2 going out together...?. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 15, 2014 Author Share Posted September 15, 2014 I don't know. I didn't really think about it. The ex was sooooooooo upset that I was already on a date AFTER TWO WEEKS. And today (BU 3 weeks now) I have understood that he already has a new girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
martaldn Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 I don't know. I didn't really think about it. The ex was sooooooooo upset that I was already on a date AFTER TWO WEEKS. And today (BU 3 weeks now) I have understood that he already has a new girlfriend. as U said his ego was hurting and that is why he seemed pissed off to see you with the new guy. keep venting here if you need it but please stick to NC is the ONLY way to move on. ( I am telling you cause I am still counting my NC days and I am on 96 days and I feel very proud of myself ) u can do it ! Link to post Share on other sites
doeblin Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 Ah poor Bella First: you shouldn't have told your date about your ex, but whatever. It was foolish of him to write a justifying letter. Second: You might want to block your ex and his close friends on facebook You'll be alright in a month or two. I'm sure you are going to find a guy who's actually worth it. Take care! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 15, 2014 Author Share Posted September 15, 2014 Ah poor Bella First: you shouldn't have told your date about your ex, but whatever. It was foolish of him to write a justifying letter. Second: You might want to block your ex and his close friends on facebook You'll be alright in a month or two. I'm sure you are going to find a guy who's actually worth it. Take care! Thank you!!! I blocked my ex since day 1 (and the new girlfriend too). But where I live a lot of people know each other and I didn't expect to see a picture of him and her through that contact.... Can't start blocking everybody Two months you say. Can you guarantee that, please please please? When I went to that concert last Saturday I talked with a guy that seemed very nice (and he's not bad looking either ) To go on a date or not? I dunno. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 15, 2014 Author Share Posted September 15, 2014 as U said his ego was hurting and that is why he seemed pissed off to see you with the new guy. keep venting here if you need it but please stick to NC is the ONLY way to move on. ( I am telling you cause I am still counting my NC days and I am on 96 days and I feel very proud of myself ) u can do it ! 96 days, that's great. And how do you feel generally?? Link to post Share on other sites
doeblin Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 Two months you say. Can you guarantee that, please please please? If you stick to No contact, spend good time with friends, pursue your passions, regular exercise, maybe go on a cool holiday somewhere... you WILL get over your ex. When I went to that concert last Saturday I talked with a guy that seemed very nice (and he's not bad looking either ) To go on a date or not? I dunno. Why not? Just don't be to attached to the outcome. Have fun, ride the waves, be zen about it. Really, just have some fun! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 15, 2014 Author Share Posted September 15, 2014 And just a question for the men out there: Just to understand a guy's mind... How the hell is it possible that he tells me one week ago he is sick/sad/hurt and didn't go to work etc, and three days after that he starts a relationship??? (it's not about getting him back, I just really do not get it) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 15, 2014 Author Share Posted September 15, 2014 If you stick to No contact, spend good time with friends, pursue your passions, regular exercise, maybe go on a cool holiday somewhere... you WILL get over your ex. Why not? Just don't be to attached to the outcome. Have fun, ride the waves, be zen about it. Really, just have some fun! Thanks, will try. How are you doing? Link to post Share on other sites
doeblin Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 I'm fine, thanks. And just a question for the men out there: Just to understand a guy's mind... How the hell is it possible that he tells me one week ago he is sick/sad/hurt and didn't go to work etc, and three days after that he starts a relationship??? (it's not about getting him back, I just really do not get it) It's a way to forget, but most importantly it's an ego boost. It's only to see that they still got it. I know I had many hookups with girls I was only vaguely interested in after my breakup. I got my composure now, so I only try to go after the ladies I'm actually interested in. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 15, 2014 Author Share Posted September 15, 2014 Apparently he was already interested in her before we broke up. Something that helps me a bit now, is something that poster Evanescence repeats. Nothing lasts. I know they won't last either. I know that now they're all honeymooney, but I'm sure she also has her flaws. Maybe she is jealous (and with him, you're gonna have a hard time), maybe she's clingy, maybe she farts a lot That helps a bit, it might sound childish, but well, whatever helps for the moment I guess. I'm not really ready yet to wish them "all the best". All this emotional stuff is so TIRING. I'm really tired. Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 I would block him on FB. There's no need to torture yourself if a picture comes up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 15, 2014 Author Share Posted September 15, 2014 I blocked him since day 1!!! He popped up in pictures of some contact! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 15, 2014 Author Share Posted September 15, 2014 MEN. The guy I talked to on Saturday night (concert), that I considered having a date with... We chatted a bit on FB, he suggested that we could meet once this week..... Just found out he's married. Link to post Share on other sites
lauri Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 MEN. The guy I talked to on Saturday night (concert), that I considered having a date with... We chatted a bit on FB, he suggested that we could meet once this week..... Just found out he's married. I hate 2 things. 1) People who go for taken guys/girls 2) People who cheat. Good on you for dropping him. Forget this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 15, 2014 Author Share Posted September 15, 2014 That's for sure. Not interested what so ever.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 16, 2014 Author Share Posted September 16, 2014 I hate 1) People who go for taken guys/girls That would be the new girlfriend of my ex.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 16, 2014 Author Share Posted September 16, 2014 Another question for you guys... My ex is quite "known" in town. He is an artist, quite popular for his work and everybody knows him (that's also why he will keep popping up in pictures of people on FB that don't really have anything to do with him). He's working on a new project, and it's just a matter of time I will be seeing flyers around town, and people posting about it on FB.... Also, he hangs out a lot in the neighbourhood where I live (I live in the center of town, he doesn't). Every time I leave my appartement, I have a chance of running into him. Somebody spotted him on Sunday with his new girlfriend at a restaurant 1 minute away from my house... (Go Somewhere Else!!!) I don't want to run into him. NC NC NC. But it's almost impossible. How to deal with that? One of these days I'm gonna run into him and his new girl.... Any tips? Link to post Share on other sites
Phenomena Posted September 16, 2014 Share Posted September 16, 2014 You sound a bit too pathetic. In the first post you tell us how you let him kiss you while you're on a date. How about we turn this around and the guy you're dating gets a kiss from his ex while he is dating you? Would you like that or come here to explain to us what a jerk he was? The only reason he said that he had feelings for you after the first post is because he felt like he owned you and seeing his property with another guy just shake up feelings. It really doesn't mean anything else. And for your most recent post, I think you should really look for someone else. Stop thinking about how to avoid him, just stop thinking about him at all. Try to date and find someone you like instead of thinking about how you're going to see him everywhere. And give new guys a chance instead of thinking how interesting they are but you're not over that other moron. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 16, 2014 Author Share Posted September 16, 2014 In the first post you tell us how you let him kiss you while you're on a date. In the country where I live (not America), it's custom to kiss each other on the cheeck when we see each other. You do this even to people you have just been introduced too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 16, 2014 Author Share Posted September 16, 2014 You sound a bit too pathetic. The only reason he said that he had feelings for you after the first post is because he felt like he owned you and seeing his property with another guy just shake up feelings. It really doesn't mean anything else. Euh, I know...? I never said otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 20, 2014 Author Share Posted September 20, 2014 I wasn't doing SO bad this week. Last night I went out with friends. At the end we ended up at our favorite bar. Luckily the ex wasn't there. But then, then he showed up. With the new girlfriend. When he walked by, he kissed me on the cheek (once again, that's custom here), said "Hello Bella!" in a bit too cheery way. I tried not to watch them, did do it anyway, seeing how he put his arms around her etc. Today I feel like crap. I have done nothing, just lying around the house, tv on. Haven't eaten. He's already happy with somebody else and I start torturing myself, thinking of lovey messages they are sending to each other, how they are spending all their time together... And I'm all alone I'm depressing and I'm doing it all to myself. This too shall pass? Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 I wasn't doing SO bad this week. Last night I went out with friends. At the end we ended up at our favorite bar. Luckily the ex wasn't there. But then, then he showed up. With the new girlfriend. When he walked by, he kissed me on the cheek (once again, that's custom here), said "Hello Bella!" in a bit too cheery way. I tried not to watch them, did do it anyway, seeing how he put his arms around her etc. Today I feel like crap. I have done nothing, just lying around the house, tv on. Haven't eaten. He's already happy with somebody else and I start torturing myself, thinking of lovey messages they are sending to each other, how they are spending all their time together... And I'm all alone I'm depressing and I'm doing it all to myself. This too shall pass? I wouldn't say you are doing it to yourself. If I saw my ex with someone else acting happy, it would hurt. It would hurt all of us, and you can't help who you run into. It's bad enough to know your ex is with someone else, but it's a lot to handle if you actually see it. You can't be expected to just bounce back and feel nothing. Don't be too hard on yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 21, 2014 Author Share Posted September 21, 2014 I wouldn't say you are doing it to yourself. If I saw my ex with someone else acting happy, it would hurt. It would hurt all of us, and you can't help who you run into. It's bad enough to know your ex is with someone else, but it's a lot to handle if you actually see it. You can't be expected to just bounce back and feel nothing. Don't be too hard on yourself. Thanks BC, yeah, I guess you're right... Also now, the weekends.... Especially during the day.... Don't really know what to do with myself...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted September 22, 2014 Author Share Posted September 22, 2014 Feeling anxious and slightly depressed. My job isn't helping a lot. I don't have enough tasks for the moment, I'm actually bored and I have too much time to think think think. This morning I sent my cv after seeing a job offer. The idea of changing jobs is inspiring in a way. A new start with new people! Everybody says you should go running. But does walking (dunno, for an hour) have the same effect? Link to post Share on other sites
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