Umonna Posted September 7, 2014 Share Posted September 7, 2014 Firstly, I know that my relationship wouldn't be considered to be a long distance relationship by most people's standards, but to me it feels like it is, probably because my anxiety levels are so high. My bf is only able to visit me for a day and a bit on the weekends and every time he has to leave again after he's gone I always get very shaky and sometimes have a full on panic attack. I know its mainly my issues that are the cause of this, but often times I feel like my bf is desperate to get away from me again. I wouldn't really blame him if he was, to be honest I think he would be better off without me, but I just wish I felt more like he wanted to stay with me at least. Was just wondering if anyone else has experienced this? Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted September 7, 2014 Share Posted September 7, 2014 Umonna, Are you thinking that he is too stupid to realize that he'd be better off without you? And if so, what else is making you question his intelligence and ability to make good/wise decisions for himself and in his own best interest? Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 Do you suffer from anxiety in other areas of your life? If you do, have you talked to a professional about it? Do you have a career/studentship and hobbies that keep you busy during the week? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Umonna Posted September 10, 2014 Author Share Posted September 10, 2014 Umonna, Are you thinking that he is too stupid to realize that he'd be better off without you? And if so, what else is making you question his intelligence and ability to make good/wise decisions for himself and in his own best interest? I don't think he's too stupid to realise that, but I do think he doesn't know me as well as I know myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Umonna Posted September 10, 2014 Author Share Posted September 10, 2014 Do you suffer from anxiety in other areas of your life? If you do, have you talked to a professional about it? Do you have a career/studentship and hobbies that keep you busy during the week? Yes I have general anxiety disorder for which I'm on medication. I've also been to therapy sessions for years. I'm very busy during the week so barely even have time to reply to his texts so days, until late at night. I just feel like we grow so distant each week, its definitely taking its toll on my emotions I feel. I just feel so distant from him when he's not here. Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 yes personally i've been like that. but listen. when i left and wanted to leave it wasnt because i wanted to leave the person but rather to leave cause i had to. its easier sometimes to make a quick good bye. and sure sometimes i have been bored too. but that doesnt mean i didnt care for that person. and besides. we are all different. girls know when they are attached to someone. guys normally dont understand it as much before its to late i feel like. dont ever think that youre not good enough. because the moment you show someone that you arent. thats the time when they start taking you for granted. maybe thats what he does? he knows how much you care so he feels that he doesnt have to worry about it. it gives him power to let go easier. but again, that doesnt mean that his feelings for you arent there. know that you are good enough because he choosed you for a reason. Link to post Share on other sites
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