Genie99 Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 (edited) Hi everybody My situation is pretty different. I am a girl from China who is studying abroad in Canada. I'm in my second year here and I met a guy I really, really like. He is the cousin of one of my roommate (who is also an international student from China). He is doing a masters degree in a University in a different city (about 1 hour drive away), so I only see him once in a while. He's really funny, attractive , kind and I just feel so comfortable talking to him and hanging around him. The problem is that he is not a foreigner - he is Chinese too, but he immigrated to Canada when he was a little kid and he is kind of Westernized. I'm afraid that we are too different culturally to work out and that he won't want to date a foreigner like me. I was talking to my roommate (his cousin) and she said he had 2 ex-girlfriend. One was white and the other was half-Korean, half-white. My English is not so good and he teases me (playfully) sometime. He speaks very good Mandarin Chinese actually because he went to Chinese school since he was young. But sometimes I get the feeling that he does like me when he looks at me and laughs with me (I feel like sometime he flirts with me too), but he has not said anything since I met him eight month ago. The other issue besides cultures is height. He is not a short guy (especially for Chinese) at 179-180 cm (about 5'11). But I am a very tall girl at 174-175 cm (about 5'9). I am taller than him if I wear heels. I don't mind that much, but I'm afraid he might feel insecure about me being so tall. His two ex-girlfriend were both around like 160cm (5'3) so I'm afraid he don't like girls who are close to his height. What should I do? Should I make first the first move? I really, really like him. Thank you everyone, Jessie SUMMARY - I'm Chinese Girl Studying Abroad in Canada - Meet Chinese Guy Who Grew Up in Canada (Roommate's Cousin) - Really like him, but scared of cultural differences, and he hasn't made a move yet in 8 months - Afraid he doesn't like tall girls like me Edited September 10, 2014 by Genie99 Link to post Share on other sites
jeffmeyers Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 Aren't Chinese men always expected to make the first move? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Genie99 Posted September 10, 2014 Author Share Posted September 10, 2014 Aren't Chinese men always expected to make the first move? In China usually, though the culture is changing. He came to Canada when he was three years old, so he is basically a Westerner, and some girls here make the first move. Link to post Share on other sites
jeffmeyers Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 Then... Make the first move. Could be just telling him how you feel. Or go indirectly, about your relationship, the two of you, where it stands, where it can go. Invite him to do some activity you don't normally do together, but could interpreted as a date. IDK Link to post Share on other sites
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