Rick5478 Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 I don't think he's dealt with it. I think he doesn't even see it as something worth dealing with. What a guy. He's a keeper. Link to post Share on other sites
li'l bunny Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 Rick honey, I don't think it's fair of you to bad-mouth Ratty's H just because he had the courage and strength to forgive her. You couldn't find it within yourself to forgive your gf and that's fine, but don't call other men weak just because they decide to give their relationship another shot. It's easier to walk away than it is to work on the marriage. He sounds like my H where dealing with things is concerned, my H deals with them inside his head and doesn't bother anyone else with it. And as Ratty said, he has agreed to MC so it will come out there sooner or later if he isn't coping with it. Stop being so negative, these men who give their wives a second chance are not spineless. They are wonderful caring, strong and courageous. I am sorry you feel you're not one of them. Link to post Share on other sites
Rick5478 Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 It's as easy for a man to walk out as it is for a woman to cheat. I don't believe women that TRULY love their husbands would even put themselves in a position to cheat. If your husband punched you in the face as hard as he could but was really apologetic and said he loved you, would you truly believe him after something like that happening? What is it society always says? A real man wouldn't hit. Well a real woman wouldn't cheat. And she punched her husband in the face as hard as she could from an emotional standpoint. Yes. It is courageous to stay with a woman who doesn't love you enough to be faithful. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 I don't believe women that TRULY love their husbands would even put themselves in a position to cheat.Whether you believe it or not, it happens. Nobody is perfect, so when a man isn't providing a woman what she needs, emotionally she can still love her husband, but physically she needs something else. It's natural.If your husband punched you in the face as hard as he could but was really apologetic and said he loved you, would you truly believe him after something like that happening?You wouldn't believe this, but there are thousands of women who wouldn't only just believe him, but would embrace him and write it off.....immediatly. Yes. It is courageous to stay with a woman who doesn't love you enough to be faithfulNot only is it courageous, it's honorable. That word doesn't mean much to people anymore, so it's rare. Link to post Share on other sites
li'l bunny Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 My H has never punched me in the face but he has pushed me out the door a few times and pushed me up against the side of the stairs once. I know these episodes were my fault and I forgave him for them. I knew he had some issues which he needed to sort out and that's what he did. Some people DO learn from their mistakes and they get the help needed to sort out what was wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
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