lyndaaxo Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 I'm new so forgive me if this has already been discussed! I've been single for over a year now, which is a record for me believe me! And in that year I've had awful experiences, mainly with getting too attached and being left alone. Last night I came to a realisation that I don't think I want a relationship, or even to date, but I've never been in that situation before so I'm wanting some advice/guidance/input/general discussion on... well... being alone! Link to post Share on other sites
jeffmeyers Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 You've dated people since you were a newborn? Otherwise remember that time when you were not dating. Be a bit selfish, relax and/or have fun. Try to do things you were not able to do while in a relationship. Assuming you are straight, maybe make some new female friends. IDK how long you plan on being single, but that libido might get in the way. Best to get to use your hands or sex toys, if you haven't already. It's possible the men in your life didn't allow to explore every facet of your sexuality. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lyndaaxo Posted September 13, 2014 Author Share Posted September 13, 2014 You've dated people since you were a newborn? That first bit made me laugh! I've dated since I was around 14/15 (when I had my first boyfriend) so its hard to compare being single now to being single then. Link to post Share on other sites
true-love Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 Vary the places you go to meet men so you can see new faces Link to post Share on other sites
deathandtaxes Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 Date yourself. It's that simple. Take yourself out to stuff that you'd normally do with a guy. Go to a restaurant. Go to a movie, show, or concert. Go to the park. Fun stuff. Get to know yourself. Get some hobbies. Engage your passions. Learn new things. Get fit. Just don't be a bump on a log and bemoan your single status. Link to post Share on other sites
bastus Posted September 13, 2014 Share Posted September 13, 2014 u should relax for next few months, go out with your girlfriends , get drunk, go to male strip clubs , or whatever it is, enjoy your single life.. just my opinion Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 Sooner or later you are going to be alone. Maybe that will be literal as the result of your husband of 50 years passing away. Maybe that will be figurative as the result of living in a loveless marriage. Either way, you would do well to get comfortable with yourself. Figure out what your interests are and cultivate them. Aside from strengthening your resolve at being single, you will also enjoy your time and make yourself a better future partner for someone. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 As long as you love and are loved, you're never alone. A particular man or woman isn't required for that life equation. I've been 'on break' since splitting up with my exW back '09 and no regrets. Life is good. Then again, I've never felt alone when not in a romantic relationship or married. That might be a personal thing. IMO, do what works for you. Try a break and see how you feel. Link to post Share on other sites
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