Going away for 6 months and not sure if the relationship would work

[LDR]

I've been with my bf for 4 months, although it seem very short but we see each other everyday and we felt that we've been together for a year almost. I currently live in Vancouver BC, and I Just got a job offer in Ottawa (3000km) for 6 months, I am very commit to my bf and so is he, but we don't have any long term commitment since we're both in our early twenties. The possibilty is that we'd probably see each other once a month, but I am the type of girl who can't stand not seeing my bf for more than a week, and that I would worry alot being the one who's moving out of town with no friends there while he's here and I don't know what he's doing. He supports me thus far no matter what my decision is but he already told me as well that he doesn't want me to go. To me I think this is a great opportunity but at the same time i know it'll hurt alot. Should i maintain a LDR? or should i just leave him? How do people cope with LDR with this type of distance? without worrying about what the other person may or may not do?

[Dustinsgirl]

Just my opinion....

 

I think that you should definitely take the job offer. I have a bf that is in Korea right now and I havent seen him for 5 months now so i am familiar with the whole LDR situation.

 

There is a saying that I know you have heard "Absense makes the heart grow fonder" and really by being in the relationship i am in now I really believe thats true. Its only 6 months, that may seem like eternity thinking about it now, but it will be a learning experience for you both, and if it is meant to be it will be. This is a good way to see how strong your relationship really is, and if you do get to see him once a month , it will make you realize even more how much you love him.

 

As far as leaving him goes, that is when you have to listen to your heart. You have to really look deep and decide how much you care for this guy. If he is truly special to you, I would give the LDR a chance, and if it doesn't work then you can decide what to do from there...

 

hope this helps you a lil'

 

shan

[LDR]

Thanks Shan,

He does mean alot to me, and I know deep down there leaving him isn't really an option, at least not now. I know the job is still my priority so I would go anyway, just that it hurts everytime i think about it. I guess I maybe worrying alot, because we both have some temper and now we argue about 3 times/month (it was worse at first but getting better), but what i am worrying about is that if we do argue over the phone it'd be pretty bad if we can't see each other afterward. i am a pretty emotional type and i know these sort of things would bother me and affect my ability to work properly. But I know what you mean, I guess I just want to know what people usually do in this kind of situation. Alot of time i'd worry that he wouldn't miss me as much as I do, I think I maybe thinking too much.