Couldnt eccept using drugs.

[Mustique]

I have this problem. Few weeks ago i made a new friend. We met on the web. It just felt like we were soulmates, from the first sentences we exchainged. He gave me his email and i wrote to him. We writed to each other, and i was more sure that this was ment to be. Don't mean lit romantical way, just like we had known each other forever. This guy was the one who would be my best friend forever.

 

Then it hit me. He uses drugs. I mean seriously, real drugs, like extacy, smokes pod, whatever. Has been doing that for five years, says will be for the rest of his life.

 

I cant eccept that. On the behave of my religion and my values, i dont want to and will not be in any kind of doind with drugs.

 

So i had to choose. I said it to him straight. it hurt but it was the only choise. i just hope the thing i did doesnt make me a bad person.

[d'Arthez]

That does not make you a bad person.

 

If you have these values and believe in these values, and are committed to these values, you cut him out of your life.

 

While not everybody would agree with what you did, that is the thing with morality: never does everybody agree on a thing. And as long as you don't break the values in which you believe, and allow other people to believe in their values, there is nothing wrong with that.

 

Making of decisions is always hard. But you have to learn from a young age to make these decisions. Not making a decision is easier, but unhealthier in the long run.

[bluechocolate]

Few weeks ago i made a new friend. We met on the web. It just felt like we were soul-mates, from the first sentences we exchanged.

 

Next time don't invest so much into a relationship which consists of words on a screen. You were not soul-mates. In reality you knew very little about each other. For that matter, even if you had met face to face you would still know very little about each other in only a few weeks.

 

Then it hit me. He uses drugs. I mean seriously, real drugs, like extacy, smokes pod, whatever. Has been doing that for five years, says will be for the rest of his life.

 

I guess you know that because he was honest with you & told you.

 

I said it to him straight. it hurt but it was the only choice. i just hope the thing i did doesn't make me a bad person.

 

And you were honest with him & of course that doesn't make you a bad person.

 

A long time ago someone told me that for every 10 people you meet 1 of them will have the potential to become a friend or a partner, so you gotta meet the 10. I think with the Internet that 10 should become 100.

 

(p.s. use the Spell Check button - it only takes a second )

[ziggue]

Originally posted by Mustique

Then it hit me. He uses drugs. I mean seriously, real drugs, like extacy, smokes pod, whatever. Has been doing that for five years, says will be for the rest of his life.

 

I cant eccept that. On the behave of my religion and my values, i dont want to and will not be in any kind of doind with drugs.

 

So i had to choose. I said it to him straight. it hurt but it was the only choise. i just hope the thing i did doesnt make me a bad person.

 

It doesn't make you a bad person. It makes you a smart person.

 

You don't wanna be stuck with this type of person. If you did let me tell you that he would be wanting money off you all the time to support his drug habbit.

 

My Ex was like that and was borrowing money off me too support his habit. It was a pain. I hated it. I wasn't even working. He was. I should've been more stronger and said no but still gave in. In the end I ended up dumping him for another reason. I am just so glad that I am not into that sort of stuff the money people spend on drugs is rediculous.