disneygogetter Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 From what I recall, only a few of my "first" dates ended with a kiss. But also a few of them did not end with a kiss and the kiss happened a few dates later. Anyway when does a kiss usually happen or suppose to happen? Can you date someone for a month and not receive a kiss? Or go on a few dates and not receive a kiss? When should you kiss the person you are dating and or interested in? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Dork Vader Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 I suppose it's possible to date for a few months and no kiss happen. I've typically had the first kiss by the 4th date at the latest. The only thing I can think of that would delay kissing beyond that. Would be either a desire to take things slow or some type of personal medical problem. Think about it if you had some type of disease they could potentially get via a kiss. You would one avoid kissing and two put off that conversation for as long as possible. But this is unlikely (it's possible but unlikely). Are you the girl? If so send the guy clear signals you want the kiss. If you're the guy just grow a pair and go for the kiss. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 Well, depends on the kiss and how it's done. I mean, if he kisses me on the lips or cheek, but it's a "peck"...then, I would be taken a back. But if he takes his time and leans into me and does it slowly (and it doesn't have to turn into a tongue or open mouth kiss) then, it would be cool with me. So, it can happen on the first date - but if it doesn't then I'm cool I guess. But please, no hugs...Hugs to me just scream 'I'm not into you romantically'. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author disneygogetter Posted September 15, 2014 Author Share Posted September 15, 2014 Well this guy and I did hug a few times, and he cuddle hugged me when we stood together, and he held my hand but no kissing on the first date. Link to post Share on other sites
NJBoss Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 I'm a guy and don't kiss on the first date. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Assasda Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 No kiss should happen till both parties are ready for a kiss. Women will give you physical cues when they want to be kissed, whether this is covertly or overly 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 Every 1st date I ever had included a kiss, except my 1st date with my husband. He didn't kiss me until our 3rd date. Frankly if he hadn't kissed me that night I had been prepared to break up with him at the end of that date. I looked for opportunities to kiss him but they weren't there. It was odd. Link to post Share on other sites
MoreCoffee Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 (edited) We men, being mind readers, delve deep into your thoughts to know the exact time, place and amount of tongue you desire. This function may be malfunctioning temporarily for him. Edited September 15, 2014 by MoreCoffee 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 Yes, I went on 7 dates with the guy I'm dating and he didn't kiss me. He kissed me at the 7th date and I basically had to initiate it. He brought a bunch of red roses and put them on the passenger side of his car, then he came to open the car door for me. When i saw the flowers I said "oh, thank you, give me a kiss". And that's how it started. I gather that he was waiting for me to give stronger signals. I think I was ready for a kiss only at about 5th date, and perhaps my body language suggested that. I made a decision at some point not to have arbitrary rules about when things should happen and let everyone be themselves and move at their own pace. Within reason. I obviously would not dump someone who moved slower than my pace. It's hard to find someone who will move exactly at your pace and do things exactly the way you'd do them. So I decided to just let relationships BE. Don't try to make them into something they're not, or force anything. I tend to attract men who move slow because I also like to move very slow. So, IMO, anything, any pace is possible as long as the two are compatible within reason. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
slizl Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 If I had a good first date, 100% of the time I am going in for a kiss. If the date was lackluster, she gets a hug. Link to post Share on other sites
nerdlingZA Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 I've never been on a date, but I move fast, as in when I like a girl at school I'll probably try to kiss her on DAY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author disneygogetter Posted September 15, 2014 Author Share Posted September 15, 2014 But isn't being the female and asking for a kiss the wrong way to go? Shouldn't you let the guy make the moves? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 But isn't being the female and asking for a kiss the wrong way to go? Shouldn't you let the guy make the moves? Asking for a kiss is rarely the way to go. You leaning in & planting one on him is OK. The times they are a changing. Link to post Share on other sites
oberkeat Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 With me, a kiss is always a sign of a successful date. For every first date that didn't end with a kiss, there was no second date. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 But isn't being the female and asking for a kiss the wrong way to go? Shouldn't you let the guy make the moves? You don't have to overtly you can kiss on the cheek, touch him a lot during conversations, flirt, look at his lips... When I asked it was because he made what I saw as a clearly romantic gesture with the roses on the seat, and I truly meant on the cheek when I said "give me a kiss". Except he went for more. It depends in the particular moment. For me it worked that way, but for you it'll be different. Just signal more. I was told in the past that I don't signal. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted September 15, 2014 Share Posted September 15, 2014 With me, a kiss is always a sign of a successful date. For every first date that didn't end with a kiss, there was no second date. I think everyone is different. I dated around 30 men and I only kissed 5.None at the first date. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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