VenusJ4F Posted March 5, 2005 Share Posted March 5, 2005 My husband and I have been having a hard time latly. We have been married for 3 1/2 years now. Latley he has become very close to a female friend or ours. They share an intrest in porn and wild sex. I am worried that it has not become more then just discusion between the two of them. Tonight she called him and invited us to go out for coffee with her. He did not tell me that she invited both of us, but just him. When she got here she asked if I was going, I told her I did not get invited. When he left he did not say goodbye he just left. Now he will not answer his cell phone when I try to call. This is really concerning me as I know that he has and does want to have sex with her. I just do not know what to do. I have no one I can talk to on this so I am hopeing that someone here can give me some advise. Link to post Share on other sites
StrawberryGirl Posted March 5, 2005 Share Posted March 5, 2005 Oh heck no!! You put a stop to that real quick, your friend should know better, what the heck!!!! Tell her something, tell her to respect your marriage, tell her you don't appreciate her talking with your husband in regard to those topics, tell your husband you are concerned, see what he says!!! don't let things go any furthur!! Link to post Share on other sites
curly Posted March 5, 2005 Share Posted March 5, 2005 Has your H ever suggested a threesome? maybe he's interested in you & she together and he's just trying to lay some ground work with her. If you're into that and comfortable with it, go for it! If not, then you need to lay some ground rules with your H. He may be just testing his boundaries. You haven't been married very long and he may be feeling like you're getting bored with him. Men like to flirt and feel like they are the king. Maybe he's just trying to get a rise out of you. OR (the big one) he's beginning a relationship with someone outside of your marriage that could lead to very bad things. But, I can't believe he would do that right in front of your face. Affairs don't begin right in front of the other spouse's face. If he was really into something, she would not have come to your house. My feeling is that he's crying for attention. Don't be pigheaded, or turn a blind eye. Let him know that you love him and would rather be with him. Don't act resentful and testy... In essence, don't be the bi*chy wife. Be the pouty seductress. Make it clear to him that you had better plans for each other but he went out. Then show him the plans you "made" tomorrow. Perhaps all day in the bedroom if you can. Hope this helps! Link to post Share on other sites
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