toyo Posted March 5, 2005 Share Posted March 5, 2005 Hey everyone. This is for the people that describe themselves as shy, loners, introverts, few friends, no bf/gf etc . . . What do you guys do during your free time and what kind of places do you like to hang out at? The reason I'm wondering is that I've read a few posts on here about how people are this and that and dont have many friends or a gf/bf but judging from their posts, sound like they are great people. In fact many of the girls that post this kind of things sound like they are exactly my type! Where are you all!??!? Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted March 5, 2005 Share Posted March 5, 2005 they are shy. and how can you be a loner, if you have a friend? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 5, 2005 Share Posted March 5, 2005 Originally posted by laRubiaBonita and how can you be a loner, if you have a friend? yes I must agree with LARUBIABONITA....loners are too busy shooting up high schools and committing serial murders to actually have time for "friends". come on, get a grip! Link to post Share on other sites
shamen Posted March 5, 2005 Share Posted March 5, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale yes I must agree with LARUBIABONITA....loners are too busy shooting up high schools and committing serial murders to actually have time for "friends". come on, get a grip! Ouch. Toyo, most shy people and introverts do indeed have friends. Just because someone has few friends doesn't mean that their life is unfulfilling. Where do they hang out? When I was more the loner type (don't consider myself one now), I still hung out in all the same places that I do now. Coffee shops, bars and clubs, restaurants, my friend's houses, hiking trails, outside sitting somewhere, home. Loners (yes, I know that it's an oxymoron) usually also have a few friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author toyo Posted March 5, 2005 Author Share Posted March 5, 2005 Haha oops guess I wasnt exactly clear with my post as I thought. Appreciate the sarcasm though I didnt exactly mean loner in the stereotypical sense youre all thinking about. What I actually meant was people with more of a loner mentality. This doesnt mean that you are "too busy shooting up high schools and committing serial murder" (good one btw ) but rather do have friends, and do "normal" things, but prefer to be in smaller groups or 1 on 1 situations. I myself am this way and just wanted to find out what others with similar dispositions feel, not to mock anybody. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 5, 2005 Share Posted March 5, 2005 Originally posted by toyo This doesnt mean that you are "too busy shooting up high schools and committing serial murder" (good one btw ) but rather do have friends, and do "normal" things, but prefer to be in smaller groups or 1 on 1 situations. I was just kidding TOYO . Anyways many people are shy and grow out of it with age. i was very shy and introverted even up thru college although i had a nice group of friends and did many activities. When I grad uated college and moved out of my parents house and started working and became independent then i started to come out of my shell. Now I am very outgoing and sometimes even the life of the party and learned that I love to be center of attention (but not always). But deep inside me i am still that shy introverted kid. I have learned to beomce more outgoing as my confidence level has escalated with age. BTW, i turn 40 in two wks. Some people are born shy and stay shy for their whole life. Some are born shy and grow out of it as they get older. And then there are people who are born outgoing and extroverted. It is not unlike the shy intoroverted nerdy girl in high school that turns into the beautiful sexy extroverted runway model. Happens all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
joel Posted March 5, 2005 Share Posted March 5, 2005 well i am a loner usually tv, hang out at library, work out by myself, tv again. hmm thats about it. go to bookstore and read mags and go to movies by myself Link to post Share on other sites
MikeE Posted March 6, 2005 Share Posted March 6, 2005 I consider myself the "loner" type. It's not that I'm too shy and I'm not about to go shoot up a high school or anything. It's just that I need to get away from people sometimes and recharge my batteries. I can trace it back to childhood. I only wanted to play with the neighborhood kids for so long before I wanted to be alone. Take a typical weekend: Friday after work I'll typically go to a happy hour with co-workers and from there head out to a night on the town with friends. Saturdays I'll spend skiing or biking or whatever with a group of cool people. By Saturday evening it's time for me to be alone for a while. Cook a good dinner, watch a good movie etc... I spose it's hard for some people to understand. But for some of us it's simply our nature. It doesn't mean we're lonesome or don't like people or anything like that. Tonight is one of those nights. I had some friends and aqcuaintances call, I'm simply happier hanging with myself for now. Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted March 6, 2005 Share Posted March 6, 2005 Originally posted by toyo Hey everyone. This is for the people that describe themselves as shy, loners, introverts, few friends, no bf/gf etc . . . What do you guys do during your free time and what kind of places do you like to hang out at? The reason I'm wondering is that I've read a few posts on here about how people are this and that and dont have many friends or a gf/bf but judging from their posts, sound like they are great people. In fact many of the girls that post this kind of things sound like they are exactly my type! Where are you all!??!? Well i am loner, by chance or destiny i dont know.So what i do during free time is, i surf the Internet to read journals, newspapers, articles on my interests.I am on net 24 hours. I write comments on articles and on an average i post on my blogsite daily and i read few books (hard copy) as well. I also devote good amount of time to cook my dinner and breakfast as well. In winter you have these beautiful things to do such as skiing, walking on lake or even fishing. I tell you there is no more satisfaction than having a coke can in one hand and surf newspapers. Thats life and i enjoy it to fullest. Link to post Share on other sites
True Iori Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 I am a loner and i hang out with my friends listing to music and playing video games and when i am not doing that i on net or doing my home work and that about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Montrell274 Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 I kinda consider myself a loner. I hang out occasionally but with only a few people I know, but as for trying to meet others, I am very shy. I don't really know what to say. If I am not at class or at work, I am usually in my room, surfing the net or something. I try to hang out sometimes, but it makes me feel out of place because I am generally alone... Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 Being a loner has nothing to do with being a sociopath. How many times have you read about the killer or child molester described by his neighbors as "the last person you'd expect to do that kind of thing,"??? I'm a loner, but that doesn't mean I don't have friends; in fact, I have many acquaintances. I just don't hang out with a lot of people. I'm social at work, and when I'm in social situations, I'm social, but I don't have the energy to go out drinking and dancing all the time, and I don't especially like having my ear drums blasted out and having to raise my voice just to be understood in a conversation. I prefer the company of a few in a relatively small, noiseless setting over a few beers, margaritas or glasses of wine. As for friends, I'm very selective about the company I keep. I'm not an elitist, but to get close to people requires that I know as much about them as possible, and that kind of friendship takes a while to develop. Better to have a few good friends than many people you hang out with from time to time. Link to post Share on other sites
The_Fool Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 I'm a loner. For the most part, I'm a pretty confident guy. I'm generally likeable, I've been told that I'm attractive, and most people find me really engaging. I do a lot on my own: go to museums, book stores, coffee shops, restaurants, hiking, exploring the city, things like that. I've still never been to a movie or a bar alone, and really don't see a reason to. I have a few friends at work that I hang out with. We'll grab lunch together, hang out in each others' offices and chat, and once or twice a week we'll all kick back at the local bar for a few hours after work. We're all good friends, and a lot of them hang out together outside of the office. Sometimes, I'll join them. It's rare, though. Outside of work, I really don't know that many people. I'm just not the sort of person who "hangs out" with others. I usually have just one or two close friends that I'll spend time with, and that's typically just once every week or two. There have been a few times in my life where I've had a ton of good friends at the same time (and we all hung out together quite often), but I've never cared that much about the quantity of my friends. It's the quality that's important. In normal day-to-day life, I'm quick to meet people and I'm really easy to get along with. I just don't make the effort at creating lasting connections. I never have, really. It's just not in my nature. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 I'm definitely a loner... I have my moments when I like going out, but I have no problem being a home body either. It's funny, some people think I'm shy while others will say that I'm very outgoing. Guess it depends on the moment, and the people I'm with. If I go out late one night, you can almost expect me to be home alone the next night, especially if it's a Saturday. For the record, I love going to movies by myself. I get to see what I want to see without anyone hassling me. Most of the movies I like are obscure to begin with, so everyone wins, especially me. Link to post Share on other sites
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