prayformydownfall Posted March 5, 2005 Share Posted March 5, 2005 just thought i'd post as i have been reading the forums for some time and never posted. I was reading before xmas wen i was tryin to sort things out with my ex of two years. after a month of us breaking up shes now found a new bf and wants me to be a friend or a 'back up' basically!!! so after reading so many responses on here i decided to tell her to leave my life which i think is the best decision i have ever made. since shes been hangin round on msn, parking next to me and i have seen her around my university and just walked the other way or sed nothing to her. please please please dont use nc as a way of gettin someone back, it doesnt work, u just have to accept its over, and if its true they will come back... yet.. if they have treated u so badly to force u to go to places like LS why would u ever want them back... go find better!!! i just wanna share somethin with u that i wrote the other day "now you've met someone else could it be i've been forgotten could it be i was never remembered could it be no longer you need me could it be you're the weakest fish in the sea? i deserve so much better, i deserve so much more i will move on, i will be strong in time you will see..... you caught one of the best fish in the sea you just let it go and now that fish is free ready to swim again, ready to find a new mate one that will treasure, a fish that is truly great" keep your head up LS, the road is long but u can get thro!!!! PFMD Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 5, 2005 Share Posted March 5, 2005 Great attitude and great philosophy you got yourself. Good on ya and good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author prayformydownfall Posted March 6, 2005 Author Share Posted March 6, 2005 Originally posted by prayformydownfall yet.. if they have treated u so badly to force u to go to places like LS why would u ever want them back... go find better!!! lol and i didnt mean this as LS is a bad place, its helped me a lot!!! and thank you moimeme, for once in my life i know how chance to build from the bottom up again. I am now going travelling all this summer with friends with the money i was saving for our deposit on our house!! i may have lost out on her, but i always wanted to go travelling, wierd how things work out!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Donut Posted March 6, 2005 Share Posted March 6, 2005 That is probably the most difficult thing about any relationship that comes to an end. Letting go is such a finale. It's your way of saying that all hope of rebuilding what you once had is gone. But, it's also a beginning. It's the beginning of a new life. A life that you get to build from scratch. A chance to avoid the mistakes that you have made in the past. You learn from your mistakes and go on. That is what makes us human. It's what makes us different from the other inhabitants of this beautiful world. We continue to search for the one thing in our lives that is missing. It may be something as simple as a kind word. Or the way our lover touches us when we are together. It can even be the way that we can express our love and caring with the person that we want to be with. Chances like that are far a few between. Don't squander them. Make the most of it. Don't be afraid to give yourself completely to the emotions that you feel. It's the only way that you can truly be happy. But, don't be reckless, either. Consider all of your options and make the best choice for yourself. Just be yourself. Don't try to be something that you aren't. In the long run, you'll find that you've made the right choices and that you are happy with the way your life has turned out. But the first step is letting go. I discovered this recently. It's made such a difference in my life, that I felt that I should tell you how I feel. It's wonderful, exhilirating, and frightening all at the same time. But, if you find the right person, you'll have done something that very few lucky people have done. They've built a new life and have filled it with love. Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
Author prayformydownfall Posted March 7, 2005 Author Share Posted March 7, 2005 thanks donut thats great advice to ppl reading this that may be at the crossroads of deciding where they want to take that next step... it takes a brave person to stand up and accept they have to move on.. yet it takes a brave person to try to save somethin that may appear lost but as you say you must take time and dont be reckless. i'm happy with my decision, yet i admit it has been hard for me, i do feel like i have somethin missing from my life and it did hurt before seeing her with someone else but in the long term i have escaped, i have been handed a card that will serve me well in future. I hav been given a chance to rebuild and to carve a life out as i see it, then incorporate someone into it, and i will appreciate wen i get somethin good again, and in time it will be a blessing. i always seek inspiration from songs, this is one of my faves - bubba sparxxx - deliverance "The leaves on the ground, winter's comin again Solid on the surface as I crumble within But legends are made out of vulnerable men So on the brink of death I still manage livin life Cause so rarely in this world are these chances given twice I indeed sold my soul, without glancing at the price No instructions when I was handed this device But with what I did get, I was more than generous Put others over self on several instances But I'm back on my feet without a hint of bitterness And one way or another I shall have deliverance" PFMD - don't stay and rue, go find a way, to find your way Link to post Share on other sites
snoop_dawg22 Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 I love your post. After reading this, I am feeling much better. I'm glad you said that it takes a strong person to stand up and accept to move on. Because lately I've been feeling weak and second guessing my choices. Now I feel that I made the right choice in leaving someone that I guess was not for me. Thanks PFMD also could you PFMD too? Link to post Share on other sites
Author prayformydownfall Posted March 8, 2005 Author Share Posted March 8, 2005 Originally posted by snoop_dawg22 I love your post. After reading this, I am feeling much better. I'm glad you said that it takes a strong person to stand up and accept to move on. Because lately I've been feeling weak and second guessing my choices. Now I feel that I made the right choice in leaving someone that I guess was not for me. Thanks PFMD also could you PFMD too? im glad i have inspired you, it took me a while to get to where i am, i hope by reading my msg it will make the period of hurt shorter for you. It will hurt and you will have periods where your mind will sway but i believe u have to take a path and stick to a decision. Being undecided only leaves you open to more hurt, u really have to grit your teeth and say "its my life and i want it back" in time, life will b good again! if you slip you must get back up, otherwise you will allow people to walk over you pfmd Link to post Share on other sites
ion Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 There is a Japanese saying I like a lot. 'Fall down seven times, get back up eight" Keep up the faith Link to post Share on other sites
Author prayformydownfall Posted March 9, 2005 Author Share Posted March 9, 2005 been thinkin just, its 4 am in the mornin here and i was walkin home from my friends. I cant believe wot a huge chance i have been handed in my life. I have lost out on my ex, but i am now gonna go travelling for a year round the world. i want to be able to tell me kids one day of the things i did, where i went, who i met and how i found out who i am..... i have realised and want to share this with ppl that the only way to truly be happy is build a world back inside yourself, filled with you and everything you ever share. in 5 years down the line, the other person ill wonder how u r and what they are missing, you however will struggle to remember the name of whoever treated u badly wen u were weaker keep the faith! pfmd! Link to post Share on other sites
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