glow worm Posted September 16, 2014 Share Posted September 16, 2014 I swear the song "Don't hold your Breath" (Nicole Scherzinger) was written by an fOW who had gotten out of an A. It's really amazing. "I was under your spell for such a long time couldn't break the chains You played with my heart tore me apart with all your lies and games It took all the strength I had but I crawled up on my feet again Now you're trying to lure me back but no those days are gone my friend I loved you so much that I thought some day that you could change But all you brought me was a heart full of pain. You can't touch me now, there's no feeling left If you think I'm coming back, don't hold your breath. What you did to me, boy, I can't forget If you think I'm coming back, don't hold your breath." There's a few people posting on here about considering NC, or just started NC, and I just wanted to put some encouragement out there. I've only been in NC myself for just over 5 weeks after being an OW for 4.5 years, but it's already the most incredible empowering feeling. Sure, I miss MM like crazy at times, but it's okay, missing him is part of moving on. There is so much to live for when you aren't tied down by life as an OW. Going NC is an incredibly painful experience, and I know when you're in the A it's hard to even imagine ending it, but IT IS SO WORTH IT. I promise. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
WakingUp Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 Yay!!! Me too! I have more energy and enthusiasm at the moment than I have had for years! Seriously thinking of starting an empowerment thread, to encourage all of us OW to stay true to ourselves and to get out of these toxic situations. NC has me walking taller, laughing longer, and getting things done in MY life, for ME. So much time and energy gets wasted in these dead end pseudo relationships. You go girl! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HBIC Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 glow worm, I continue to be amazed by you and really happy for you. I'm so glad you are on the other side and can see clearly now. I did something tonight I haven't done during my months of NC and read a few old emails that I had sent exMM during the A. Found one where I apologized for not being in contact because I had to use the bathroom!!!! OMFG. The abuse of these relationships is mind boggling. Anyhoo, I am grateful for the reminder that my exMM is an epic d*****. Whenever I have a warm, fuzzy thought of him, I just remind myself of the behaviors that showed his REAL nature. Good riddance! Hallelujah! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author glow worm Posted September 17, 2014 Author Share Posted September 17, 2014 Thank you Waking Up and HBIC It really helps to know that others are travelling the same road. Link to post Share on other sites
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