irc333 Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 Just recently seen a quite a few profiles of women having to explain how they like to be "passionately kissed" or "enjoys affection". and if a man doesn't like that, to move to the next profile. Excuse me, but WHY would a someone need to explain this? They make it sound like they run into gay men all the time. I'm like "duh, who wouldn't want to be kissed passionately. " 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 Er...clearly you haven't dated very many men.. Some guys don't see either of those things as being necessary in a relationship. I also know that some just don't know how to do either. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 Because some of us women want and need affection! I'm Italian and being affectionate is a HUGE part of who I am. Not only do I give it in spades but I want and need it from my partner as well. I've done the OLD circuit for a few years and just like everything new, it's a learning experience. Eventually, I too ended up putting a line in my profile that said something like; "I'm Italian and being affectionate is in my DNA. I'm looking for the same in a partner" As I've commented countless times on here on various threads, sexual compatibility is crucial and finding a partner who is equally as affectionate is just the first step in that direction. I've dated cold fish before and let me tell you, it does NOT work for me. When you've done the online merry-go-round, eventually you opt for brutal honesty about what you want and/or don't want in order to TRY and weed out people who might not be compatible with you and take up precious time and energy. What's wrong with that? Side Note: If you've ever heard or read the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman you will understand that every person has a dominant love language they need to receive in order to feel happy and fulfilled and...loved. I'm Physical Touch which means I respond much better to people who use touch with me be it romantic or platonic. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 Kissing -- especially for the sake of kissing -- has a tendency to fade once sex comes into the picture. Many women miss that. While it's a subject I think is better to be talked about then put in a dating profile, it can be an issue. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted September 20, 2014 Author Share Posted September 20, 2014 Kissing -- especially for the sake of kissing -- has a tendency to fade once sex comes into the picture. Many women miss that. While it's a subject I think is better to be talked about then put in a dating profile, it can be an issue. Yeah, I've seen some woman turn their profile into a romance novel. "I like it when when he passes by me from behind as he touches my waist gently to get by" or "I love a man that caresses my hair away from my face as he looks into my eyes!" I mean, it's good visuals and such...but a little TOO much to have in a dating profile. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 Very true. A lot of us love when a man does those things but they don't belong in a profile. Or the can be summed up as looking for a tactile, romantic, gentle guy . . . or something like that Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 Yeah, I've seen some woman turn their profile into a romance novel. "I like it when when he passes by me from behind as he touches my waist gently to get by" or "I love a man that caresses my hair away from my face as he looks into my eyes!" I mean, it's good visuals and such...but a little TOO much to have in a dating profile. hahaha okay the examples you listed are TMI and creepy. tbh it sounds like they are a) writing a romance novel or b) haven't had any action in a VERY LONG TIME. but saying you like affection is fine! Link to post Share on other sites
Kid_Charlemange Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 Yeah, I've seen some woman turn their profile into a romance novel. "I like it when when he passes by me from behind as he touches my waist gently to get by" or "I love a man that caresses my hair away from my face as he looks into my eyes!" I mean, it's good visuals and such...but a little TOO much to have in a dating profile. What, no "I like it when Falco rips away my bodice?" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 Just recently seen a quite a few profiles of women having to explain how they like to be "passionately kissed" or "enjoys affection". and if a man doesn't like that, to move to the next profile. Excuse me, but WHY would a someone need to explain this? Because it's what they want? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted September 20, 2014 Author Share Posted September 20, 2014 Because it's what they want? Less is more. ;-) Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 I won't brag about it, I never was big on kissing. To me it's kind of unhygienic, and it's why I'm not as put off as a lot of guys are by the idea of dating a woman who smokes. Link to post Share on other sites
R3d Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 Kissing -- especially for the sake of kissing -- has a tendency to fade once sex comes into the picture. Yet another reason to wait until marriage. Sorry, couldn't resist. Carry on. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 It needs to be spelled out because of people like this poster who is struggling with a new husband that gives her "pecks/grandma kisses." There are a lot of people who don't French kiss or who are afraid of intimacy to the extent that they can't kiss or barely hold hands. I've been with a few guys that NEVER kiss, but want and expect a girl to do full oral on him without reciprocating anything with their mouth. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 It needs to be spelled out because of people like this poster who is struggling with a new husband that gives her "pecks/grandma kisses." There are a lot of people who don't French kiss or who are afraid of intimacy to the extent that they can't kiss or barely hold hands. I've been with a few guys that NEVER kiss, but want and expect a girl to do full oral on him without reciprocating anything with their mouth. I agree 100%. Passionate kissing and affection used to be a great deal of my life. ....OMG...did it make me feel 'wanted'!!! I remember a holiday me and my now ex went on and ...I went for it one night, passionate kissing in a nightclub. We had been together for about 8 years at this point. Sex was still great and way up there and he had octopus hands (Not crude in public ever..only when appropriate...or sometimes inappropriate but fun! ). His hands always made me know he loved me and more than best friends we were lovers but he had forgotten the kissing bit along the way so one night I re-trained him....he was dying to take me back to the apartment but he couldn't stand up....... Dating now...well...men seem to be one or the other. Lovely guys or horny dudes. Men used to be a mixture of both but not so much anymore. The thing is though that to please a partner you gotta listen and change what you do. The rewards are immense when you do. Many men my age will not change what they do...they actually tell you they will not change what they do. It's a bit sad really. Maybe this is why women my age go for younger men..they are keen to learn and also more into the fact that everyone is different and likes different things. Me, I would never go down there (and never have) on a man without first talking and finding out what he likes beforehand. I have not been there with many men but every single one liked something different. I learned so much from those guys..and judging by their reactions they were quite happy. *cough* sorry...maybe this should be moved to another section.. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 There are a lot of people who don't French kiss Or know how to. You don't want to know how many violent swirly's I got. What's that all about?!? And I am talking adult women here. I think I have a sign on my head that says 'swirl me'. Also, I think all the pro touchy feely women should move to Holland. We have too many cold fish of the female kind here. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 Also, I think all the pro touchy feely women should move to Holland. We have too many cold fish of the female kind here. Only if I can get a job working with tulip and hyacinth bulbs! Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted September 20, 2014 Share Posted September 20, 2014 Only if I can get a job working with tulip and hyacinth bulbs! I'll get you sorted. And no worries, I know you are married. I just want you to set a good example Link to post Share on other sites
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