Tayla Posted September 27, 2014 Share Posted September 27, 2014 Just wanted to chime in- give me a guy with no job! Dated two of them. (not at the same time!). Both retired by 40 . Good Chaps they were. Unfortunately this is about red flags, so here it goes: 1: Deceptive 2: Entitlement issues 3: Wandering eye 4: Zero family values 5: Anger issues. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tayken Posted September 27, 2014 Author Share Posted September 27, 2014 ^ The comment above screams gold digging...I mean if they are retired at 40, surely the attraction is there in between Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted September 27, 2014 Share Posted September 27, 2014 Tayken- I can see how you might assume such. That was not the case. But thanks for reading the post! May I inquire how you took the five red flags in the rest of the context of the post? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tayken Posted September 27, 2014 Author Share Posted September 27, 2014 Tayken- I can see how you might assume such. That was not the case. But thanks for reading the post! May I inquire how you took the five red flags in the rest of the context of the post? This is why proper communication is key. I am glad you saw things from my point of view though, based on info you provided. I wouldn't expect a gold digger to ever consider themselves such...I mean that will just be crazy right? This is all hypothetically speaking mind you Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted September 27, 2014 Share Posted September 27, 2014 I have to pick just 5? Let's see.... 1) has a bad attitude towards women. 2) doesn't take responsibility for himself or for his mistakes 3) dishonest - maybe he lies a lot, or uses people, hides things, etc 4) has problems with the word "no" Finally, 5) talks too much about what he is planning to change about his life or himself. This isn't necessarily a bad trait, and it's okay if he has goals that he's working on. However if he talks about it all the time, I find that he is selling himself to me as the person he is planning to become, not who he actually is. I briefly dated someone like this. It was unsettling. All I heard were excuses for why he wasn't doing something, and how he was going to do this or that someday. I want to date someone who is stable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted September 27, 2014 Share Posted September 27, 2014 Tayken, So sorry to have read that flaw in thinking. red flag number six: Folks that jump to conclusions on limited data. False accusations. Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted September 27, 2014 Share Posted September 27, 2014 Oops, I may have to change number 5 to something new: passive aggressiveness. I once dated a guy who was horrible with that. He kept acting like a dick and denied being angry when I confronted him. Talking things out with him was impossible because he denied, denied, denied. So I would get pissed off and stop talking to him completely. A few months later he would come to his senses, contact me to apologize, then invite me out again. Wash. Rinse. Repeat. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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