advice needed on friend to a little more then to nothing

[whiskey-tango]

This is kind of long i guess. I just need somebody else's opinion on things.

 

About a year ago, I moved to a new area. I quickly met a couple of girls and slowly became a part of their social circle. While I have other friends here, these are the people whose company I most enjoy. A few months ago I heard through the grapevine that one of the girls had some interest in me. She is kind of the shy type. Maybe some emotional issues too, I don't really know. She is def. not one to talk about those things. While i was attracted her, I knew this was a bad idea as she is moving in a few months, she is part of my social circle, and I had not heard good things about her experiences in the boy department. I guess I wasn't initially that interested.

 

We did begin to hang out a little in solo situations. Eventually, I grew to really appreciate her company (and began devloping some feelings). Nothing really happened (besides a kiss or two) as I was definitely standoffish about the whole situation and got no emotional vibes from her whatsover. I eventually confronted her about it and she said something along the lines of "If you want to pursue me that's up to you.". Fair enough. I decided that is what I wanted to do. I went away on business for a week, came back and immediately asked to see her (trying to show her i was interested). Anyway, I gave her a small gift and the she said the dreaded "I can't make the transistion from friends to more..."

 

Fair enough. I can handle that. Since then we have had no contact, aside from running into each other twice at the gym. Now we act like complete strangers, and this is what I suppose bothers me.

 

What should I do? I feel like I have lost a good friend. I'm afraid if i call and ask what is up, I will look like a pathetic douche.

 

How would you handle this situation? Should I just write it off as a loss?

[HokeyReligions]

I would write it off as a loss -- you can't make her into more than what she is comfortable with, and sounds like she is not willing to put the work into building a friendship.