irc333 Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 As a single guy, "Single and searching" though I feel bad for these people, it makes me feel less bad about "finding that special someone", esp. considering the amount of time I've been in these social circles, how some of us on these boards struggle to get dates for long periods of time, when our friends break up within such a short amount of time, especially the marriages that last 2 years. I have to say, recently I've been floored by two unexpected break-ups. A marraige that ended recently through friends that met and married through Meetup. And then a good male friend of mine that ended it with a psychotic woman he had been dealing with the entire time. A lot of friends were not expecting this and they were like "WTF happened?? I thought things were going well!" I do feel bad for them, but this is within all a few years time or even a couple of years. Though it's sad, but with all the "I'm X amount of years old, and never had a girlfriend" or with the amount of 40 somethings that NEVER been married, when hearing these kinds of experiences, you kind of feel....relieved. A "Well, at least I'm doing something right, I'm holding out for that special someone, because with the amount of failed relationships and marriages that have been occurring with my friends before my eyes, I don't feel so bad! LOL" Not that I'm poking fun at those who are suffering through divorce, but it's kind of ironic as we remain single and struggling to even get an online response, we have people divorcing in such little time. So many failed relationships in 2 to 3 years. Do those here that never been married or struggling to get dates, aren't you sometimes glad you're not in these person's shoes? Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted September 23, 2014 Author Share Posted September 23, 2014 Wow, no one had replies for this, this must've slipped through the cracks. Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 I'm at the part of my breakup where I am healed enough to say "better to have loved and lost" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 irc333, from someone who has been there, it's better to be single than in the "wrong" relationship. I believe there is someone for everyone out there. It's just a matter of finding them and you can't shortcut the process. Breakups are a part of life. IMO with all the stresses and expectations of modern life, it's a wonder that people stay together for as long as they do! Good Luck 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 ... I do feel bad for them, but this is within all a few years time or even a couple of years. Though it's sad, but with all the "I'm X amount of years old, and never had a girlfriend" or with the amount of 40 somethings that NEVER been married, when hearing these kinds of experiences, you kind of feel....relieved. A "Well, at least I'm doing something right, I'm holding out for that special someone, because with the amount of failed relationships and marriages that have been occurring with my friends before my eyes, I don't feel so bad! LOL" ... Do those here that never been married or struggling to get dates, aren't you sometimes glad you're not in these person's shoes? Some people are more risk-averse than others. It's just a personality thing. But I don't even see relationships as failures if they end, any more than I see closing a business or changing jobs as a failure. Someone can be your special someone and the relationship might still end. It doesn't make them less special or the relationship a failure. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
OwMyEyeball Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 How many of us walk into a modern grocery store and really ever marvel at the fact that we are surrounded, literally, by tens of thousands of foods and ingredients from around the world. All at prices that for most account for only a fraction of our income. I rarely really consider it, but when I try to I'm filled with awe. Relationships are the same. If they were easy to get into they would lose most of their value. Cultivating thankfulness for what you do have helps to alleviate the suffering you feel for what you don't, and in some weird way, can really help you eventually get it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 How many of us walk into a modern grocery store and really ever marvel at the fact that we are surrounded, literally, by tens of thousands of foods and ingredients from around the world. All at prices that for most account for only a fraction of our income. I rarely really consider it, but when I try to I'm filled with awe. Relationships are the same. If they were easy to get into they would lose most of their value. Cultivating thankfulness for what you do have helps to alleviate the suffering you feel for what you don't, and in some weird way, can really help you eventually get it. What a great post and perspective. I want to add that positive attitude and resilience are key components of being a happy person. The way you described it is really nice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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