Author BoatingBabe Posted March 11, 2005 Author Share Posted March 11, 2005 yes, you are right Johan...I never did plan on this to happen...But he has worked on me for months to get me to notice him....and now I have. Yet, he can't give me what I want and need....and he knows that...so why does he pursue this when it only hurts both of us? Part of him knows I won't settle for less yet part of him keeps trying even though he knows I won't settle.....What will make him stop? I know this rejection tonight has affected him, but will it get him to stop?? Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 You make it sound like you are helpless. As if he's in control of when it starts and when it stops. I don't buy it. If you wanted him to stop then that would be enough to bring it to an end. Maybe I could offer some advice that would sound a lot like things you've already heard. But I know it will fall on deaf ears, because what is happening is what you want to happen. Regardless of what you say. I feel sad for you and where you're headed with him, because you know that it's not going to be good for you or him or his family. I think you should be furious with him for having so little respect for you. He's promising you nothing but heartache. And he's fully aware of what could happen to his family, and the fact that that will be a burden for you as well. He figures either you'll stand up for yourself or you'll be stupid enough to go through all that for no payoff. So far you're proving to be the latter. You're wrong that it's hurting both of you. You're the willing victim. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BoatingBabe Posted March 11, 2005 Author Share Posted March 11, 2005 Actually, you are wrong, because I have resisted it and I am fighting it. I know there is no payoff because I have listened to the other posters....If I were weak, I would have given in today and giving him my number, yet I have NOT. Does it make it easy? no, but regardless, I have outlasted him thus far. It would be MUCH easier if he just disappeared...I only hope it will happen..but even if it doesnt..I will fight it...and continue to fight it , until he gives up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BoatingBabe Posted March 14, 2005 Author Share Posted March 14, 2005 Well we met at a casino with a few friends from work...a group of us, I was there at midnight, as was he, and my friends didn't show up till 90 minutes later. He played at a table the whole time and basically left me alone as I waited for the others, the rest of the night was awkward, and I just wanted to go home...he was aloof and withdrawn the whole time, and I was annoyed that I was left alone for 90 minutes. So it was a disaster, (he did call the following day, I have no idea where he got my cell number from) with the tile excuse. So much for being friends... Link to post Share on other sites
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