Accept being single

[Supernatural]

Thanks for all the input.

 

After the last 2 days and a few responses I do agree that maybe turning off of the dating scene or making myself 'unavailable' in a sense is not ideal. As it will only hurt me in the end. And it doesn't get me closer to anything with that desired romantic effect I have been in search of. Although it's just so difficult to want to be with someone and not find it at all.

 

On one hand it feels like it's just not going to happen - lost hope. And then on the other hand I have so much hope. Although even if I were to get a date, I would guess their just wouldn't be mutual interest, so I would have to start all over again from this current point.

 

I don't know what to do. I do have distractions... But it's always there. That thought of "where is she?" And it just IS NOT going away.

[jay1983]

Thanks for all the input.

 

After the last 2 days and a few responses I do agree that maybe turning off of the dating scene or making myself 'unavailable' in a sense is not ideal. As it will only hurt me in the end. And it doesn't get me closer to anything with that desired romantic effect I have been in search of. Although it's just so difficult to want to be with someone and not find it at all.

 

On one hand it feels like it's just not going to happen - lost hope. And then on the other hand I have so much hope. Although even if I were to get a date, I would guess their just wouldn't be mutual interest, so I would have to start all over again from this current point.

 

I don't know what to do. I do have distractions... But it's always there. That thought of "where is she?" And it just IS NOT going away.

 

So stop waiting on her and get on with your life. If she pops up, cool, if not, don't let it consume you. Just forget about it and find something to do with your time.

 

If you don't like my approach which is understandable. Have you tired, yoga, dancing class, cooking classes? I know they probably aren't your thing, but I think they're worth a shot seeing as how you'll be in there with 20 girls and 3 guys.

[jrtfrisco]

I don't know what to do. I do have distractions... But it's always there. That thought of "where is she?" And it just IS NOT going away.

 

It is makes you feel any better, the above concern (of "where is she?") is so commonplace, that there are literally thousands of songs about it, as well as posts on this site about it (as you know).

 

In other words...you're not alone! "Love don't come easy."

 

Also, live your life, and learn to be happy with or without a significant other by your side.

 

Btw, it sounds like you're relatively young (with ample time and opportunities ahead for you)...so be patient, have a positive outlook, and keep moving forward. You'll meet someone eventually (and maybe as the old saying goes, "when you're not looking").