FOR GUYS, do fit guys only like fit girls??

[Kid_Charlemange]

Contrary to popular belief I think men are a lot more lenient then women these days

 

All a women has to be for an attractive frame these days is not obese having tits is a huge advantage as well

 

Not even that. I've always preferred small-breasted women, and when you start dating people over 45, that becomes an even bigger attraction. "Gravity is a harsh mistress." --The Tick

[MrNate 2.0]

I'm not able to type a full out reply to this, but he pretty much fits the profile that I'm trying to describe....chances are although this guy "prefers" women who are more "curvy" he also almost guaranteed lacking in confidence and his desires have been "adjusted" to who he feels comfortable dating and having relationships with...he needs to feel in control, without a high chance of failure, he needs to "succeed" in his mind that he feels secure within that relationship dynamic...even if you left him, so my conclusion is that this guy simply felt overall you were below his league...therefore he did not treat you like you were irreplaceable, because even if a guy isn't necessarily "preferring" a more fit girl, it's still a status symbol...it doesn't reflect his success with women if he's not with a nice pretty, skinny girl, if he's got an average/cute curvy girl on his arm...other men will not think highly of him, that's why successful men have a typical trophy type on their arm, so it's not just about attraction...in practice men do not need much more than a vagina and some breasts to have sex with a woman, regardless of preferences.

 

It's like when you see this really hot person, at work or wherever..you always assume and imagine them being with a person like X...you assume that for a reason, but how often do they? there's an element at play there that people don't recognize.

 

 

 

"I don't.

 

In fact, super-fit (minus the popping muscles) isn't a big turn on for me.

 

When I was doing OLD, when the lady's profile pic was from a marathon or a mountain climb, I'd usually skip past."

 

Most guys don't but most women aren't that way. But women have a misconception of what is "curvy" and a little extra meat on them, because they feel insecure about their own bodies and these men date them.

 

But you wouldn't necessarily pass on a fit or in-shape women, and you wouldn't turn down the woman with a flat stomach and big booty and breast. The reality is these women aren't necessarily pursuing you anyway, because if they did, you would date them outside of your initial "preference". It's irrelevant what a man's preference is in practice, when push comes to shove.

 

"Funny I work with two fit attractive guys and their GFs are large girls, one is pretty heavy, so opposites can attract."

 

Exactly what I am talking about...these fit guys aren't with large girls out of a preference, but out of lack of confidence. Very few men are attracted to "fat" but most men deal with it...it's not because they like it, it's not because they necessarily prefer it, they just don't mind it...men like vagina and breast, hips, booty, those elements are always in place....so that's already 50 percent of the battle. The rest can be largely irrelevant but I can assure you that you put those girls next to hot yoga pants girl who is not "too skinny" and the large girls become invisible to the majority of men...most men don't watch large women in porn, side by side you really recognize the difference.

 

Imagine if a guy typed that OP. The women would be livid by now. We'd already be at 10 pages.

[smackie9]

I truly believe it's about preference not what league or self esteem level you are at. It some case yes this can apply but not always. There are people who are attracted to what they are attracted to that may not be the norm for others. I have date very unattractive to very attractive, both being long term relationships. I'll tell you this, being more attractive doesn't always make for a better relationship.

 

As you get older you will realize looks are not always what is important.

[Tayken]

I truly believe it's about preference not what league or self esteem level you are at. It some case yes this can apply but not always. There are people who are attracted to what they are attracted to that may not be the norm for others. I have date very unattractive to very attractive, both being long term relationships. I'll tell you this, being more attractive doesn't always make for a better relationship.

 

As you get older you will realize looks are not always what is important.

 

 

Try telling that to most women on dating sites, especially when they come with all sort of baggage themselves.

 

I can understand a single person who has never been married, no kids or been in LTR getting caught up on looks, but if you've been involved in all of this already, then surely you should be able to by now figure out what is of utmost importance in life.

 

Anything else will just mean you are living the definition of insanity.

 

Looks are just starters...I am more interest in the main course, and NO it ain't sex just in case you are wondering

 

If a woman is actually going to open her mouth and say am not in her league...she better have stuff to back this up like:

 

- how many continents she has lived on

- how many countries she has visited

- last thing she did volunteering locally and abroad

- her education level i.e. how many degrees she has, none of that 2 yr diploma nonsense

- hobbies and activities

- what kind of parent she is (if it applies)

- that she is NOT receiving spousal support or alimony

- she has a profession career

 

Then I might just consider if she has a point about this ridiculous "league"

Edited September 27, 2014 by Tayken

[smackie9]

dating sucks whether it's online or irl. The reality is, you have to weed your way through so much garbage, it's just part of life. When you do finally get into a relationship, all those duds you dated are still single....and for good reason! There will always be stuck up, high expectation, shallow people. It's really noticeable because there is more people on OLD. It just get amplified. So the complaints about dating are nothing new. Ya just gotta suck it up.

[StanMusial]

Try telling that to most women on dating sites, especially when they come with all sort of baggage themselves.

 

I can understand a single person who has never been married, no kids or been in LTR getting caught up on looks, but if you've been involved in all of this already, then surely you should be able to by now figure out what is of utmost importance in life.

 

Anything else will just mean you are living the definition of insanity.

 

Looks are just starters...I am more interest in the main course, and NO it ain't sex just in case you are wondering

 

If a woman is actually going to open her mouth and say am not in her league...she better have stuff to back this up like:

 

- how many continents she has lived on

- how many countries she has visited

- last thing she did volunteering locally and abroad

- her education level i.e. how many degrees she has, none of that 2 yr diploma nonsense

- hobbies and activities

- what kind of parent she is (if it applies)

- that she is NOT receiving spousal support or alimony

- she has a profession career

 

Then I might just consider if she has a point about this ridiculous "league"

 

True that.

 

You can definitely tell who is serious about dating and who is just messing around. Part of the issue I see on here is the skew towards OLD, but this is the internet so it is what is.

 

You can't take the green beans and potatoes and meatloaf or salad and chicken and broccoli for granted and go straight for the chocolate cake and apple pie and peach cobbler. You might survive but you sure won't be a picture of health. The same thing goes for dating. I get the gist of the question, it's just seems like these topics about obese and fit etc are all over the place.

[SJC2008]

Contrary to popular belief I think men are a lot more lenient then women these days

 

All a women has to be for an attractive frame these days is not obese having tits is a huge advantage as well

 

This is true an part of the reason is we have to be more lenient. As a whole, women are heavier than man these days (proportionately). This is why if you see a couple where the women is average or better, the woman is usually the thicker one.

 

This of course doesn't mean thicker women aren't attractive, many of them are. It means that since there are more thin men to go around that women can be and are choosier.

 

I got so much more attention from women when I was thinner it wasn't even funny. A women with the stomach and legs I have has ten times the options I do.

[Kid_Charlemange]

As you get older you will realize looks are not always what is important.

 

That's interesting, because I've noted the exact opposite. When I was in my 20s, women seemed to be more interested in personality, charm, future potential, etc. Now that I'm in my 50s, the women my age tend to go the opposite direction.

[CaliGuy]

I'd asked this question before but now I wanna know personally if you were somewhat of a gym rat or even just someone who was fit and toned, not a gym rat but clearly works out, would you ONLY be interested in fit girls?? Or would you pursue a non fit girl or even allow a non fit girl to pursue you?

I'm interested in a guy who's not a muscle god like Shaun T but he's toned, he's also small so he probably has a fast metabolism but anyways, I'm not fit in my opinion, I have chub on my stomach, I'm 5'1 and like 115-120, not fat but just some chub in areas. That being said I do occasionally workout, I have Insanity and I enjoy running and eating healthy, so I'm not a couch potato but I don't look like Ashy Bines, Michelle Lewin, Jillian Michaels etc. Would a fit guy or the guy I like go for me ya think? Or do fit guys only prefer girls as fit as them?

 

Ok I am going to be honest here. I work out 5x a week. While I am not Ahhhnold S. fit, I am in very good shape, especially considering my age.

 

That said, I prefer a woman who works out and stays fit. The fitter she is, the more sexually attracted I am to her.

 

Brutal, honest truth. And yes, I like that gymnast booty

[fortyninethousand322]

I'd asked this question before but now I wanna know personally if you were somewhat of a gym rat or even just someone who was fit and toned, not a gym rat but clearly works out, would you ONLY be interested in fit girls?? Or would you pursue a non fit girl or even allow a non fit girl to pursue you?

I'm interested in a guy who's not a muscle god like Shaun T but he's toned, he's also small so he probably has a fast metabolism but anyways, I'm not fit in my opinion, I have chub on my stomach, I'm 5'1 and like 115-120, not fat but just some chub in areas. That being said I do occasionally workout, I have Insanity and I enjoy running and eating healthy, so I'm not a couch potato but I don't look like Ashy Bines, Michelle Lewin, Jillian Michaels etc. Would a fit guy or the guy I like go for me ya think? Or do fit guys only prefer girls as fit as them?

 

I don't care honestly. As long as you let me go to the gym and do my thing and I'm attracted to you I could care less if you want to go to the gym as often or as long as I do. It would be cool if you'd like to play or watch sports with me, but again, as long as you let me do it I don't care.

[somedude81]

Does anybody know any couples where the girl is thin and fit and the guy is obese?

[BikerAccnt]

Ok I am going to be honest here. I work out 5x a week. While I am not Ahhhnold S. fit, I am in very good shape, especially considering my age.

 

That said, I prefer a woman who works out and stays fit. The fitter she is, the more sexually attracted I am to her.

 

Brutal, honest truth. And yes, I like that gymnast booty

 

 

I have to agree with CaliGuy I'm afraid. I work out 3-4 times a week, plus run on occasion and eat well. I prefer a woman who takes care of herself. I'm 54 tomorrow, and compared to most of the men my age, in far better shape. Half of them get out of breath bending down to pick up the paper. It's sad really.

 

Now, I don't mean that the woman I date needs to workout as I do, but I'd like them to take care of themselves, work out or at least be open to it. It's nearly as important as them liking to ride motorcycles. NEARLY.

 

The woman I'm seeing now boxes. I don't box, but she does and she loves it. And the way it makes her look..wow. It's something else you have in common and can do together, also something thats good for you.

 

Would I date someone who wasn't as into working out as I was. Certainly, however, as we age, keeping in shape actually becomes more important. You need to keep those muscles from atrophying, and keep your joints limber. Getting old is tough enough, let alone being tired just from the act of getting up.

[BikerAccnt]

Does anybody know any couples where the girl is thin and fit and the guy is obese?

 

Yep, and I'm amazed. My Neice and her boyfriend. She is a petite brunette, a real knockout, and her long time boyfriend looks like that guy from Family Guy, seriously.

 

Neither workout though, she drinks and smokes, and so does he. So it all works.

 

Shame though, with the way she treats her body, it's not going to look like it does nearly as long as it could. Nor, if she keeps drinking like she does, will her liver.

[Gaeta]

Does anybody know any couples where the girl is thin and fit and the guy is obese?

 

Yes I do. Friends. She is skinny like a stick and he is the size of Peter in Family guy.

[CaliGuy]

I have to agree with CaliGuy I'm afraid. I work out 3-4 times a week, plus run on occasion and eat well. I prefer a woman who takes care of herself. I'm 54 tomorrow, and compared to most of the men my age, in far better shape. Half of them get out of breath bending down to pick up the paper. It's sad really.

 

Now, I don't mean that the woman I date needs to workout as I do, but I'd like them to take care of themselves, work out or at least be open to it. It's nearly as important as them liking to ride motorcycles. NEARLY.

 

The woman I'm seeing now boxes. I don't box, but she does and she loves it. And the way it makes her look..wow. It's something else you have in common and can do together, also something thats good for you.

 

Would I date someone who wasn't as into working out as I was. Certainly, however, as we age, keeping in shape actually becomes more important. You need to keep those muscles from atrophying, and keep your joints limber. Getting old is tough enough, let alone being tired just from the act of getting up.

 

Agreed.

 

I'm in my 40s but look like I'm in my late 20s/early 30s. I work out enough to stay in shape/fit. I run 3x a week (1.4 miles with 3/4 of that run is uphill). I eat healthy. I drink wine (not beer or hard liquor). I plan to live as long as God allows me to.

 

But one thing is for sure. When I finally meet Ms. Right, she's gonna love me AND my sexy body

[Popsicle]

I am in my 40's and naturally thin/willowy but don't work out. I don't make any concerted effort to exercise, but I like being outdoors. People think I work out all the time (even bodybuilders have said it to me) but I don't. I am not mentioning this to brag, I am mentioning this because I tend to be attracted to guys who are not overweight. They can be thin, toned (Mmmm) or muscular, but most guys who fit this criteria do so by working out. Then I start to wonder if they require me to workout too? Can they be with me without that? It's sort of like being with a vegetarian that requires you to be one too. *sigh* I wonder if I can find a naturally thin guy like myself. We would be best matched, I think.

[bebe23]

My husband was former military, a biathlon and triathlete, competed in an old Winter Olympics venue once. He's still very lean, 6 feet tall and 185.

 

Me, on the other hand? I'm a thick lady. 5 foot 4, 165 and size 12/14, and was a 16/18 some years. He's never complained about my figure, but he has thought I should do more outside activity that he enjoys. So I do, even though my natural bent is couch potato.

[StanMusial]

Does anybody know any couples where the girl is thin and fit and the guy is obese?

 

Well I can throw out some mismatches without defining obese.

 

I know a girl that competes in triathlons. So yes, she is fit. Like gets up at 4 AM and swims and runs and then bikes after work. That kind of fit. She loves it though.

 

Her husband is your average shlub... gut hanging over his belt, scrabbly goatee covering his chins and thick glasses. Like the typical 30 something dude you would see at the sports bar. I would imagine him collapsing after running maybe 25 yards.

 

I know other girls I used to run with that were married to chubby guys. Just average chubby, not like morbidly obese or anything.

 

Some people just aren't into physical activity, girls and guys... I can't really speak for their regular diet but I doubt it is very good...

[Kid_Charlemange]

Does anybody know any couples where the girl is thin and fit and the guy is obese?

 

Sure. I was in that situation. My ex was a size zero, I was about 50 lbs overweight. It happens.

 

Down 30 lbs since then, but still a ways to go.

[Kid_Charlemange]

I am in my 40's and naturally thin/willowy but don't work out. I don't make any concerted effort to exercise, but I like being outdoors.

 

My 5-5, 110# ex never exercised once in the two years we were together. And she drank as much as me, and ate whatever she wanted.

 

Just genetics in her case.

[Blade96]

Guys who do like to work out, or just have nice bodies may like a person closer to their own interests (because often alikes attract) but no not always. One of my good friends he is a normal regular weight for his height and build and takes good care of himself. He is married to a woman who also is one of my good friends (they're an awesome couple and I love em to death). she's been obese for as long as I've known them both (going on 15 years now I've known them) She did start earlier this year to go to the gym and drop some pounds but it goes to show many times people with good weights and nice bodies do give non gym rats a chance. He loves her because she's a wonderful beautiful person inside, and she's always been obese, but she IS very pretty. And he is very handsome.

[somedude81]

Yep, and I'm amazed. My Neice and her boyfriend. She is a petite brunette, a real knockout, and her long time boyfriend looks like that guy from Family Guy, seriously.

 

Neither workout though, she drinks and smokes, and so does he. So it all works.

 

Shame though, with the way she treats her body, it's not going to look like it does nearly as long as it could. Nor, if she keeps drinking like she does, will her liver.

 

Yes I do. Friends. She is skinny like a stick and he is the size of Peter in Family guy.

 

ROFL! Both of you guys mentioned Peter from Family Guy. He must have a popular body type then

[CaliGuy]

ROFL! Both of you guys mentioned Peter from Family Guy. He must have a popular body type then

 

Yes. Tubba Lard!!!!