Will medium length hair hinder my attractiveness to women?

[Swan89]

I'm a guy and I've been growing my hair out for the last 8 months, its about 4 inches long and I look after it, I keep it combed and its off my face to show my face off more because it looks better. I blow dry it, use heat protective products and use a straightening iron to keep it looking neat.

It looks quite good on me but I've noticed that I have had trouble getting women interested in me in recent weeks.

Call me insecure, but I'm more curious and wondering whether I'm better off having it short. I kind of miss having low maintenance hair, but I'm enjoying the novelty of longer hair.

I'm not planning on having it down to my shoulders or anything, but I'm just wondering if the majority of women prefer short hair?

[Michelle ma Belle]

I'm open to anything. I've dated men with short hair, long hair and bald. As long as the guy practices good hygiene, I couldn't care less about how long or short his hair is. I'm much more attracted to his personality and character

[sdrawkcaB ssA]

I have noticed long hair down my back, that I get looks. Though it all depends on your style.

 

Some men look great in short hair but look odd with medium length hair.

 

I am always changing up my style. Once peeps get use to one way I got and get it cut. Hehehehehe!!!

 

Since I have rockers hair, my next cut will be down to my shoulders. Then short.

 

One thing I do note, having natural curl with medium and long hair makes a good bit of difference.

 

Plus the type of conditioner you use. I started using some leave in oil after a wash. Mainly because I grew out of my oily hair stage. Now I can go up to 3 days without having loss of body. Which is more healthy than washing every day, especially with long hair.

[d0nnivain]

Different women are going to find different things attractive.

 

The length of your hair probably has nothing to do with what you are experiencing. What's probably happening is that you are so focused on it, you are projecting & giving off a weird vibe which is decreasing your chances.

 

If you like the way you look & you are comfortable in your own skin, you will project a confident vibe that is far sexier than long hair, short hair or even no hair.

[pteromom]

Different women are going to find different things attractive.

 

Right! I like short hair and find long hair a turn-off. Some women go wild for long hair. And many don't care either way.

 

The main thing is that you wear hair that you like and that you believe reflects who you are, and that you are confident in the style you have.

[pteromom]

Oh it also depends on how you are styling it. If you are looking homeless, then no, no women are going to go for that. It still has to look good.

[leavesonautumn]

It depends on the person, I think.

 

I wouldn't say "no" to a guy just because he has long hair. I dated a guy who had chin length hair in the front but it was longer in the back. It looked sexy when he would push it back and suited his face. His neck beard on the other hand though, yikes. He didn't maintain it the way you do though, he just washed and let it air dry (and only washed maybe once a week:p).

 

If my recent ex had grown out his hair, I would probably have been turned off because it just would not have suited him as he was going bald.

[OwMyEyeball]

If you were to learn that 85% of women prefer short hair over medium-length hair, would you get a haircut for that reason, despite your personal preference for how it is now?

[Swan89]

Um...probably!

[Els]

I tend to prefer short hair on men, but it wouldn't be a dealbreaker if it was kept clean and neat.

[sdrawkcaB ssA]

I did not note in my reply earlier... I have been complemented by women at work or at the counter about my hair. Usually medium and long. I have a hair type some women would love to have. Odd thing is I don't blow dry or brush it when wet. Just let is dry after toweling.

[CaliGypsy]

My normal, personal preference is short hair on men.

 

There are men though who I can't imagine without it. Their hair is so beautiful and it just suits them.

 

I wouldn't rule a man out because of it.

[JDPT]

For some reason I'm really developing an attraction for blondes with hair to their shoulders. Straight hair preferred I just think they look so seductive and bitchy if you will. lol

[OwMyEyeball]

Um...probably!

What if I then told you that 86% of women much prefer a man who doesn't spend a second worrying about changing what he enjoys just to garner the mild interest of others?

[NJ123]

There's no way to answer this type of question since women have different preferences.

[Phoe]

Depends on the guy.

 

There are some men who I think look their best with longer hair, there are some who I think look best with short hair, and some who look best bald!

 

One of my best guy friends a few years back had hair down to his shoulders. He had brown skin, but his hair was naturally light brown. It was straight, extremely shiny, and cut well. I personally thought he was absolutely gorgeous.

 

Another one of my good friends had shoulder length hair for a very long time. Then he buzzed it all off, completely bald, and he looked amazing.

 

Then there's my boyfriend. I like him with hair that's about an inch long. He buzzes his hair all the way off and I don't prefer that, once his hair starts growing out again I really love it. But then he goes and buzzes it all off again haha! I've seen photos of him when his hair started getting quite a bit long, but I didn't prefer that. He has curly texture and that makes for a lot of wild poof when it gets to the 2-3 inch range.

 

So it's not about the length, it's about the guy doing what works best for him.

[lino]

I've noticed that majority of women prefer short hair. I've had both long and short in my life and found much more success with short hair.

[Looking Outside In]

There's no way to answer this type of question since women have different preferences.

 

 

Since I have long hair-and I am a guy, I can shed some insight on this. I can't disagree with the person to whom I quote says as it's true.

 

I think the bigger question might be why is it that some women prefer a longer or shorter haired guy. As a matter of fact, studies show that women aren't attracted to men as much as they are a situation. So given that, and speaking from experience, women seem to gravitate to or from a guy based on hair based on whatever the sociological perception is of that guy in some cases-but not all.

 

Some women will go for Mr. GQ. Why? Because that spells money to some-not all. Others will go for a guy with long hair if they think that reflects Mr. Bad Ass-and if that's what they want.

 

What it boils down to is this-it boils down to the guy. I know there are some that read this who are as bald as they come. Here is something an old female friend told me. Despite the fact a particular guy was bald, she sensed that made him feel less attractive, but in looking past that, she thought he was a great guy and made for a great potential mate. Not all women are like that-granted.

 

Some women might say like someone else on here said, they wouldn't hold it against the guy and it would depend. Speaking as an artist, some men with longer hair look like hell-period. Others, not so much. It all depends on the individual that is viewing you the guy.

 

Having said that, I honestly think that there is a certain genetic disposition that dictates some of these things. I came across an article headline that said as much. It went on to say that certain localities that have a different cultural preference as to these things are because of genetics. So what one woman might like in one locale is not necessarily indicative of all women of any given place.

 

You'll likely get a myriad of opinions on this from women, but speaking from experience, hair is like anything else. Everyone has their own preferences for various reasons. Don't fixate on one single attribute but rather that attribute in the context of the individual-and then take it from there. Make sense?

[Looking Outside In]

Depends on the guy.

 

There are some men who I think look their best with longer hair, there are some who I think look best with short hair, and some who look best bald!

 

One of my best guy friends a few years back had hair down to his shoulders. He had brown skin, but his hair was naturally light brown. It was straight, extremely shiny, and cut well. I personally thought he was absolutely gorgeous.

 

Another one of my good friends had shoulder length hair for a very long time. Then he buzzed it all off, completely bald, and he looked amazing.

 

Then there's my boyfriend. I like him with hair that's about an inch long. He buzzes his hair all the way off and I don't prefer that, once his hair starts growing out again I really love it. But then he goes and buzzes it all off again haha! I've seen photos of him when his hair started getting quite a bit long, but I didn't prefer that. He has curly texture and that makes for a lot of wild poof when it gets to the 2-3 inch range.

 

So it's not about the length, it's about the guy doing what works best for him.

 

 

When I was in HS, I got ragged on daily over my hair. It's gotten longer since, and I naturally have frizzy hair. Did I like that or want that? No, but people kept saying (and some still do to this day) to shave it all off. Oh hellz no!

 

Did anyone do anything constructive to try to make what I had better? Nope.

 

Here is what I did notice-and I still am in disbelief over this. I was tired of the battle of the frizz. I found a hair stylist in a mall after one wasted my money. She told me honestly, since her hair was the same way, she said don't waste my money on chemical treatments. She suggested something known as the flat-iron.

 

(insert rays of light and epic angelic choirs here) Behold the power and might of the might flat iron-and a little Morrocan Argan oil. Why do I say that? It's simple. The flat iron makes my hair nice and manageable, and the oil keeps the humidity from completely frizzing this mop of mine.

 

Now-here is the really good part. Again, every woman will have their preferences, and the woman from Cali said it perfectly as she did with how it depends on the guy. When you're a guy, sitting in the car, and some 20 year old thing comes along with her friend, and she looks like the dark haired woman from that 70's show and compliments you on your hair, as compared to being ragged upon for it, you know you did good.

 

Some women will only go for Mr. Buzz Cut, but some will say it depends. Personally, I am tired of seeing women that are clones of Mr. Buzz Cut!

 

Now, as for what I was saying elsewhere about women and locality, take the woman I quote from Cali. Experience has shown me that women from that part of the US are more receptive to the concept in general and might say "it depends". Here in the south eastern US, many women will firm handedly demand a nearly bald guy-and some of that is associated with a stereotype of a guy who looks like road kill, has who knows what in that head let alone his hair, and men get clumped into that category.

 

I think the woman I quote (who looks refreshingly feminine) says it best. It depends on the guy, and every woman is different.

 

Don't change you to get a woman as eventually you want to be who you are and not who you try to be. When you try to be something you're not for the purpose of appeasement and complacency, the truth eventually comes out. That can pose problems in the future. Find a woman who likes you for you as you are, and not because of what you try to be and you're not.

[Phoe]

Argan oil is good stuff!

 

Good for you not buzzing all that hair off, and sticking to what you wanted.

 

One of my exes had hair longer than mine. It was very curly though, so you didn't see that it was longer than mine until he straightened it.

 

People were always telling him to chop it. He brushed it off. The long hair suited him

[Looking Outside In]

Argan oil is good stuff!

 

Good for you not buzzing all that hair off, and sticking to what you wanted.

 

One of my exes had hair longer than mine. It was very curly though, so you didn't see that it was longer than mine until he straightened it.

 

People were always telling him to chop it. He brushed it off. The long hair suited him

 

 

Ah...a woman of natural beauty and brains who is open to us long haired men. (grinning and blushing) Yes, argan is totally freaking awesome stuff as it works better than olive oil based stuff, doesn't smell like furniture polish, and in the long term is significantly more cost effective. Indeed you are correct!

 

There was a woman once to whom I was physically attracted to who suggest I chop my hair off to find a girlfriend. My reply was, why would I want to do that and look like a crooked Enron executive? Afterall, experience says no hair is a good indicator of no brains! Case and point: WorldCom and Enron people couldn't do math for the life of them.

 

Granted, not all women share your views on the subject matter. Such is life. However, I like your objective and open take on these things.

 

Thank you Phoe for being honest, yet objective and receptive to those of us who are in the minority but still know how to pull these things off with a certain degree of class contrary to popular opinion.

[preraph]

It will divide the women you attract. I only like guys with some hair. I feel no attractiveness for any guy with minimal hair. But it can't just be "grown out" hair. So you need to go to a real hair stylist and keep it cut and styled or it will just make you look homeless. Styled hair will make you more attractive, not less.

[LoneIsland]

I had neck lengthed long hair when I was a teen. Stranger girls whistled, and grabbed at my arm because of it. At the time I wasn't old enough to know what it was about.

 

I would suggest you grow it a bit longer to see if it produces any extra effects.

[Rock Chick]

If you think you can lump a majority of women's opinions together and come up with a general consensus about your hair length then you've just illustrated a potential source of your women problems.

[Tayla]

Like most styles, it depends how the features are. Is the hair hiding those gorgeous eyes or smile? Is the hair accentuating the person.

 

I dated a guy with hair down to his waist. He pulled it back mostly and wore it well.

 

Let the hair be, you groom it well, Its the ladies loss if she finds it unappealing.