Late night mishap with the Boss!

[Missa92]

So after being an avid reader of these forums for the last two years, I am finally making my first post!

 

I work seven days a week, so something like this has never had the time to arise!

 

So for a bit of background, I have been working at this nightclub for eight months now and to be honest, never given a second thought to my boss, other than do a sneaky booty look every now and again

 

Then we were talking a couple of weeks ago about how I don't really hang out with anyone. New to the state since Jan and working seven days. So we exchanged mobile numbers and he asked me what my movements were that week. He goes to a wine bar every Sunday, I should come if I liked. He didn't end up calling me. The next week he did and so I went out with him, his brother and friends. We all ended up back at his place, just around the corner. Somehow (too drunk to remember), I ended up in his bed and massages were exchanged with clothes on. I can remember kissing his jaw and being rejected, he said the whole boss thing etc. But I could tell he was turned on!

 

So we ended up falling asleep. I can remember talking, but no idea what about. 7am had me rushing out the door so fast I only said "bye!".

 

Last night we had a mid week staff meeting where he would hardly look at me. I was hoping we would get the opportunity to be alone and he would say something, but that didn't happen. He ended up rushing off as soon as it was done.

 

So, here in lies the problem. I want to keep flirting with him! He is Single. And, although seriously older than me.. Smoking hot. I know it's not going anywhere. I don't care if I lost my job. It's just the excitement of it all I want!

 

So how to I go about clearing the air on Friday when I see him? And, how to I actually successfully seduce this guy! Haha

[d0nnivain]

When you see him at work (the night club where you are both employed) at some point when no one else is in ear shot you say something along the lines of I had fun the other night. I'd be up for hanging out again like that if you would.

[preraph]

I think he was being friendly and possibly even thinking you might like one of his friends, introducing you to people since you're new in town, but I believe if he wanted to have sex with you, he'd have done it. He sounds like a pretty good guy, but since he rejected you and he's your boss, I'd respect his position and completely back off. Look at it this way: You don't know if there's anything else going on in his life, number one. But whether there is or there isn't, if he decides he is interested after all or the timing is better or whatever, he certainly knows where to find you and how to ask you out.

[Emilia]

Be a smart woman OP, get to know the guy. Make clear with your actions that you are not going to create difficult and complicated situations and keep socialising with him, get to know him, allow him to get comfortable around you. He certainly seems like he is decent and if he is a good guy he will probably keep avoiding you if he thinks you are trouble.

 

Just try to be neutral when he is around, don't make puppy eyes, don't try to flirt, don't try to corner him. After a week or so tell him you want to socialise more because you are new in town and promise that you will behave. Spend time with him, weave your little web that way.

 

This is how you hook a reluctant guy that is attracted, not by going gun ho.

[PegNosePete]

I think he's made it pretty clear that he doesn't want to date an employee.

 

Tell him you quit, then ask him out.

Edited September 26, 2014 by PegNosePete

[Emilia]

I think he's made it pretty clear that he doesn't want to date an employee.

 

Tell him you quit, then ask him out.

What guys say and what they do are two completely different things.

 

Certainly don't leave your job OP. Just get to know the guy.

[gaius]

Odds are really good he knew what he was doing when he literally invited you out drinking. It's hard not to notice the sexual power you have over women when you're their boss. You have to be borderline retarded not to. Which means he's hesitant but open to it on some level.

 

Just be gently persistant but don't get crazy with it.