my wife dont love me anymore

[hro]

Well i am 38 years man, married for 9 years with very gorges 31 years old women, our marriage was after 1 year we see each other, and we knew each other very well, from the first day we married i felt she is away from me in sex, although we have very hot and good sex in the past months (before the marriage). i think that may be she need some time, she left her parents home and living new life with new man.

 

but the problem exist and go more complicated, as the years gone by she started to go away from me, she never wanted to be kissed, or me to grap her hand, even to drink and talk,

 

really i cant organize my thoughts in a straite line to give a organized story, but i felt the problem from the very beginning days, and when i tell her that she is gold in relationship, she turn mad and start to yell on me and close the conversation,

 

she never have sexy cloth on her, she never let me have a oral sex with here, maybe 2-3 times only with a million request.

 

but the main change was happened 2 years ago 2012/8 when the war started in our country, and we forced to leave our home and lived in others home some times, some other times we travel outside of our home country.

 

and as anybody know about war, when you are outside you have to find job and rent a home and find school for your children, and so on.

 

she started to go more away from me, but the problem that i am seeing with whom she is going with and noting care her, as if i am the responsible of everything, and she can have joyful life as she want.

 

although the activities that she is involved in all are church related, but this don't prevent to her to start loving other guy, just because he is on the same harmony as she is. and forgetting that she is a mother of two little girls.

 

i don't know if she had a relation with that guy, but its not fair to leave me in this hard situations.

 

and when i talk with her asking what was the problem, she is saying i don't have any problem. i asked her what she want from me, she don't response, after that she pulls the ring.

 

now i am living this life for more than two years, after 6 months she started to talk about divorce, but the problem is in our society the divorce is very big mistake, but on the other hand we cant live a hell life before we die.

 

she asked from me to start working, i prevent her that because she is looking for new relations, and i don't want to loose my family that built,

 

the bigger problem is that we are waiting our immigration papers to Canada, and in case its worked i am thinking it will be much easer to her to find new relations there and reach to the divorce that she is looking for.

[Dontfindme]

You can't force her to be with you if she needs to leave. Why force something that makes you unhappy anyway? Society won't fix your marriage.

 

I'm sorry that this is happening, but some sort of separation right now is probably for the best. You can both reflect and go from there.

[GorillaTheater]

First things first: get your family safely to Canada before taking any hard action on the marriage. Get your kids out of the war zone. Don't do anything that might screw up the immigration process.

 

Next: get on your feet, get a job, learn your way around your new country, and work on you (physically, mentally and emotionally).

 

In other words, focus on your kids and yourself. Take the focus off your wife.

 

If after a while your wife is still the same, then look into separation/divorce.

 

Cultural differences aside, I don't want to be with somebody who doesn't want to be with me, and I'll never settle for being any woman's second choice. We're more valuable than that, both of us.