Would a Narcissist/Sociopath give you a reason why the relationship ends?

[Hollywood-Tourist]

Thing with closure is that we look for it in the other person. Which is why (almost) we never get it.

 

Because to them they have gained what they wanted for their satisfaction & just drop the victim like a hot stone.

 

Once the victim questions their actions, they get all arsey & can't be bothered to explain why so instead they just take the easy way out and say nothing.

[preraph]

They might give you reasons if they wanted to demean and punish you. They're not going to do it to make you feel better though, because they don't think about that. Their reason is always going to be me, me, me, but they're always going to blame you, you, you.

[Missy0724]

IMO narcissists have HUGE egos, are very selfish, so will blame shift, skirt responsibility, gas light you, turn situation around on you. They may try to better themselves, perhaps know they have issues, but it is very very hard for them to "change" or understand our perspectives, that they hurt us, that we have feelings, to get them to empathize with us.

 

If we find they cannot, we need to let it go. Only WE can get closure for ourselves. Because we are the only ones we can control and/or change. We cannot change them, what they say, how they treat us, their actions, get them to have empathy, say Sorry and really mean it, explain to us, be totally honest, admit their faults, where they might have gone wrong... They are VERY immature and just don't have that ability as normal, healthy people do.

 

This has been my experience. I had a mother who had narcissistic traits pretty badly, and a sister as well. (our whole family had to walk away from them due to the damage they caused. Very sad. And they did not see their illness, so refused to get help.)

 

And a recent BF also had these traits. They can be the most charming, sweet, charismatic, giving (with material things, money, "show off", etc.) people - but when it comes down to emotional connection and intimacy - They just cannot give it, nor receive it. Or understand when they hurt someone, and that their actions, treatment, has consequences. They have NO BOUNDARIES.

Edited September 26, 2014 by Missy0724

[Cristo]

If you have been in a relationship with a Narcissist/Sociopath (especially a female), do they ever typically give closure when ending it?

 

The vast majority of people are narcissists these days. And since most people don't give any closure, then it's fair to say that no, they wouldn't.

 

A narcissist is very different from a sociopath. However, I do think that our society encourages normal people to become both.