Is This Mental? I can't Stop Pigging Out! Eating til it Hurts....

[sell out hut]

Matt here, i'm 26.

 

Got a problem. I'm not fat, but out of shape. I weigh

about 166, i'm 5'10. Gotta a fiance I live with. We

love each other to pieces....Everything is good.

 

Here's my prob.... I think that I eat WAYYY too much food.

Sometimes, [color=darkblue]it's all I think about[/color]. I can't wait til dinner. I look

foward to MEALS, all the time. But, I think it's bad. Me and my girl,

we're both Food lovers and love to try different places and

we like to cook together and she loves to cook for me.

 

I'm not constantly snacking all day. But when Dinner time roles I'm packing it in

and looking for dessert..... Or.... if I'm off on the weekend, and My girl is off at work and

I know I'm not gonna see her for at least 6 hours, I totally Pig Out. I'll eat a huge meal

or cook myself a big meal and hope to god i can digest it before she gets home, so

we can have a good dinner together. I just love all the tastes of food.

 

The thing i'm worried about is that, I feel like I have no self-Control

and I'm eating such bad stuff; tons of salt, tons of sugar, soda, fast food(only when

my fiance is not around, cuz she hates fast food, and tells me not to eat it, cuz it's bad)

It's so weird, because it sounds like such a sissy Cop-Out to me, to have no

self-control, but it's true. I know all this salt and sugar and soda is bad for me,

but I can't stop, i feel addicted. I can't eat dinner w/o Coke. or Pepsi.

 

my girl says i'm just a dude and dudes eat a lot. But i disagree.

 

I feel bad after i've cramped a bunch of food in my belly. I feel disgusted because, i'm

starting to get a big belly and my pants are fitting tight, I've always loved, loved food,

but I feel like this 'problem' of over-indulging has only recently started in the last 2-3 years.

I can't just have a little bit, I need to feel "full" after every meal. I can't stand being Hungry.

I need to fill it, immediately. We'll order a whole large 16 slice pizza and i'll eat almost all of it,(she'll

have a few slices, i'll have 6 or 7) and i'll be hurtin' right after. I feel like i'm

addicted to certain food, And I just keep going and going, even though my belly can't

take it all. Just last week, I ate so much i was in sooooo much pain the whole night into the next

day.

 

Is it mental?

[tiki]

Wow, it's like eating is your hobby.

 

Buy smaller plates? Eat smaller portions. Have you put on a lot of weight or anything?

 

Let her in on your little 'secret' and allow her to help you and monitor your intake.

 

Take small breaks in between eating. Eat some and if you're still hungry after twenty minutes, go back for seconds. You may not be giving your food enough time to cut off your 'I'm hungry alarm'.

[milane]

I don't think you're alone. check this out:

 

http://www.oa.org/index.htm

[Otach]

Skate. Even if you can't balance on the board well just skate and work on it. It helps. It's a good guy thing to do (not that girls can't do it) and I kept active and lost 36 pounds without changing my diet that much. Then again, I hardly eat junk food..

[an'ka]

Hi, even though I am a girl, I could totally relate to what you are saying. I had the same thing for about 3-4 months until I made a real effort to stop. I did some research and found out that this is a real eating disorder that is called "compulsive eating disorder" or "emotional eating" or "binge eating". For me it happened because I started working as a personal trainer and became real good friends with a trainer who was really concerned about the way he ate.

 

We constantly talked about eating healthy, losing weight, being in shape, and after a while I started noticing that I'm pigging out very ofter till the point that I can't breath. I would have mostly ice cream, chocolte, and chips (the junk food). And especially it got worse when I told myself to stop. I would binge at night when everyone was asleep, or right before I would spend lots of time with this trainer friend of mine.

 

I started gaining weight like crazy, started getting depressed about it. All I could think of was food. It was so annoying. Everyone knew that I became a trainer and I supported healthy eating habbits, so when I would eat out with friends or family I would feel pressured to order something healthy and skip the dessert, but then I would come home and have lots and lots of dessert.

 

I bought few books, did some research and went through some changes that really helped me. Now I don't have the same behavior. I stopped thinking about food all the time. I have junk, or sweets whenever I feel like it, and I am loosing my weight.

 

I'll tell you what I did:

 

First of all you said that your fiance doesn't think that you should eat junk food. Here. This is your problem!!! This is the same influence that my trainer friend had on me. When you tell yourself that you cannot have something your body and mind rebells and goes totally against you. If you'll tell yourself you cannot have french fries all you will want to eat is french fries. You see the logic?

 

1)You cannot tell yourself not to eat something. You should tell yourself that you will only eat something when you want to. If you feel like eating junk food when your fiance is there you should talk to her and tell her that you have a problem and the only way to deal with it is to let yourself eat whatever you want. Calm her down by saying that it will go away. Your urge to eat junk will slowly go away as long as you let yourself have it sometimes.

You binge on junk food before your girl comes home becaue unconsciously you know that you won't be able to have it when she is there.

 

2) You need to learn to eat when you are hungry. This sounds very simple, but when was the last time you felt hungry? Physically hungry? You probably forgot what hunger feels because you are always eating something.

You need to train yourself to listen to your body and fulfill it's physical hunger, not emotional.

 

Here is an exercise for one day that will help you discover what your physical hunger feels like:

You wake up. You sit quietly for a minute listening to your body. Does your stomach hurt? Do you feel dizzy? any other signs that let you know that you are physically hungry? if not then just go on with your day: brush teeth, take a shower, get dressed, whatever. Then check again. Are you hungry now? If yes, then have something that you feel like eating. If you feel like eating junk, go ahead, but don't stuff yourself. Have a little. Promise yourself that as soon as you will feel hungry again you will eat.

Then wait again, and don't eat until you feel physical signs of hunger again. Repeat this the whole day. Feel hungry-eat, feel hungry-eat, feel hungry-eat. By the end of the day you will know what you physical hunger feels like.

 

Well, I could go on and on, but I would advise you to read the book that I read. It will explain everything much clearer.

 

It's called "It's not about food" by Caro Emery Normandi and Laurelee Roark

 

Here how to know if you have this disorder:

 

Frequent episodes of eating what others would consider an abnormally large amount of food.

 

 

Frequent feelings of being unable to control what or how much is being eaten.

 

 

Several of these behaviors or feelings:

 

 

Eating much more rapidly than usual.

Eating until uncomfortably full.

Eating large amounts of food, even when not physically hungry.

Eating alone out of embarrassment at the quantity of food being eaten.

Feelings of disgust, depression, or guilt after overeating

 

I hope I helped. If you have any questions I would love to help. I know how distracting and depressing this behavior is. You feel not in control. I fixed my eating behavior and I want to help you fix yours.