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[tostitos]

Hi, it’s really good to meet you all, and thanks in advance for taking the time to read this. I’m just feeling a little down right now and came here to hopefully get it out of my system. I’m a young man in my mid 20’s that has never had a girlfriend before, but I’m not here to complain as I feel very grateful to be where I am now.

 

I’m currently in professional school, and I’ve been really getting to know this classmate of mine. We talked a lot and went out a few times, so there was a rumor that we were going out. When I brought this up, she basically said she’s too good for me as a joke and then proceeded to tell me how she thought one of the café workers was cute. Having faced unrequited love many times before, I never really thought anything would happen between us, but there was no need to add insult to injury like that.

 

Although she was “joking,” I thought she was very condescending especially since I thought we were pretty compatible intellectually as well physically. Anyways, that’s my recent negative experience with dating. I’d like to replace that with a positive story, so if anyone wants to share the story of how they got together with their SO, I’m all ears. Have a good one!

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[d0nnivain]

Keep looking. She's not the only woman in your school. Move on to the next. I'm sure they have mixers & other social events for the students, go. Join a campus club. Be social. You will find a GF.

[Fondue]

Next time call her out on the condescending crap.

 

Honestly.

 

Regardless of how she feels about you, a normal person doesn't say that. I wouldn't tolerate that crap. Lose that friend, you don't need that kind of attitude.

[HappyLove]

No need to get offended. You should actually be grateful that you've seen her true colors and didn't waste any time pursuing her. Get involved in school functions as suggested and it will open you up to meeting a lot more women. On to the next! Good luck!

[scooby-philly]

I agree. Your better off having seen her true colors. I remember a great aeticle I read earlier this year where a woman in her mid or late twenties was interviewed along with her new husband. She said she realized something that changed her life and lead her to find her husband

She stated that she woke up ans realized she didnt want or need a prince in shining armor but a man to be there through thick and thin.

 

 

So....get out there and find someone!

 

I was a virgin and never had a long term girlfriend till I was in my late twenties.

[tostitos]

You guys are absolutely right. I learned a long time ago not to get stuck on one girl. In fact, I'm not even trying at the moment because I was trying to avoid exactly how I'm feeling now. I'm trying to focus on school, so it really sucks that she came along... In my head, I'm like forget her, but it's not like I can control how I feel. How do you guys speed up the process of feeling like crap after being rejected?

[Assasda]

OP you need to have a thicker skin.

Roll with the punches.

 

Do you have brothers or sisters that tease you, and stuff like that?

[OwMyEyeball]

You guys are absolutely right. I learned a long time ago not to get stuck on one girl. In fact, I'm not even trying at the moment because I was trying to avoid exactly how I'm feeling now. I'm trying to focus on school, so it really sucks that she came along... In my head, I'm like forget her, but it's not like I can control how I feel. How do you guys speed up the process of feeling like crap after being rejected?

By moving on to the next one.

 

It's also very helpful to have plenty of other purposeful activities in your life to soak up any "down time" you feel following a rejection.

 

If you still have issues with the feeling during unavoidable isolation (stuck in your own head) then focus on the feeling itself rather than any associated thoughts. The sooner you feel a feeling through, the sooner it will pass on. The more you think into it, the longer it will linger and cause anguish.

[tostitos]

OP you need to have a thicker skin.

Roll with the punches.

 

Do you have brothers or sisters that tease you, and stuff like that?

 

Ha. I'm good man. My siblings were horrible to me. I just went into a bad place because she's no supermodel herself yet she looked down on me. I was into her personality and she's only into looks. I thought it was the guy's job to be shallow?

 

By moving on to the next one.

 

It's also very helpful to have plenty of other purposeful activities in your life to soak up any "down time" you feel following a rejection.

 

If you still have issues with the feeling during unavoidable isolation (stuck in your own head) then focus on the feeling itself rather than any associated thoughts. The sooner you feel a feeling through, the sooner it will pass on. The more you think into it, the longer it will linger and cause anguish.

 

Thanks for the good advice, I'll definitely try to focus on the feeling itself. I actually have a lot of work I need to accomplish so that's helping, but stress and these emotions have been messing with my focus lately. That's why I came here to let it out, and I feel better now.

[guest569]

At least she was honest, and now you know. I dont have a significant other and although I have been heartbroken, I have experienced love and I guess that is something to look forward to. Rejections always hurt but when you find someone amazing they will diminish the negative experiences and replace them with hopefully some amazing moments.

[Mysterio]

My take is that you are not missing out with this woman. I feel like unless the woman is into you. There really is not much to fret about. Be open and friendly and the woman that is ideal will find you.

 

If you go out and do this big search for the woman of your dreams. You might just take anything that comes. Keep doing well in school and take a recreational activity that interests you, that has nothing to do with girls at all. It will focus your mind away from something that you can't control.