I'm 16, the guy I like has a GF, but should we have sex anyway?

[AngelKitten223]

Hey I'm a 16 year old girl and I'm a vigin. I have had feelings for this certen guy will call him Tony for like two years. Well Tony kinda used me most of my freeshman year we'd fool around. I didn't really understand that I was just his whore nothing more and I really got upset when my friend informed me that that was all I really was to him cause I had extreemly strong feelings for him. I told a few people that we had fooled around and well they kinda confrunted him. He got mad at me and wouldn't talk to me for a while but I still had feelings for him. I've tried to ceatch his atention most of this year and well. This week my dads in the hospital and my mom works to like 8 at night. and I told him this well he got exsited and offered to come over one or two nights. I was the one complaining that I wanted to "Do some thing bad but had no one to do it with." So I basicly offered that. But then he metioned that he dose have a girlfriend and made me promise not to tell. I wanna be with him but I know sexual gradification wont make the loveish feelings I have for him go away? Please tell me your opinion.

[tiredofbeingtheother]

sweetie you are too young to be having sex( i wish i would have waited). and he is involved with someone. you dont want to do this youll end up hurt.

[StillHurtin]

PLZ don't do it! I had a thing for a guy when I was your age. He told me him and his GF had broken up and so we fooled around (but didn't go all the way, I was still a virgin myself). The next day I found out that he actually had not broken up w/ his GF. Her and her friends made my Junior year a living hell! PLZ don't do it. If he has a GF let him go. It's not worth the pain you go through knowing he is w/ her all the time and if she finds out she could make your life miserable too.

[whichwayisup]

Angel, wait until you find a single guy who will adore you and treat you like you deserve to be treated. This guy isn't him, and from what you've said so far, he sounds like quite an A-hole!

 

Try hard to get over him because he will break your heart.

 

There is someone special waiting for you! Just not this guy.

[curly]

This guy has treated you like a jerk previously. He will treat you bad again. He's young like you, I gather? He's just doing what teenage boys do. Do anything, go anywhere, say ANYTHING to get in your pants. Don't take it personally. It's their job.

 

Take it from us, we've gone down roads you couldn't possibly fathom (& neither did we, once upon a time). We've seen men at their worst and these are grown men. They will do anything to get laid. Especially a 16 year (or 17, 18 - 30) old boy/man.

 

The title to this post is "Don't waste the pretty" because that's what you'll be doing. You've already wasted time trying to get his attention. He's not into you. Until you're offering something he wants, then he will do anything to get some. You have something very valuable, your virginity. It is not a curse, it is a commodity. It's your's and your's alone. You will never, repeat NEVER!!!, get it back. Don't throw it away on some guy who will, abso-f*cking-lutely use you and discard you very quickly. You will regret it the rest of your life.

 

These are very big, grown-up decisions you are making. 16, I know is getting close to grown-up, but believe me, you don't have the insight yet to deal with the consequences of having sex. Think about diseases (you don't know what he has) and possible pregancy. Even condoms only have a 99% birth control rate. You could be the 1%.

 

AND he has a girlfriend who is bound to find out. If he's not willing to leave her, what does that make you? He wants to keep you on the side. Trust me, doesn't work, ever. It seems like he's planning to bang you, keep the girlfriend and when he tires of you - exactly the moment you can't offer a house w/o parental supervision - is when he'll dump you and continue on with the girlfriend, who sadly is none the wiser.

 

This whole situation is loaded with BS from him. Don't do it. Find a nice guy that is not trying to jump your pants.

[HoldOn]

Are you on the pill? If you are going to have sex, you need to take all precautions possible . (A condom AND the pill). Condoms alone fail at least 10% of the time. Are you ready to have a baby with a guy who will only take you as "the other woman"?

 

You deserve more respect than this. Please don't have sex with him. Wait for the right person who would do anything for you and love you. You'll regret it if you have sex with him, I guarantee it.

[AngelKitten223]

Hey thinks everyone who replied I still have feelings for him but I'm not going to lose my virginity to him I don't wanna give away something like that. to a guy like him

[HoldOn]

That's great.

 

Having sex is very important decision, but even more when it's your first time. Please don't feel like you have to lose your virginity any time soon. I promise you'll survive without sex for a couple more years!