brokenlove14 Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 I went completely NC and worked on moving on. Through the teachings of Katarina Phang, I learned that I was over-invested and have issues letting go. So I gave her recommendations a sincere effort, worked on making my life one that I love, stayed busy, opened myself up to dating others after I felt ready, and listened to sermons and guided meditations to help with the process of letting go and not seeking attachment to feel fulfilled. My ex called me a few times throughout that period and recently let me know that he would like to date exclusively, but doesn't want to jump into a relationship. He wants to take things slow instead of us building up expectations of each other and where our relationship is headed. We speak daily and he consistently initiates dates so we also spend a good amount of time together. And it feels amazing because neither of us are in that place of fear or lack, we just genuinely want to spend time together but allow each other much freedom. Anyway, I consider this a success story. Both of us are on the same page and understand that things won't necessarily work out but have agreed to enjoy every moment we have together instead of focusing on unknowns. During this time we've both realized there are other people out there we can be happy with if we just stay positive and open ourselves up to love. But, we are also very smitten with each other and are happy to give things another go...slowly instead of just picking up where we left off. Just wanted to share since I know success stories helped me in my weaker moments. But seriously exercise, do guided meditations, make new friends, start up new activities, date once you're over the feelings of despair. Make your life fulfilling for you, and it wont matter if your ex comes back or not! Link to post Share on other sites
HopelessRomanticGuy Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 Congrats! brokenlove14 It sounds like you two are on the same page. That is wonderful! Best of luck to you! Keep taking things slow! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
tiarakitty Posted September 29, 2014 Share Posted September 29, 2014 Hello! May i know who's the dumper and the reason for the break up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokenlove14 Posted September 30, 2014 Author Share Posted September 30, 2014 Hello! May i know who's the dumper and the reason for the break up? My ex-bf is the dumper, he said he had doubts about us, was losing attraction, we didn't have deep conversations anymore (his fault because he started calling much less). I'm sure my anxiety over why he was being distant was the issue, neediness even when you try to hide it is not attractive. Now I just take care of me and he loves that. He says my life seems so exciting and I seem so happy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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