crush on a co-worker

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So I have a crush on a co-worker and have no clue what to do. I met him a little while ago in the break room when we ended up at the same table during lunch. He is cute (my type) and was fruendly and talkative. Eventually I thought "this guy is pretty cool!" Then a few weeks later after almost forgetting about him (don't see him often) I end up at the same table with him again. This time I was nervous (not the most outgoing person especially around a nice cutie) and he was tired so not a whole lot happened. After that I kept running into him all the time... going to the bathroom, water cooler, walking past my desk, etc and I would always smile and say hi. Now its a full blown crush.

 

Recently, a co-worker needed some help at her desk so he came to assist so I got some face time. He looked at me a few times... then my co-worker and I went to lunch and ran into him so we talked about the issue again. During this he faced directly at me and kept looking at me and smiling, etc. Laughing and stuff...

 

Since I didn't have a lot of opportunity to get info from him my other co-worker offered to ask him questions about his relationship status. He has a girlfriend but doesn't think it'll work out because she refuses to get a job (I know right??). Then rumor has it he and another person were caught smoking pot in the parking lot.

 

My issue is two-fold. First, do I go further with this crush after the pot thing? I seem to be going after similar guys... I can't dismiss someone for smoking pot but at our job is pretty stupid, right? Second, if I do continue... HOW do I get progress? I'm horrible with flirting and pursuing someone.

 

Also, I am overweight but attractive. Do guys actually go for someone like me? I never am successful when overweight but when I'm average I have boyfriends and admirers. Is it me or is it them? Would love some input on this.

 

Thanks everyone!

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Also, I am overweight but attractive. Do guys actually go for someone like me? I never am successful when overweight but when I'm average I have boyfriends and admirers. Is it me or is it them? Would love some input on this.

 

Thanks everyone!

 

Sorry, but it all depends. Some guys will find you attractive. Some will not. I know it sounds cliche, but it's true. Chemistry is the key. And you either have it with someone, or you don't.

 

Strangers can't possibly break it down and tell you yes or no, he definitely likes you or doesn't. You have to use your gut (no pun intended). I wish you the best!

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First, do I go further with this crush after the pot thing? I seem to be going after similar guys...

 

Are you saying you keep liking pot-smokers? Talk about a run of bad luck.

 

I'd advise staying clear until the dust settles in every sense.

 

1) Looking and smiling at someone could mean... nothing. I regret looking and smiling at certain people because then they got the wrong idea about how I thought of them and it ruined any potential for a friendship.

 

2) He's still in a relationship. Sure that relationship might be going to the dogs, but just because he breaks up with her doesn't mean he'll be into you. And he'll have an ex on his tail in that immediate aftermath.

 

3) Doing drugs at work is stupid. And possible symptom of bigger problems. Maybe he has a really bad pot problem. Pot addiction isn't exactly common but it does exist. Even still, smoking pot at work is plain stupid and unprofessional.