Broke up because of age will we have another chance?

[Countryguy32]

Hi everyone this is my first post here and it's a long one so try to stay with me!

 

My girlfriend of two years and I broke up a month ago. She was 16 and I was 19. I know the age difference is big and were both young but let me explain our relationship. I have known her since she was 11. She was my best friends neighbor and was like a little sister to him. She had always had a crush on me and I always thought it was cute but never thought anything of it because she was so young. As the years went by we became best friends. She matured much faster then me by 14 and had done more partying and had more boyfriends them I did at 17 so we talked about our relationships and problems and texted everyday for years. She always liked me me but the age thing kept me away. Eventually as she got older we both fell In love and started dating. We were amazing together. We never fought had great times and I treated her like a queen. I made sure to stay away from the sexual side of things because I wanted her to be older and make sure she was ready. Fast forward two years to a month ago and we were still amazing. I saw her all the time I went to California with their family( they love me because they know I am a good kid) and we were perfect. We had done things but not sex because I was still wanting her to wait and be ready. When school started it started to change. There was a guy in her class that has been in love with her for years. She tried it with him when they were younger but she knew he wasn't a good kid. I could only see her once or twice a week because of college and this guy saw her everyday. After weeks of him telling how much he loved her she wore down. She started texting me that we don't have a spark and she is to young for something this serious and she wants new love. She wanted to stay with me but she had this feeling that kept her from eating or sleeping and she was unhappy. We fought about this a few times and I tried to salvage it but I knew it was over so I broke it off saying we both need to grow up a little but I want to try again in the future and that I will always love her. She agreed an said she will always love me too. It ended on good terms it hurts but I am not angry.It kills me that I had waited for her so long to be my first time and now this pothead will be but I understand. We were each other's first love and we need time to experience things a little. My question is do you think we could ever have a chance again and how long should I wait before trying. The guy she is with is not a real bad guy just an 18 year old pot head that's not going anywhere with his life and I'm curious how long you thin they'll last. There was nothing in the relationship that would make me think we couldn't be together forever it was just age. And I'm going to be a doctor so I know I can provide for her. I have nothing but good intentions for her and I think she is the one. I am surviving the breakup and have been on a few dates and trying to experience college as much as I can. I have done no contact to let her learn that the guy she is with is not good for her. I hope she will come back but I don't know how long to wait to take her back. Sorry for the long story and thanks for any advice!

[d0nnivain]

Some people just out grow each other.

 

You never know what the future brings. If you are inclined to try again, I'd wait until at least you are both out of college or in your early 20s. Understand you both may not still be single at that point.

[leoc1973]

when I was 16 I was dating a 16 year old girl. I waited for 2 years for her to put out lol. But she never did. Same type of situation where this guy wore her down she dated him for a week and they had sex. I begged and cried and did all the things that a dumb young guy does but as soon as I met someone new she dumped that guy and started begging and crying to me. I would go out to the bars all over the city and for 3 years she would show up no matter which hole in the wall bar my friends and I went to. Today I am facebook friends with her and she still tells me I am the one that got away.

 

My point is learn from my mistake. NO begging and crying and keep dating other girls. Totally blow her off. Because as soon as I did that is when things changed. As hard as it is and as much as she cries you have to cut her off.

 

She is young tho would you rather her sleep with a few other guys now or date you for a few years and then wonder and come down with a bad case of GIGS? One way or the other man I hate to tell you but you are probably in fo a world of hurt with this girl. Either now or later.

 

The modern woman is different and probably 1 in a 100 where she is going to have just one guy in her life. It's not a bad thing. People should all have several sex partners so they know what they have instead of always wondering.

 

My question to you is this...If she sleeps with this other guy are you going to be able to get over it? I wasn't able to and I wish I was because I know much more now than I did years ago. That girl I was with seems like an amazing woman now a days.

 

My advice is let her explore what else is out there and you do the same. You are single and in college so go get a few notches on your bedpost. You will regret it down the road if you and this girl are your one and only's.

 

Good luck bud and I wish I were 19 in this day and age. Girls just didnt' look like they do now.