i am just wondering

[ww]

you guys I was wondering about this:

since I told my ex MM to jerk off in a very rude way and called him stuff ( really ugly stuff) in attempt to make him hate me or ignore me or whatever. And he actually jerked off and started to ignore me.

Do you think he was hurt by all that nasty stuff I told him? Bc if they really get hurt they have feelings. Which makes the theory about SELFISHNESS AND FEELING-LESS not quiet correct.

What do you think?

[Mr Spock]

Of course people have feelings. But it doesn't change the situation. So don't worry about hurting his feelings, worry about protecting yours.

[ww]

no I am not worried about his feelings. Is not that i want hurt him or not hurt him .I don`t really care about what he feels or thinks anymore.

I was just wondering about it.

You know...just a thought.

But thank you anyway . And thank you for support on my previous tread

And yes I am starting to live again..and the spring is here! Life is so great

[Mr Spock]

To answer your question a little more thoroughly-no, having his feelings hurt does not make him any less selfish or feelingless. After all, he's still only concerned with HIS feelings, not yours.

[ww]

ok. but i am concerning about my feelings too and not his. And that is the only right thing to do for now.

My question is . By telling all that nasty things have I offended him , hurt his feelings so he does not want to see me or hear about me. Or does it leaves him indifferent?

Has any of you been there? Any opinions?

[liswil]

It's hard to say. They're not all alike you know--just like anyone else. Some will feel bad about it--because it ruins their image they have of themselves. Some will think "see, she's a b!tch anyway, so glad it's over". Some will feel guilty. Some will think "Gee, I hope she isn't pissed off enough to contact my wife."

 

But you'll notice that all of the above have to do with THEM.

[ww]

hmmmm...interesting