condor Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 Hello... Well i am interesting in a girl I know...we have gone out a couple of times alone etc....have a lot of fun and quite a bit of flirting. The problem is that when we are with a friend of hers (girl) she almost completely ignores me. Could this be a form of shyness, i.e. does not know how to handle me with her friends or just playing with me? She hasnt had a relationship before and is conversative in her thinking... some comments would be interesting thanks c Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 She might just be embaressed or something. Not embaressed because you are not attractive or something, but she probably dosnt know how to deal with you when her friends are around. I can understand that. Just let her get use to the idea of having a boyfriend a bit more. Even talk to her a bit about it maybe. Its tough when someone finally likes you. Especially if you thought that there was something wrong with you, and thats why no one did(uh....im over anylizing arnt i) See first comment .....go from there. Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 My bf had a very bad habit that I quickly addressed to him and he never really even realized he did that... We would be with his new buddies from University and he wouldn't introduce me to them...How am I suppose to interact with these people if I don't get a name or anything...So what I did whether he got mad or not...I let him say hi to someone and when he didn't introduce me I would put my hand out and say "yeah and I'm NOBODY!!" Of course he looked at me and I told him straight up...You have a very bad habit of not introducing me to your friends you need to stop and take the time so they know who I am and my name too... I gotta say my bf has never, ever since I've told him, missed to introduce me to his friends...and when he does I am able to interact with them.. If something is bothering you about the way she acts with her friends tell her...She's not a mind reader!! Another thing if she ignores you, be persuasive in trying to get into the conversation...if she doesn't include you, include yourself and if not...Don't try to hard she might not take you seriously anyway Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 LOL now thats funny. Link to post Share on other sites
Author condor Posted March 9, 2005 Author Share Posted March 9, 2005 Well, she hasnt officially said we are in a relationship. When i ask her out, i do say alone, and she says I know, but doesnt see her friends alot (work commitments). This "thing" started off as a LJBF situation,to where she doesnt regard me as a friend and the flirting is tremendous. will see c Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 Ah you are stuck in the just friends roll. I'd say go to my link but the feds removed it Link to post Share on other sites
Author condor Posted April 21, 2005 Author Share Posted April 21, 2005 the continuation.... well i finally managed to get her down and tell her pretty much everything. She spilled her guts out as well;-) Basically she got hurt, in that she had a previous "relationship" whereby the guy was pushing her in directions which she didnt know where right or wrong and was and is afraid. Well i asked her, outside from these fears [which i am sure we all have], would you like a relationship with me. And she in a very silent voice [i had to move in to hear] she answered i havent thought of that. Well then i tell her, it is time you thought of that and give me an answer. We are both going away for a while on holiday, and she'll do some soul-searching and answering. Then we can both work through those fears, if the answer is positive. She also said previous to our mutual agreement, that i should take her out of my mind, I said if you havent thought of us in a relationship, its pretty pointless. She agreed to my proposition to go away and actually think what i told her, and not just bring up the defense barrier each time... to be continued... c Link to post Share on other sites
Author condor Posted May 22, 2005 Author Share Posted May 22, 2005 the continuation is in the <breakup> section:( Link to post Share on other sites
Author condor Posted May 22, 2005 Author Share Posted May 22, 2005 the continuation is in the <breakup> section:( Link to post Share on other sites
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