Gloria25 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 Just curious, When you run into someone you're attracted to, how self-conscious are you? Do you freak and start wondering if you looked ok and stuff? I, lately, am finding myself wondering if my hair was ok, what I was wearing, whether or not I was smiling cute enough and/or playing cool when I've ran into someone I'm attracted to and it is nerve wrecking!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 The only time I check myself is if I think I am in danger of wrecking myself. That isn't to say I don't get self-conscious when interacting with really attractive women, but I don't ponder what I did/didn't do after the fact. The past has passed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 Other than making sure my fly isn't open....none really.... When my buddies and I would go out to clubs when were young and stupid, we used do a quicky 15-20 minute intense weight workout in my basement so we were all pumped up for the little chickies...Craziest part is it usually worked!!.....:laugh: TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted October 4, 2014 Share Posted October 4, 2014 Nah. The only thing I check every once in a while is that my necklace is laying on the right side. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted October 4, 2014 Share Posted October 4, 2014 Just curious, When you run into someone you're attracted to, how self-conscious are you? Do you freak and start wondering if you looked ok and stuff? I, lately, am finding myself wondering if my hair was ok, what I was wearing, whether or not I was smiling cute enough and/or playing cool when I've ran into someone I'm attracted to and it is nerve wrecking!!! 1. No because I'm not that self-conscious. 2. I'm more concerned with making eye contact and REMEMBERING TO SMILE! I always forget to do that. 3. I'm a confident person so I don't get nervous around people. When I was a professional musician I ran into famous people all the time. Being in front of crowds has knocked the nervousness away. 4. People are the same, put their pants on the same way as you. Don't let them get you nervous! They're probably nervous too! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted October 4, 2014 Share Posted October 4, 2014 Other than making sure my fly isn't open....none really.... My hand goes to my fly too. Which I suppose could send a bizarre signal, but I have been forgetful. Other than that, maybe a quick run across my teeth with my tongue. OP--This sounds like a thought pattern in need of immediate breaking. Sometimes, we can create counterproductive habits that quickly entrench themselves. The habitual actions give rise to the thoughts and feed any underlying anxiety. Before you know it, rather than being specific to attractive people, you're self-conscious around most people. Is there someone specific who brings out this self-consciousness? Someone you have your eye on? Or does it happen with anyone attractive? Link to post Share on other sites
tpham18nm Posted October 4, 2014 Share Posted October 4, 2014 Just curious, When you run into someone you're attracted to, how self-conscious are you? Do you freak and start wondering if you looked ok and stuff? I, lately, am finding myself wondering if my hair was ok, what I was wearing, whether or not I was smiling cute enough and/or playing cool when I've ran into someone I'm attracted to and it is nerve wrecking!!! I'm a guy. I never check myself... My hair is always messy or combed to the side when I have to look "professional". I don't check my fly or anything. I only check my self at night to see if I broke out. That's my biggest concern. I think women can tell if your overly cautious about the way you look. Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted October 4, 2014 Share Posted October 4, 2014 Can't say i do - might be a guy thing! What's to check really? My hairs kind of meant to be a bit messy, and if i was happy with what i was wearing when i got dressed in the morning then i should still be happy with it. I do tend to mess with my hair when im nervous but I don't get nervous about meeting people or things like that. I think maybe a bit like CaliGuy i've spent a lot of time in front of crowds playing various sports - scoring a stoppage tie winner in a football match can give you a massive ego boost, but nothing teaches you self confidence like getting the utter **** beat out of you in a boxing ring in front of a strangers and friends alike and having to get back of the ground and hold your head up. They say you have to meet your problems and fears head on, lifes to short to spend time dwelling, maybe just try putting yourself in that situation more and more, till it isnt an issue anymore 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted October 4, 2014 Share Posted October 4, 2014 You do that all together then? Other than making sure my fly isn't open....none really.... When my buddies and I would go out to clubs when were young and stupid, we used do a quicky 15-20 minute intense weight workout in my basement so we were all pumped up for the little chickies...Craziest part is it usually worked!!.....:laugh: TFY Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted October 4, 2014 Share Posted October 4, 2014 Yep but Shepp your sexy as ..... Can't say i do - might be a guy thing! What's to check really? My hairs kind of meant to be a bit messy, and if i was happy with what i was wearing when i got dressed in the morning then i should still be happy with it. I do tend to mess with my hair when im nervous but I don't get nervous about meeting people or things like that. I think maybe a bit like CaliGuy i've spent a lot of time in front of crowds playing various sports - scoring a stoppage tie winner in a football match can give you a massive ego boost, but nothing teaches you self confidence like getting the utter **** beat out of you in a boxing ring in front of a strangers and friends alike and having to get back of the ground and hold your head up. They say you have to meet your problems and fears head on, lifes to short to spend time dwelling, maybe just try putting yourself in that situation more and more, till it isnt an issue anymore 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Giggle Posted October 4, 2014 Share Posted October 4, 2014 Other than making sure my fly isn't open....none really.... When my buddies and I would go out to clubs when were young and stupid, we used do a quicky 15-20 minute intense weight workout in my basement so we were all pumped up for the little chickies...Craziest part is it usually worked!!.....:laugh: TFY Mmmmmm pheromones Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Yep but Shepp your sexy as ..... Feeling the love Haydn! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 The only time I check myself is if I think I am in danger of wrecking myself. I was rapping to myself in my head the instant I saw the thread title. OP, yeah, I often overanalyze myself and wonder what I could have done differently when it comes to being in public. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Not to the point that it's nerve-racking. I think as I've gotten older I've gained more confidence so I may briefly wonder something like hope I didn't have food in my teeth but I don't think about it nearly as much as I probably would have when I was a teenager. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 The only time I check myself is if I think I am in danger of wrecking myself. That isn't to say I don't get self-conscious when interacting with really attractive women, but I don't ponder what I did/didn't do after the fact. The past has passed. :laugh: But yea, I think when you're a melodramatic teenager everything is such a big crisis like if your crush sees you with a hair out of place your life is over and so on, but as an adult personally, while yes I of course care to look presentable, esp if I like someone, if a hair happens to be out of place or even if I look crazy, I don't see it as that big of a deal anymore. It's like...you like me or you don't...and if you stop liking me because one day my hair is a mess, then suffice it to say your like wasn't worth much. So I just don't bother about that as much anymore. I'm not gonna sit around analyzing our interactions and what I said or did or how I might have looked. I'm a human, so is he, he may look off one day too, or say something silly too. That's part of being a real person. In my own experience I've never liked a man solely on his clothes or hair so if one day he looked raggedy, it's whatever, so I assume for a man who isn't completely shallow or juvenile it's the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Not to the point that it's nerve-racking. I think as I've gotten older I've gained more confidence so I may briefly wonder something like hope I didn't have food in my teeth but I don't think about it nearly as much as I probably would have when I was a teenager. Yeah, this I think is the more common thing, being concerned that something totally silly has happened. Food in teeth, zipper down. My cousin has put her dress on inside out, or tucked her skirt into her panties. Luckily she's a funny lady and can laugh at herself. Sometimes when I go to the bathroom and see the mirror, I'll have a random piece of hair that's sticking straight up and I'm like "oh boy. Now that's sexy." Once my bra was doing something weird and made these crinkles on my boob. My coworker pointed it out rather awkwardly. "Umm. Your boob is wrinkly." *facepalm* Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Other than making sure my fly isn't open....none really.... When my buddies and I would go out to clubs when were young and stupid, we used do a quicky 15-20 minute intense weight workout in my basement so we were all pumped up for the little chickies...Craziest part is it usually worked!!.....:laugh: TFY Whahahaha, so familiar. Both the fly thing (happens too often to my liking) and the quick 'workout' which mainly consisted of doing a quick few sets of pullups. Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 At uni I once walked on campus with toilet paper coming out of my jeans without my knowing. It only happened once and I am not sure how I managed that (beer probably). Anyway, I still have a little phobia about that too. Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Not that I recall, but I tend to get attention when I am least ready for it...that can leave me a bit flustered for a moment if I'm really surprised, I get a bit "bashful" when those certain situations occur, especially with compliments..I've just always been that way. And then I wish I was a little more "prepared" but that's how it always works for me, always not really paying attention or expecting anything at the moment. I wonder if I could have handled it better...but that's also the perfectionist in me. Otherwise I'm confident, assertive when need be, social...not really feeling self conscious about much unless I'm wearing no pants because I forgot them at home that day and can be witty or flirtatious at will, or even just really polite. I will find some excuse for a remark at the least, if I can get her to laugh it's an easy ice-breaker. If she's on the level of "OMG where have you been all my life!" as I'm not immune to feeling smitten, then my other cheese romantic flirt dork side that's super obvious I'm into her takes over and I'm gushing inside and doing my best to hide my deformed smitten facial expression that looks like the that face little babies make when they're squeezing out a dookie crapping their diapers, that would give me away as obviously tantalized. Once I recover from that initial stage then I'm fine, and if it's someone I really am taken by then I can't stop thinking about her...and then that's a whole other chain of events but I've already said too much! Link to post Share on other sites
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