Author GoldenAxe Posted June 12, 2016 Author Share Posted June 12, 2016 Chin up love. It'll get better. Cuckoo Tankz doll Link to post Share on other sites
Patrice Posted June 15, 2016 Share Posted June 15, 2016 Keep going, remain NC - I know it sucks, but when there is no resolution, or any compromise and empty promises? Every day will get easier, as the fog lifts. As the fog lifts, expect a range of emotions - anger, fear, loneliness - these will pass as you heal and start opening your life and heart to healthier people. Big hugs! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rumblefish12 Posted June 16, 2016 Share Posted June 16, 2016 I've found this thread particularly helpful. It doesn't help me to pretend that I don't have feelings even when those feelings make me feel terribly guilty. Even when I know that my feelings are selfish, founded on ego at least if not outright narcissism, and even if those feelings are just a biochemical withdrawal like any addiction. I know how it feels and it feels like a kick in the balls. It feels like a profound loss. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted June 24, 2016 Author Share Posted June 24, 2016 Man what a difference a month makes 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted June 26, 2016 Author Share Posted June 26, 2016 So I've met a new girl, and reconnected with another that I met on a dating site 5 years ago. I feel great, I got my mojo back. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Lovetoohard Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 So I've met a new girl, and reconnected with another that I met on a dating site 5 years ago. I feel great, I got my mojo back. It's so good to hear you're doing great! Isn't it nice to date people without the limitations and the drama that goes along with someone married and unavailable? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted June 28, 2016 Author Share Posted June 28, 2016 Yes it is different but way better I must admit. Wish I could say I'm 100 percent over it, but it's close, like 99. I can now at least see that there is life past this whole mess. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted July 6, 2016 Author Share Posted July 6, 2016 The curse has been broken. Literally 2 years Exactly from when her and I thought "let's do this for real" and the mess began. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
jenkins95 Posted July 6, 2016 Share Posted July 6, 2016 The curse has been broken. Literally 2 years Exactly from when her and I thought "let's do this for real" and the mess began. Well done Axe! You've been through hell but you've come out the other side. You're an inspiration and you deserve the happiness that is now coming your way. These are the kind of posts we like to read most here! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted July 10, 2016 Author Share Posted July 10, 2016 I read one of those inspirational quote pictures today that said "Best feeling ever is finally losing your attachment to someone that isn't good for you" i agree whole heartedly. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted August 2, 2016 Author Share Posted August 2, 2016 Update: I've met someone that has blown me away, I am super enamored. She lives 6 hrs away, but we are trying the LDR thing. I went to see her this past weekend. I am over the moon. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted August 2, 2016 Share Posted August 2, 2016 Update: I've met someone that has blown me away, I am super enamored. She lives 6 hrs away, but we are trying the LDR thing. I went to see her this past weekend. I am over the moon. Good for you, hope it works out:laugh: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted August 2, 2016 Author Share Posted August 2, 2016 Thanks DK! I never thought two years ago that id ever find something that just makes me have a Kool-Aid smile. This is more of a statement to others that there are others far better for you than what you're dealing with now. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
lilacwine Posted August 3, 2016 Share Posted August 3, 2016 Update: I've met someone that has blown me away, I am super enamored. She lives 6 hrs away, but we are trying the LDR thing. I went to see her this past weekend. I am over the moon. Wow. I'm so happy for you. How long have you gone NC with your ex-AP?? This is great great news. Enjoy your new lady!!! :D 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted August 3, 2016 Author Share Posted August 3, 2016 The last ex affair girl and I spoke was two days after thanksgiving 2015. Also thank you! I'm taking it slow, trying to let things grow organically. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted August 6, 2016 Author Share Posted August 6, 2016 Update, things fell through, and that's ok. Yes I am disappointed, but I'm a new person now. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
lilacwine Posted August 7, 2016 Share Posted August 7, 2016 Update, things fell through, and that's ok. Yes I am disappointed, but I'm a new person now. Yeah. As long as you're not sucked back in the affair or spend time pining after her, you're the hero!!! Keep up the good work. The right one will come along sooner or later. Good luck!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted August 7, 2016 Author Share Posted August 7, 2016 (edited) Yeah. As long as you're not sucked back in the affair or spend time pining after her, you're the hero!!! Keep up the good work. The right one will come along sooner or later. Good luck!!! Thank you nah I'm waaaaaaay good, the two girls I've been with intimately since the MW have shown me that there are way cooler girls out there than some insecure jealous girl. Edited August 7, 2016 by GoldenAxe 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted August 14, 2016 Author Share Posted August 14, 2016 Meeting ladies left and right. My confidence is through the friggin roof. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted August 14, 2016 Share Posted August 14, 2016 Meeting ladies left and right. My confidence is through the friggin roof. Just think about all the opportunities you missed to meet amazing women while involved with the vampire, sucking the joy out of life....good luck bro Link to post Share on other sites
Cloudcuckoo Posted August 14, 2016 Share Posted August 14, 2016 Meeting ladies left and right. My confidence is through the friggin roof. Bravo! Lots of luck to you! Cuckoo Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted August 14, 2016 Author Share Posted August 14, 2016 Just think about all the opportunities you missed to meet amazing women while involved with the vampire, sucking the joy out of life....good luck bro God I knowwwwww. I'm making up for lost time now. Thanks dude! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted January 24, 2017 Author Share Posted January 24, 2017 I've turned around and started seeing a different unavailable woman, and starting to catch feelings. I'm starting to think it's me. Link to post Share on other sites
Bittersweetie Posted January 24, 2017 Share Posted January 24, 2017 I've turned around and started seeing a different unavailable woman, and starting to catch feelings. I'm starting to think it's me. As yourself, why? Have you tried counseling? Are you addicted to drama? You said your self-esteem was sky high, but was it really, underneath the veneer? After everything you've been through, why would you even start seeing an unavailable woman, much less start to have feelings for her? Honestly, I'd recommend a counselor. A third party may help you see patterns that you keep repeating and how to break them. GL. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenAxe Posted January 24, 2017 Author Share Posted January 24, 2017 Yeah I'm definitely seeking professional help and also walking away before this gets messy. I'm the kid that keeps touching the hot stove. Link to post Share on other sites
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