telling family about your seperation

[girlunsure]

my 'husband' has moved out and I'm now on my own with 3 kids which is pretty **** buts what's worse is he keeps not turning up to see our kids when he should and the kids are picking up on this already (only been a few days)

 

I'm glad we're finished but I have to tell my children soon and also my parents.

 

my children will be fine, they have me and I will do everything to make them happy but I really don't want to deal with the disappointment from my parents when I tell them

 

they live 50+ miles away and in worried they'll try and make me move back to my home town or put pressure on me to get back with him

 

Is it normal that I feel this worried about telling my parents? I'm 30 years old and can take care if myself I don't know why I'm getting more worried over telling them then I am my own children

[No Limit]

Sounds like you got it all handled. Tell your parents and should they really try to talk you into moving closer to home, calm them down and tell them the same that you wrote here - that you will do anything to keep your kids happy and that you'll be fine.

 

I think they'll be more supportive than you might think. Why would they be disappointed anyhow? It's your 'husband' that's abandoned the family, not you.

[Minnie09]

I felt the same way about teling my fam.

In my case it was mostly the fear of making them worry about me.

Or to make them think that I made a bad choice by either marrying the wrong guy, or by not trying harder to stay married. I am worried enough without anybody else worrying. I don't need this. That was my main issue, but I just confronted them with the facts. Boom. I did it. I am fine. Thanks for listening. I didn't ask them for support / help, because that way I could keep them "quiet" about the whole thing. Had I asked them for anything (even just watching my son), they would have felt that they have a right to give their opinion. I love them dearly, but I make my own decisions, I am old enough, they raised me well, so they should just trust me when I say I made a decision for a reason and that's that. And I really don'want to talk about it. Done.