edgygirl Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 I finally saw with my own eyes/ears that my sister seem to indeed be Borderline. She's been estranged from us on and off in the past years. She lives in a different country than us, in fact our original family of 6 is spread throughout 4 countries now. She stopped taking medication as she thinks the meds make her really weird. She now needs our help moving apartments, as her lease is ending. She has no family/friends support system in the country she lives. We have offered to help with anything she needs, including money. She is absolutely paranoid though thinking we have had this multinational plot to control her life, including "paying her ex" to be with her and such absurdities. She's been very verbally abusive with me and my other sister although we are extending a hand to help with whatever she needs. I don't know how to deal with this anymore. Anyone has some insight on dealing with family who is borderline and has paranoia? Specially for afar? I can't live my life and go save her, but I don't know what to do anymore. I hope the right people happen to see this post... Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 I finally saw with my own eyes/ears that my sister seem to indeed be Borderline. She's been estranged from us on and off in the past years. She lives in a different country than us, in fact our original family of 6 is spread throughout 4 countries now. She stopped taking medication as she thinks the meds make her really weird. She now needs our help moving apartments, as her lease is ending. She has no family/friends support system in the country she lives. We have offered to help with anything she needs, including money. She is absolutely paranoid though thinking we have had this multinational plot to control her life, including "paying her ex" to be with her and such absurdities. She's been very verbally abusive with me and my other sister although we are extending a hand to help with whatever she needs. I don't know how to deal with this anymore. Anyone has some insight on dealing with family who is borderline and has paranoia? Specially for afar? I can't live my life and go save her, but I don't know what to do anymore. I hope the right people happen to see this post... Thanks! To be honest, I was diagnosed BPD when I was younger. This doesnt sound like BPD. Especially the meds and paranoid delusions. Could it be some other disorder? Link to post Share on other sites
Author edgygirl Posted October 5, 2014 Author Share Posted October 5, 2014 thank you deamingoftigers. How does it feel like? I don't know about her... that's what the psychiatrists told our 2nd sister when she was visiting in the country of the 1st (diagnosed) sister. I'd say she has all these, described in psychcentral: -- The main feature of borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a pervasive pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image and emotions. People with borderline personality disorder are also usually very impulsive. (...) A person with this disorder will also often exhibit impulsive behaviors and have a majority of the following symptoms: Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonmentA pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluationIdentity disturbance, such as a significant and persistent unstable self-image or sense of selfImpulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating)Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behaviorEmotional instability due to significant reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)Chronic feelings of emptinessInappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)Transient, stress-related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms To be honest, I was diagnosed BPD when I was younger. This doesnt sound like BPD. Especially the meds and paranoid delusions. Could it be some other disorder? Link to post Share on other sites
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