My ex doesn't want me to move on (he broke up)! What the hell does he want? !

[neverenough]

I told my story here on LoveShack a month ago and I'm doing fine. I think every day about him but my feelings changed a lot. I did not hear a freaking word from him for two months. I am so pissed! When I begged and tried I was the one who had to make all effort and contact him. Of course I realized that this won't help me and I went NC. So .. it's been more then two months now and I didn't hear anything from him... like nothing. I am doing all I can do to get over him and start a new life... and then this day comes when it doesn't hurt that much as it did AND POOF! he contacts my best friend.

"Hey.. are you seeing Nevernough? how is she?". What the hell does he want? Can someone give me an answer, please! Why do people do that?

No, I don't think it's okay to appear just like that again after treating me like a piece of s*it. My friend did'nt answer him yet.. she thinks that it would be a good idea to tell him how good I'm doing now.. but srsly... I know him very good and it will not sound like how she wants it to sound.

She says that he knew that she would tell me and that he wants to feel better after all.. but I don't want to give him that comfort.

 

WHAT DO YOU THINK? YOUR EXPERIENCES?

 

... and Iäm feeling low again.

[Haerts]

Well, it could be possible that he wants to get in touch with you again, but is afraid of doing so. It could also be that he's worried about you and wants to know how you're doing.

 

If he asked, it's because he cares. That's for sure. Now you don't know whether it's about him only wanting to know how's it going for you out of worry or if he would like to try again.

 

However, if you know it won't be good for you, just get out of that, tell your friend to reply him with "she's doing great" and cut the conversations. Perhaps if you would like to try again, you could tell your friend to answer him with like "why don't you ask her?"?

 

It's a fragile situation, but if he was bad to you, just don't get back together, okay?

[neverenough]

The thing is ...that he isn't bad for me but it didn't work out and he wasn't giving his best into the relationship. This is something I'm not able to forgive him, but I truly love him. I did all the moving on... and I'm doing great with friends and university and myself, but I still think about him every day and it's making me crazy. So ... I kind of want a second chance for us, but not now... he has done too much to prove that he isn't ready for anything like settling for one person only. It hurts a lot and it's making me sad, because I know he is a good person and he deserves the best ..

[LuckyLady13]

He got insecure when you disappeared. In his mind, you were on the back burner as a plan B if plan A failed.

 

Run, run, run in the opposite direction of him and make it true that you are doing really good so your friend can turn around and tell him that honestly.

 

He broke up with you? It's none of his business how you're doing. He's checking up to see where his plan B went.

 

Be someones plan A. Find someone who is as interested in being with you as you are with them.

 

Take care of you!