gaius Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 I always had a fantasy of coaxing my teacher into sex so I'd jokingly call a couple of my ex's Ms. Theirlastname occasionally. If he just wants it to be a dominance thing he could have you call him a 100 other things besides daddy. Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 Im one of those people maybe I can explain. I am a type to do roleplay and I would need proof or clear indication of disturbance to link it to actual reasoning before id find it creepy or upsetting. Until that's given I see it as something harmless with no meaning or motive other than spicing things up. ...Apart from the fact you already think he's a douche..... Link to post Share on other sites
tpham18nm Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 When you put it in context like that it just sounds strange.. Doesn't sound sexual or cute at all You sure he's perfectly sane? Lol seems like a fetish. But all the time? That's just weird. Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 If a woman asked me to call her mommy she'd be gone in the blink of an eye. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 It's a Kink. You're either good with it or you're not. ...soooo which is it?* Link to post Share on other sites
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted October 5, 2014 Author Share Posted October 5, 2014 Um I don't think he's creepy or has issues. He only talks about it when we're sexual. All of these grown Ppl with such negative, childish, close minded answers. Everyone is different. I found nothing wrong with him wanting me to call him that I just wanted to know WHY. I figuredit may be because of the ahe difference & NO HE DOES NOT! Take care of me finacially or in anyway. I work for my own way in life. Why say such mean things to and about someone you don't even know. Smh. IM not the judge of anyone. God is, so don't be quick to judge please people. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 Like I wrote, it's a Kink. If you're cool with it then great. It doesn't sound like it's causing anyone harm so fine then. OP everyone has an opinion and that's alright too take what answers your question directly and leave what you don't need. Things may change later. You can always come back to the thread and reread 3 Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 IM not the judge of anyone. God is, so don't be quick to judge please people. Thanks! My money is on God judging him as creepy too, just like 99.999% of the population. But hey, if you like a guy that wants you to call him "daddy" have at it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 I agree it's a fetish type thing and yes fetishes usually start in childhood. I have read about a concerned mother that had a 9 year old son who was fascinated with dish gloves, and were using them as part of his new found masturbation toy. Rubber or the smell of rubber is a fetish. So ya role playing, submissive/aggressive, etc. It all happens behind closed doors. It's not for everyone obviously, it depends on your comfort zone. Me I would drop him like a hot potato if my BF wanted me to call him daddy....eewwww comes to mind! Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 My money is on God judging him as creepy too, just like 99.999% of the population. But hey, if you like a guy that wants you to call him "daddy" have at it. Slap me silly! Gosh that is a funny line! OP-Be mindful that as humans we are geared to have instincts . And having a good sense of people is one of them. yes I think the Daddy thing is creepy...and that is my take. Yours is different...so it goes. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 My money is on God judging him as creepy too, just like 99.999% of the population. But hey, if you like a guy that wants you to call him "daddy" have at it. Why did you even feel the need to write that. Link to post Share on other sites
LoneIsland Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 OP-Be mindful that as humans we are geared to have instincts Didn't you just say in another thread you'd think with the brain. Why should instincts come in to play ? Link to post Share on other sites
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 He only talks about it when we're sexual. From the info you've given, it seems your relationship with him is based almost entirely on sex, so then yea, I guess it fits. Except...you said that he wants your morning texts to say, "Good morning, Daddy". You asked for opinions, and people are just giving you their thoughts based on instinct and limited information provided. No need to get offensive about honest opinions. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
isisisweeping Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 It is a dominance/submissive thing. I have my lady call me "sir" in the bedroom. Especially when I take control and she submits to it. It's a real big turn on for both of us. SHe loves being submissive, and I fortunate love to dominate. I'm more comfortable with sir or master than the whole daddy thing, myself, but it certainly doesn't mean he is a pedophile or thinks of that as an actual parent relationship. It's kind of just another avenue of that. You can decide whether it's something you are comfortable with or not, and then express it to him. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 I know a good read that relates to this, Nancy Friday's Men in Love. Very candid look at men's sexual fantasies, fetishes, and the psychological explanation behind them. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 Um I don't think he's creepy or has issues. He only talks about it when we're sexual. All of these grown Ppl with such negative, childish, close minded answers. Everyone is different. I found nothing wrong with him wanting me to call him that I just wanted to know WHY. I figuredit may be because of the ahe difference & NO HE DOES NOT! Take care of me finacially or in anyway. I work for my own way in life. Why say such mean things to and about someone you don't even know. Smh. IM not the judge of anyone. God is, so don't be quick to judge please people. Thanks! i am sorry that no one here knows why but if you post a polarized topic you get polarized responses.......i feel you should ask him why he likes it because honestly..... he is the only one that knows...... my ex used to call me his little girl......i am not little....i would call him little boy........it wasnt sexual at all.......it was purely a playful exchange where the phone call or responses would then be playful and innocent from him to me.......and i would respond and let my inner child free..i trusted him.....and i felt safe and secure to allow that talk.....as it wasnt sexually motivated at all it was playful..... innocent.........but then i am a multiple....at the time i didnt correlate the change.......and i dont think he knew either......i know now though i did change.... whatever you feel comfortable with........allow....if you dont feel comfortable question the reason why he wants you to call him daddy and tell him how you feel...instead fo askign random people on the internet...no one on here knows the reason or can look inside his head...we merely guess........ people might think that it is creepy that would be their opinions that they are allowed to have....best wishes ...deb. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 I know a good read that relates to this, Nancy Friday's Men in Love. Very candid look at men's sexual fantasies, fetishes, and the psychological explanation behind them. Why does there have to be a psychological explanation I hope someplace in that book it states "Or they just like it for no apparent reason enjoy" that would make the perfect closing line lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 (edited) Didn't you just say in another thread you'd think with the brain. Why should instincts come in to play ? yes I did, where do you think awareness and instincts come from? If I instinctualy know that someone is a threat, then I make an "informed" (aware) decision how to behave....Unsure where you are going with this, yet I can only fathom its in a galaxy far away Edited October 5, 2014 by Tayla Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 Why does there have to be a psychological explanation I hope someplace in that book it states "Or they just like it for no apparent reason enjoy" that would make the perfect closing line lol Oh only if life were that simple. Link to post Share on other sites
LoneIsland Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 yes I did, where do you think awareness and instincts come from? If I instinctualy know that someone is a threat, then I make an "informed" (aware) decision how to behave....Unsure where you are going with this, yet I can only fathom its in a galaxy far away Ok, so you are just thinking with the girl appendages. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 yes I did, where do you think awareness and instincts come from? If I instinctualy know that someone is a threat, then I make an "informed" (aware) decision how to behave....Unsure where you are going with this, yet I can only fathom its in a galaxy far away Most of our instinctive behavior is learned behavior, mostly by watching how our mother reacts, and or your expeience...that stove is hot, you don't know unless you touch it. You get burned, you learn the danger. You don't do it again. Link to post Share on other sites
michellew Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/496405-he-just-using-me-sex-he-has-me-so Which is more concerning to you -- the fact that you're someone he uses for sex or that he wants you to call him daddy? I agree. I think she would be concerned about him using her for sex IF she could see it. Unfortunately she's blinded by his actions and doesn't realize he's using her. OP, you really need to read everything you've posted about this d-bag and see him for what he really is. No one is trying to be mean either, we are just giving you an outsider's perspective. Everything you have said about him points to you just being a sex object in his eyes. Texting you good morning everyday means nothing. Actions speak louder than words. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lillyz Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Well, no doubt it's a fetish of his. That is pretty obvious. Personally, it would creep me out. I would personally never date anyone, or sleep with anyone, who had that particular fetish, as it would make me uncomfortable; but I am also not wanting to judge. If it is purely a sexual relationship, and you do feel respected, do what feels right. Feeling desired is far different from feeling respected. One is not contingent upon the other. I will say, that if it makes you uncomfortable, bring it up to him - how he responds will say loads about his character. Link to post Share on other sites
Assasda Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Believe it or not. The Daddy fetish thing is more of a female fantasy than anything. - So some of the ladies here can get off their high-horse Its roll playing anyway... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Believe it or not. The Daddy fetish thing is more of a female fantasy than anything. - So some of the ladies here can get off their high-horse Its roll playing anyway... While I agree that in many cases, it's more of a female fantasy, the reason many ladies here are recommending caution is because it's patently not a female thing here. In addition to which, looking at the OP's other thread, there seems to be some uncertainty on her part regarding his intentions, on a sexual level. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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