guitar22 Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 I met this girl two years ago at this job I had over the summer. We hit it off well and had a great time for a couple months. She went back to school and things kind of died off. I saw her a couple times after that and we still acted close. Fast foward over a year since I saw her and we started hanging out again. We instantly became close as if we had only been away from each other for a couple days, not over a year that it was. We had a good thing going for a couple of months again. I was very close to asking her to be my girlfriend but before I could she started acting distant. We talked and I found out she was not over her ex boyfriend and had even been seeing him a few times in the time span that we were hanging out. I did not see this coming since the way she acted around me seemed like she was completely into me. They broke up over 6 months ago. I told her I couldnt be with her if she would also be hanging out with him. I haven't contacted her for 2 weeks now. I feel as if all hope is lost and that she doesn't care that i am gone. I like her alot and want to be her. Any suggestions. Do I just wait it out and get on with my life? Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 Well, unless she promised to cut contact with him, and vowed to be with you alone, I'd walk away from this. It sounds as if she wasn't ready to give him up, and that means she was prepared to let you go.. Unless she's begged you for another chance and assured you it is now definitely over with her ex, it means you've been confirmed as the option rather than the priority... Which I think sadly, answers your question. Get on with your life. Link to post Share on other sites
writergal Posted October 5, 2014 Share Posted October 5, 2014 Yes I think you were her rebound. She doesn't sound like she's over her ex-boyfriend either. I have to agree with evanescent. You're just a convenient option for her bruised ego right now. That's why she likes to hang out with you without making any kind of commitment to you emotionally. It boosts her ego. I'd walk away. You're ready to be in a relationship. She's not. Best for you to get back out there and date around until you find a woman who is ready like you are. Link to post Share on other sites
avocado1 Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Hate to say it, but I did the same thing to someone once. Breakup with my ex was fresh, and he had gotten a new "girlfriend" (aka rebound). I did not want a boyfriend, but I wanted to hangout and go on dates in order to numb the pain and to feel special again. He ended up really liking me, while I had no romantic feelings at all due to my ex. We only hung out a few times, but he pursued me for at least half a year after that. Moral of the story: its best to move on. There are lots of women out there! :)Rebounds are (usually) never with the purest intentions. Link to post Share on other sites
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